Does she love me...?

Question

i love this girl. she is all i've ever wanted. she's beautiful, smart, has a good heart. but the point is she's so interested in money.
she always wants us to go into fancy places, buy expensive things. i wouldn't want to lose her, but sometimes i wonder if she left me if i had no money at all?
i talked to her about this matter and she says that she finds nothing wrong to want the best of life and was very upset cuz i mistrusted her feelings for me.
please, i need a good advice about this matter.

Answer 1

Her love for you is based on material things and when you have no money she will definitely leave you no matter how long you will live with her even after having children with her. At one time before you marry her, try to pretend as though things are not well at work and you have less income and get to see how she will behave when you stop spending much on her, then you can take it up from there. You will only be happy to have someone who love you for what you are not what you have.

Answer 2

She may be a bit immature. Love is not money, but if she wants the good things out of life (the very best) that is okay. If it comes to love and affection and good hearts, those are immaterial & you're both lucky to have them. If it comes to money, it would be a good thing if you consider your options together. If she wants all these expensive things, she should work for them and earn them. Ask her if she knows how much a relationship costs, a marriage, children. Get her involved in some financial planning, which is obviously what you need to do.

Answer 3

if you've got the money, most girls will expect to be treated to the finer side of life, but if she has a good heart I wouldn't worry too much. She sounds like a nice girl, so why don't you suggest maybe treating yourselves a couple of times a month and the money you save could go towards a holiday or something special. If she loves you she will understand. Explain to her that money isnt everything. Life is about buying expensive clothes or gadgets, its about spending time with the ones you love. At least thats the way it should be!

Answer 4

I'm afraid you've found the single fault (from what i know) that dogs every relationship or union..

Money is the root of so much problems.. And your girl quite obviously likes it too much..

No one is perfect.. if she loves you, she will stay, even after you put your foot down about it..

My brother had a girl like the one you've described.. she gave him everything he wanted, but for a price.. she was basically a live-in Wh*re, to be honest... as long as he handed her a fat wad of money, she would be happy.. He ended it pretty sharply.. realising he was being played for a fool..

A lot, but not all Women have that habit these days, only caring about what they can do or get, other than who they want to be with.. Men, to women like that, are all the same, the only difference being the number of noughts in your account..

I don't want to rubbish this girls reputation as i know nothing.. although you should know yourself whether this woman really cares for you..

Answer 5

Everyone here has given some great advice, but you got to look at how she is making you feel. Everytime you buy something for her does it make you happy or do you feel used and underappreciated. If it's the latter, you need to re-evaluate if she is worth the trouble.

You've spoken (honestly and frankly, I hope) to her about your issue with her behavior, now may be a good time to tighten your wallet and see how the cards fall. Money can kill a relationship and if she can't understand what her behavior is doing to you, move on. She may never learn.

Answer 6

she sounds very materialistic and shallow. Try this stop the money and she how long she stays . There are more things to life and building a relationship then buying nice things and going to expensive places.That dose not measure the quality or importance of a person or relationship. It only shows What is most important to them . Sure it is nice to have nice things but it should not be most important. If you lost all your money tomorrow and could not lavish her.Would she still stay????

Answer 7

If she wants the best then she should work for it herself, there is nothing better than wanting something, working hard and saving your money and then getting the thing you have saved for, it is a great sense of achievement. If she wants to go to the best restaurants etc then she should at least off you some money to help pay for that. She sounds like a gold digger

Answer 8

Its understandable that she wants the best out of life. who wouldn't. But if she cant take your feelings into consideration she doesn't love you. Its all a part of a game to get your money. Take her to a place that is normally not fancy to her and if she act some kind of negative way then you'll know . If she truly loved you she wouldn't care as long as she is with you.

Answer 9

You know she loves you the minute she decides to spend all that money on YOU rather than herself. If she loves you then she would want to go to places that you want to go to even if they are not fancy places. If she loves you then she wants to buy things that you'd want even if they are not expensive at all. If she puts you first then you know she loves you. If she loved you she would feel sad when there's not enough money to buy you things or to take you to places. So my guess is that she doesn't love you.

Answer 10

If she wants to have the best, etc., then ask her to go halves. Explain that you love her and would do anything for her to have the best but you just cant afford it. If she loves you she will understand - if not, youre better off without her. The best things are what money cant buy - your love, respect, touch.