My 2 year old son is very shy to the point that he screams and cries if a stranger says hello. I am considering putting him in daycare one day a week to get him used to spending time with other adults. We went there for an hour today to see what it was like and he loved it. I know that it will probably be different when i'm not there. I am a single mum who is just trying to do the best for her son. Please any advice or past experiences would be appreciated!
2006-06-06 23:45:19 · 12 answers · asked by bec 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He does already spend time with other mums and children because he does swimming, kindy gym and mothers group. But he knows all these people and has done these activities since he was a baby - so they are also comfortable
2006-06-06 23:56:39 · update #1
That sounds like a fantastic idea and you should definately go for it.
Children need to be around other children. They learn how to bond, share and communicate with others and it is a very important part of the growing up process.
He may have times when he has fights or confrontations with other children but this is good for him as it teaches him that he can't get his own way all the time.
It will certainly bring him 'out of his shell' and that must be a good thing.
He may cry his heart out, kick and scream and make you feel like the worst parent in the world when you leave him there, but trust me, once you are out of sight he will calm down and fall into place with the other children.
It breaks your heart sometimes seeing them create such a fuss but it really is the best thing you can do for him........... and of course for yourself because we too need some quality time on our own sometimes.
Good luck, I know how hard it can be being a single parent of 2 boys myself.
2006-06-06 23:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I don't have kids yet, a big part of my day is spent watching after my baby nephew. He does the same thing to. He's not around a whole lot of people, with the exception of his parents, my mom, and myself. He screams when someone unfamiliar talks to him...even when another baby tries to play with him.
He'll be starting daycare part time next week. Personally, I think it'll help a lot. He'll be able to interact with more adults and children. Basically, we're hoping it'll help build his social and communication skills.
Best of luck to you!
-Pegasus
2006-06-06 23:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Erato 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children of this age are cautious of strangers and new situations -just be reassuring and understanding. They will grow out of it.
Daycare is a fab idea, if you can afford it - some places charge alot for a short amount of time.
Your son will learn to be sociable, and more confident in new situations and with new people.
As a single mum, you are doing the right thing by asking advice, alot of the time, go with your gut instinct.
My son was cautious of new situations - he would just sit on my lap / cling to me, He now attends nursery twice a week for 2 hours a time, and he has come out of himself, he's chatty, confident - maybe too confident!!!! (he has just turned 3 and has been at nursery for around 6 months)
2006-06-07 00:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a brilliant idea.
If your son is a only child he will be very clingy toward mum, and it is best now to begin the separation process so he will be able to accept school easier. One of my children hates school and even now prefers to be in mums company. She never did playgroup etc and was always in my company. When she started school it could take 20 minutes to peel her fingers from around my neck. She was a nightmare and can be even now at 14, lol.
You are being a very good and thoughtful mother by thinking ahead of yourself for your child. Keep it up, and yes definately because he will learn to interact and find it easier to fit into school when the time comes.
God Bless You!
2006-06-06 23:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what's right in your own circumstance. If you took him there for an hour to try it out, it shows that you are at least doing your homework and not just dumping your kid off, so you are obviously a good mother.
It can be just as hard on the mother as it can be on the child. That's probably what you are feeling now. How are YOU dealing with the separation?
2006-06-06 23:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by double_nubbins 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start him out a Half-Day per Week, for the 1st couple weeks...Go in with him for these initial half-days, spending time in activities with him, and helping him connect with other toddlers...The point is to make his initial experiences Enjoyable!
Whenever you see him connecting-well with another child...Move out of the picture & let them interact. When he finally senses You're not there, move back in.
He'll get comfortable with the staff, other kids & the overall-situation...if You provide him with initial support...Did that with my Son - A few tears the 1st day or two on his own - Loved it after that!
2006-06-06 23:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by AlbertaGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it is a good way to help with social skills. i run a daycare in my home on weekends and we get a lot of first timers here. don't worry yes they scream when mommy leaves but soon they are having fun learning and playing. the kids are good and love to have to make friends and learn. i think its a great idea and you are a great mom.
2006-06-07 03:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great he doesn't trust strangers!! However, he does have to make his way in the world and I think your idea is a good one....go for it!
2006-06-06 23:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by miatalise12560 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a great idea. You want him to be cautious of strangers not scared to death of them. good luck!
2006-06-06 23:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touch him with love & care,please use sleep him on your shoulders! Give him lot kissess make him happy! He will be ok soon!!
2006-06-06 23:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋