It's ONLY ONE DAY.
2006-06-06 23:22:45 · 11 answers · asked by smurfette 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A marriage is actually special--a wedding is not, and I think it's the people who tear their hair out for over a year who turn it into something negative. It should be as positive an experience as possible, which means simplicity.
I'm not negative about weddings--I'm negative about selfish and superficial people.
2006-06-07 02:48:02 · update #1
Because of the unrealistic (silly? stupid? downright b*tchy?) expectation that this day should "be the happiest day of your life" and "be perfect in every detail". (For those who prattle about that "happiest day" -- consider the dour expectations this suggests about the marriage from its second day on.)
Wrapped in fantasies fostered by bridal magazines, dressmakers, caterers, florists, and others who stand to profit from an orgy of self-indulgence and overspending, people lose sight of this fundamental fact: a wedding reception is basically a large party, and is therefore not perfectible because there are too variables (not to mention too many people who one thought would not accept the invitation).
Someone whose idea of ultimate happiness is a day spent at a big party, even spent being the center of attention at a very marvelous big party, is too immature to get married.
The purpose of a wedding is to create a new family, and not to put cracks and strains in old ones. Many an otherwise lovely bride has turned ugly attempting to create a "dream" occasion and to make everyone else conform with her conception of their roles in it. One's wedding should be a heightened version of one's best social life, not an occasion for people to attempt to play grand and unfamiliar roles in a fantasy play.
Another warning about expecting a perfect day is that this carries a built-in potential for disappointment. (There are adults who go through life expecting other people to make their birthdays perfect for them and if you ever meet one of these, watch out. Nothing will ever be enough for them.)
2006-06-07 01:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 17⤊ 4⤋
I personally tried to keep my wedding small and private. None of my friends or family were happy with that. They are the ones who caused me to make a bigger deal. I even lost friends over it. I think it turns into a big thing because everyone has expectations on what the wedding day SHOULD be. You are right though, the marriage is the important part, not the wedding.
2006-06-07 07:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by jesbarbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I used to think the same thing. Why do people turn into Bridezillas over such a happy occasion?
Then I started planning my own wedding and problems popped up right away. EVERYONE has different opinions and no one has a problem telling you that they don't like what you have chosen or that you should do this a different way. It becomes impossible to please everyone and when you have more than one person helping to pay for the wedding the insanity of making everyone happy is just too overwhelming.
My fiance and I discussed this and decided to pay for it ourselves and make US happy. It is OUR day afterall. If other people aren't happy with our choices, oh well, don't come!
2006-06-07 02:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chris10L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just one day but it's a beautiful day! For our wedding we kept it simple yet classy. We tried not to overboard on anything...we spent the most on the food because we knew if people ate good food, they would be happy no matter what. What I loved is that we planned it the way we wanted and it turned out amazing - it was not really stressful at all! And the day of, I was an image of calm. I couldn't believe it! It just goes to show you there are ways to do things that keep them fun and elegant without going crazy. Good luck!
2006-06-07 03:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's an important day and people want things to go right and the way they have always dreamed about. They just don't want anything over-looked or forgotten or to go wrong. They also get stressed out as marriage is a big commitment and everyone worries as to whether their other half will ditch them at the alter
2006-06-07 00:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 07:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' know. I tried not to do that. I think the biggest problem I had. Was everyone wanted me to do it thier way. So sometimes that got on my nerves. That and they think that everything has to be perfect. But it makes it your wedding when it's not.
2006-06-06 23:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz it is one of the most important day especially for the girls.Your going to walk in the aisle once and make the best out of it.
2006-06-07 00:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by sky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, but it's one of the MOST IMPORTANT days of your lives. You want things to be perfect.
2006-06-07 00:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad that you are so negative about something that is so special.
2006-06-07 02:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Rho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋