My life seems a curse to me.How do I make myself feel worth living?

Question

I had many dreams since my childhood regarding my studies,career,husband family.I was an intelligent till high school but then due to some reasons I couldn't do well in my college and therefore could never become what I dreamt of.My husband too is not what I wished like.I can't work due to some reasons hence is always drepressed doing nothing except household chores.I am 30 now.Life seems like a burden to me.I don't have any friends as we have moved to a new city ,a metro city, where people do not have any time to socialize.I live 800 miles away from parents.We have a very small house.My husband is also struggling in his career.I have a child for whom I feel pity as he has no one to play with.I am most of the time too depressed hence is never able to play with him.I have severe back ache also. Am I worth living.I am of no use to anyone.I feel guilty as I am not a good mother.How to take out this sadness from my life?

Answer 1

sometimes, i feel like i'm not worth it. there comes a point in everybody's life where they will feel like that. but honey, everybody is worth it in their own right. you may feel like this but if you look on the bright side... i know, it may be difficult to be optimistic but it won't hurt to try. if you could change your perspective on how you see things, you might be able elevate yourself from your problems and insecurities. change your outlook on things. try something new. take up a new hobby that can involve your child so he won't have to be lonely. just find something to do that can at least mend that broken smile...

if what i said doesn't help... well, good luck with everything. i do hope you can find happiness. nobody deserves to be sad. i should know... i hate being sad but i am in real life.

Answer 2

Well it seems to me that you don't have such a bad life, you have a child that I assume you love and cherish, a husband, a house, a job, im guesing a car, food, even running water. The list can go on and on. There are countless people in this world that have only the shirts on they're back or less. I'm sure you have heard the saying "Life is what you make of it." this is very true. In that people say that life has no meaning, no purpose, well that in itself is the purpose of our exsistence alone. For us people to enjoy this chance at a simple exsistance free from straight paths and clearly set rules for life. This life we are given by who or whatever may be our only chance at exsisting at all they're maybe no afterlife at all. As horrible that may sound think about this way would you rather live a life on earth meeting people, creating memories, leaving your mark somewhere in life or the other choice is to have never exsisted at all to have never felt joy or love and to have never been given a chance to do something whether it be big or small. Im not saying that life is all about skipping through a field of daisies either, with out bad there is no good. Unless you have experienced something negative in your life how would you know what is supposedly a good experience was actually good. You would allways be wondering what more there could be instead of taking what you've got and being happy. But in short, life (your life ) is not pointless in anyway shape or form. Just because you didn't get the career you wanted or do something great to change the world doesn't mean you haven't had an impact on someone or something through out your life. I mean maybe you bumped into some lady at the grocery store causing her drop her purse unbeknowced to you that very same woman could have gotten hit by a car and killed if you had not delayed her. Thats a very extreme yet simple example of the impact a single life has on everything around them. Do not think for one second that your life is not valuble because it is. You have the power to change or do anything you wish. I will guarantee that the majority of people(me included) in America or the world lead very mundane lives and will probably never achieve every goal that is set. The truth is this, you are given life take ahold of it embrace it do what you want with it. It is yours to decided upon it entirety. Of I course can't begin to understand everything you have been through but I can share with you what I have learned through the years and ideals I've picked up. I hope this helps you or anyone else who reads this. One last thing, my mother cannot work now either and has not for almost a year now because of medical problems. But she passes the time when I'm not there or there are no chores by gardening. Its easy to do and very relaxing you should look into trying it. Sorry if there are spelling mistakes, checker wasn't working:)

Answer 3

30 is still a young age and a whole lot of opportunities. Why not join in some community outreach programs. That way, you do it for a cause and can keep yourself busy, thus pulling yourself away from bad thoughts. Mind over matter, darling. Another remedy to keep you from breaking down of depression is you write everything that goes inside your head. So that you will be not as burdened as you would physically carry a boulder. I've been depressed myself several times, and that's what I do. Another thing is, depression may sometimes be a cause of lack of faith. Turn to God. Renew your relationship with Him. Believe and trust Him. Everything will be alright. =)

Answer 4

you should go and talk to someone, it helps, i at one time thought i couldn't do anything right i could never please anyone and really put myself last, i was depressed and had a mentalm breakdown at work it was horrible. Once I started talking to someone and was given medication to handle the depression I was feeling better, I was able to think clearly and do what needed to be done in my life to make me happy. It has done wonders. Try it I think just talking to someone will help make you feel better just to get it off of you chest. not living doesn't solve anything and even if you think you are a bad mother i bet you aren't and the one who would suffer the most from you doing something drastic would be you baby. He needs you more than you know. Good luck.

Answer 5

dear - Almighty has given wonderful life to all of us.This are passing phase of life.Such all human being pass tru such phase thay may last decade ,so pray Almighty,have faith in u r self,love u r self & everything around u.U are wonderful person.This time will also pas by Be supportive to u r beloved hubby & children if u have any. Have a wonderful time dear,i m sure u will come out from this depression as u are chosen by almighty to under go hard times & he knows that u are made of hard mettle .

Answer 6

no u re no worth living and u re not a good mother. because u blame everything and everybody but yourself. u re the one who made your life suck - u dropped college, u married a loser, u re not able to socialise with people so u don't have friends. u don't have friends not cos u live in a big city. billions of people live in big cities and have hundreds of friends. u now will find some people who will mabe feel sorry for u. i don't feel sorry for u. u got the life u deserved. we all do get life we deserve. nobody was stopping u from being rich beautiful and successful except u yourself.

Answer 7

YOU are good mother
think this over and over again
talk to God he is always listening.
Giving up should be the absolute last thing you need to contemplate.
Tomorrow is another Day
Be happy you have a bundle of joy
make his life the most important agenda while hubby is away. Life is full of the unknown...

Answer 8

first of all do not worry to much, being worried all the time can kill you. just do it one at a time. look for the easiest problem and try to solve it, then i guess it can help you feel good about yourself. And from then on do the harder stuff. Your not hopeless there are more people who are more desperate than you be thankful always and pray for God's guidance. Always think that you cannot afford to pity yourself, people are depending on you, especially your kid.

Answer 9

u are a beautiful person on the inside... but first i think u need to understand that ur life, is about u.. u need to also understand that life isn't a struggle and so u must not live as though it is. i have been thru a similar struggle myself, but i got to realise that i must love myself 1st, and then reach into my heart and be the best i can be. u have a child, and so u should give that child your love cos its not his fault that things did not go as planned. there must be something u love doing... focus on that, and take it from there.

Answer 10

I totally sympathise with your situation. I'd an extremely hard life too since childhood. I'm 36 years old now, with 2 boys. At one stage of my life, I'm also very alone with only my elder son. Worst of all, I'm staying with my mum-in-law who's a widow.

When my elder son was young and has no one to play with, we sent him to half-day childcare nearby our home to mix with other kids. I think you need healing in your life. I went to the internet to search for healing websites many years ago and heal myself by subscribing emails like, eg Today's Positive Thought.

What we're going thru' in our lives now are also an emanation of negative karma that we've created in many of our past lives. I was suffering from serious depression, fear and suicidal thoughts from 16 to late 20s as I was brought up in a very harsh environment. I felt unloved by my family. Worst when I married and stayed with my widowed mum-in-law & bro-in-law then, many many problems. Thank God now she has turned Christian and is a much better person now!

Later when I discovered Tibetan Buddhism, I turned Buddhist and attended buddhist lessons in a local buddhist centre. My husband and I started to do spiritual practices to purify our negative karma and to create merits. You should turn to a religion which can give you emotional/psychological support. During many crisis in my life, many miracles happened as I rec'd blessings and protection from the deities and gurus that I always pray to.

You are not alone, many people are suffering in this world. Be strong and stay positive for the sake of your child. Take good care of him and give him a happy & loving childhood. If I can do it (alone), I'm sure you can overcome all the problems in your life! Meanwhile, find opportunity to help others who're less fortunate then you, give donations to charity. Do as many good deeds as possible! Take care and good luck! Om Tare Tutare Ture Soha! Om Mani Padme Hum!