is it wrong that i'm not going to my sisters wedding?

Question

i don't like the man she is going to get married to n it's ment to be the happiest day of her life and i don't wanna make he sad by being missable

Answer 1

I can understand your feelings on the issue, but this is for your sister. By not going, it will be hurtful and an insult to your sister. You don't have to be miserable and who knows, since you need a man, you might get lucky! ;) I think the best wedding gift you can give your sister would be your presence. It is only one day, not even a full one, surely you can buck up and hold a fake smile for that long!!?? I don't mean for you to become best friends with your new brother-in-law, but try to be civil to him and otherwise, avoid him as much as possible. Again, remember that this is her special day and not having you there would lessen how special the day is. Besides, your sister may never forgive you and you will have virtually lost a sister. Whatever your choice is, good luck and I hope this helps a bit.

Answer 2

I know my brother was very sad when our brother did not show up to his wedding. a few years later my brother (the one that did not show up) came around the family again and when he was looking at the wedding picture he was crying because he missed the whole thing.

Maybe go and sit in the back of the church or whereever it is and then leave quietly and do not make a seen. At least you can say you were at the wedding and maybe the man she is marrying might grow on you.

Answer 3

Hmmm thats almost as bad to ask:

Is it wrong that I dont go to my Parents funeral because they still owe me money...

Or, I dont want to have this baby, because it may grow up to be a criminal and I dont want to burden society...

Just because YOU want to be SELFISH, and spoil your sisters "big day" as you call it, why punish her? Dont you love her? The guy she is marrying sure does! So what,if she didnt marry the guy YOU wanted her to marry, its not YOUR wedding!!

I think you need to mature a whole bunch, and do some really thoughtful soul searching and after you 'grow up', and become a "sister" to your sis, then apologise to her and tell her your fears...

Its her decision to make! We cant make them for the person we love, no matter what. Why alienate yourself from your future nephews and neices? Your future brother in law, will sense that you dont like him and deny you the presence of thier children! All because you have a "feeling"...

Get over it and enjoy the wedding... For your sister, and family! If you alienate yourself this time, then, dont expect the family to be with you on this subject, you will be out in left field all alone!

And, if it doesnt "pan out", then you can be there to help "pick up the pieces"! If you alienate yourself now, your sis wont come to you because of the "I TOLD YOU SO" factor!!

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 4

Well, if the ONLY reason you are not going is because of the groom, then yeah I feel it's wrong.

The man she is marrying is the man SHE choose. What would you want her to do for you if the roles were reversed? Would you want her to miss your wedding because she did not like the man you choose.

Besides, She's your sister and if you allow him to pull you apart for such a special day then what will the rest of your lives be like? When they have children are you going to miss out on your niece or nephew's lives because you don't like their father?

This one decision and how you handle yourself is going to determine how future events will be handled.

Think inside yourself and decide if your dislike of HIM is really worth loosing HER!

Answer 5

By standing your ground, you have proven your point that you do not approve of this marriage. However, it is important to remember that whatever your views are, your sister is in love and getting married as she thinks this will make her happy. As her sister, I think it would be sadder for her not to be able to share this special day with you, and all the memories it will create. You are siblings and have shared in all of the important parts of growing up together, do it for her, not the man she is marrying. You will have the rest of your life to express your views on him. And if it does't work out between them, at least you can say that you are there to support her whatever decisions she makes in life....thats what family is for.

Answer 6

Of coarse u need 2 go 2 the wedding or she will think ur jealouse of her soon to become husband! just b happy that she found some one and if u don't like him than don't go by him or talk to him! what ever u do u need to got to their wedding or ur not a good sis! Because she isn't going to give him up because u don't like him! might as well get use to him or u will b miserable 4 the rest of ur life!

Answer 7

Oh c'mon now. This is your sister. You go to the wedding and act right. Sure, my sister married a creep. In fact nobody liked him. We put the best face on it, and we all went to the lavish wedding. I was the model of politeness, and I couldn't stand the guy. Now you go and do the same.

Answer 8

That's incredibly selfish. This day is not about YOU. It's about your SISTER. She's marrying this guy. Not you. You go to her wedding, and you smile and you say NOTHING and show you're a good sister. If she needs support later, be there for her. But right now let her celebrate her big day without trying to make it unhappy.

Answer 9

In this case, its a good idea to be the better man and lead by example. You don't have to live with the guy, and maybe if they'res a divorce you can say "Sis, I told you so!" So I suggest that you do the right MORAL thing and support your sister- and who knows? Maybe the guy might turn out after all- good luck!

Answer 10

Ive been thinking the same thing as my sis is getting married in 3 weeks and no one likes her boyfriend but we are all going for her. We all know she is making the biggest mistake of her life but she is my sister and I am there for her no matter what. Go to the wedding, you are there for her not him. Make her realise you are there for her.