why is sex so bad?

Question

okay like i know the bible says not to do it before u get married but why? why is it so bad i mean adam and eve were not married so wats the diff? and like can u go to hell for it i mean its just natural right?

Answer 1

who cares? I am too sexy for this question anyway.

Answer 2

First, Adam and Eve WERE husband and wife.

Second, do you really need to ask? STDs, unwanted pregnancies (leading to absentee fathers), etc.

However, the real issue is much deeper than that. The Bible talks about a special bond that takes place during sex, that the two become one (this is not just talking of the physical act). It says that sexual sin is the only way to sin against one own's body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit. Purity IS a BIG deal. No, it's not just natural, and yes, you can go to hell for it. When you get married, you understand all the more just how big of a deal it is.

Answer 3

It's natural. My religion doesn't state that it's a sin because we revere the ways of nature, the balance in all things. Also, if you look at it this way, there are many men, and women too, (not all, but an awful lot) who will say that sex outside of marriage is wrong while carrying on a secret affair, or having multiple partners. Men seem to do this more than women, though. It's like they can have sex with anyone they want, but let the woman they're dating with the possible intention to wed have a sexual past! Oh, boy, the outbursts!

Personally, I think it was all something that men made up so that they could go against the natural order of things, which is to find the best genes possible, with as much variety as possible, to produce your children. They take their part seriously, spreading their seed as much as they can, but let a woman try to have children by more than one man, and there's something wrong with it all of a sudden! Men want their women to only have children by them, while their instincts are also telling them to have as many babies as possible with as many women as they can. Meanwhile, they expect the women not to have the same instincts. It's sad. Patriarchal societies suck.

Answer 4

Who says sex is bad? God created sex; and like everything else he created, he said it was "Very good!"

What is bad is irresponsible sex, that is, sex outside of marriage, perverted sex, etc.

BTW, Adam and Eve WERE married. Read again Genesis 2:25:
"And they were both naked, the man and his WIFE; and they were not ashamed." (Genesis 2:25, MKJV)

People often ask "Why" concerning God's commandments for man. They're usually just looking for a way to justify their sins. But God gives the answer to "Why," it's just that people don't want to believe it.

"You shall walk in all the ways which the LORD your God has commanded you SO THAT YOU MAY LIVE AND THAT GOOD MAY BE TO YOU, and you may make your days longer in the land which you shall possess." (Deuteronomy 5:33)

But if you want to get specific about why extramarrital sex is bad, try visiting a women who has a house full of kids, each with a different father, none of which are around to support them or the mother. Or visit some of those who are dying of a sexually transmitted disease.

Is the moment of fun and fling worth your life? Or the lives of your children?

Just read the statistics; and the vast majority of them are in these sad situations because of irresponsible, extramarrital sex.

And as for salvation:
"Do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor abusers, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God." (I Corinthians 6:9-10)

But if you want to know what God intended for sex, read a modern version of the Song of Solomon in the Bible.

"Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. Like the loving deer and pleasant doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times, and be ravished always with her love." (Proverbs 5:18-19)

Answer 5

As long as the two people having sex are consenting adults, it is up to them to decide what to do behind closed doors.
As you may have heard and seen, a lot of people tend to abuse sex and each other. Perhaps this is what the writer had in mind when he wrote in the Bible about not having sex until one is married. As you know, there are many women today who are getting pregnant before marriage, and in quite a few instances, the man is either leaving, or suggesting that the child is not his.
Even some men who are married to women are saying that the child is not his.
I believe that as long as two people love each other and want to make a conscious effort to show their love, that is great.
However, many people use sex in a recreational way.
There are many young people who are having sex, and not using precaution - I read it often in yahoo answers - and those young people who are not of legal age should not be having sex until they are older and are more mature and are aware of what they are doing.

So sex can be good, and sex can be bad - it depends upon the individual.

As long as you follow your heart, that is what will guide you.
Don't use people for sex and don't let yourself get used for sex - unless that is where your head is - but consider the consequences of your actions.

Answer 6

To me, that is the way for the body to cleanse itself for feeling dirty, in a sense. But the best thing to do is not get the body dirty in the first place, stay away from the naughty stuff and for others not to provoke any dirty feelings, aka, tease someone unless they are married as one under God. Still then it is not good for recreation, only procreation. It is best that no intense, powerful emotions are brought out in anyone. Strong emotions create strong impulse. Impulse=thoughtless actions. Thoughtless actions=more chance of doing wrong. Impulse=chaos and the devil loves chaos. God loves reason, logic, and patience. Think before you do. Do not love anything too much on this earth nor dislike anything too much. Love is good until it crosses a boundary and dislike is good also until it crosses a boundary. You can see the love part but the dislike part tells us also what isn't good for the body or to stay away from. For one to be peaceful, one mustn't be excited happily, or depressive and angry, but the fine line in between. At peace meaning no emotions to taint your thoughts so you can be reasonable and judge reasonable. The impulses of sex can destroy that.

Answer 7

Monogamous sex is not bad provided you both honor and respect your Union as man and wife PERMANENTLY, with the sanctity of Matrimony, under the eyes of God...

In other words, make absolutely sure who you're intending to have premarital sex with beforehand, with the hopeful knowledge that you will be spending the REST OF YOUR LIFE with that SAME PERSON... And that it is not merely a fling or physical lust to satisfy your natural sexual urges. Or, worse, some one-night stand thingie only! That's the diff.

Answer 8

In a perfect world it would be best if we all waited until marriage before we had sex. Just think about all the heartache and crap we would not go through. Unfortunately it is not easy saying no when it comes to sex. Premarital sex is a sin just like anything else that is wrong.

Answer 9

That was just put in the bible to keep young girls from unwanted pregnancies. I don't think god plans to send you to Hell for that - not with all the real sin in the world. Just be careful, use protection because if you got pregnant too young or contracted a disease, that would be a sin.

Answer 10

There are laws and there are laws. Why is speeding down a empty highway bad (can get you a ticket)? Why is walking naked down the road bad (can get you a fine or a jail term)? Why is having sex with a sister bad (protected sex with no offsprings)? Why is having sex with a minor bad (I was gentle and she was willing)?

The statistics have shown that people who involve in pre-marital sex are more likely to get divorced than those who do not.

But statistics apart, if God, who is the law-giver says so, just do it. It is for our own good.

Answer 11

Eve didn't have a lot of competition - at least for a while! To be true to your spouse for a lifetime is a beautiful thing, but esp. these days it is not that easy. The special bond of intimate love with them only is a vital part of this happening. Wait dear, it's worth it!