I was very near my sister, we loved each other very much, even if we have good parents I was mostly afather for her. 4 moths ago I married and at the same time I changed job and I moved to another city. Since I married my sister didn't want to talk to me. She hates my wife even if she has always been kind and understanding. My sister has been very rude to her: last time she told her that she doesn't belong to our house. The few times I spoke to her she says she feel abandoned even though I call her and sms her constantly and I make her full of ttention. I know she is not that much rude and bad as she wants to show, she is a sweet girl inside. Can anybody suggest what to do? Please avoid to write to tell her to disappear as I won't do that.
2006-06-06 22:21:53 · 13 answers · asked by othello 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
you must pay more and more attention to her until she back to you .....
2006-06-06 22:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by @shk@n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one I do think that she is hurt that you got married and moved off to another town. She may feel that you have abandoned her and may be the reason that she is rude to your new wife.
Just let her know that you still love her and that you will always be a part of her life. Please give her alittle time to get used to you being married and I am sure it will all work out. First talk with her and let her tell you how she is feeling about all of this.
2006-06-07 07:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, poor guy... well this is a no brainer... she has an amazing amount of love for her big brother and you really made her feel special all those years and now she knows that she isn't the only special girl in your life... in fact she knows that the best she can ever hope to be is number 2 in your life now and young girls get hurt easy... well we all get hurt easy... I honestly think that if she saw that you posted this question... that's all it would take to restore your old relationship with her... tell her, show it to her...let her know that she is still number 1 to you in other more important ways... it sounds like you have a tough situation there so be patient and undersatanding - hang in there yo
2006-06-06 22:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by ohyeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say you are a caring brother.Youhave to understand though that your sister might see yourwife as a cause of concern- both want your affection and maybe she is afraid that you might love your wife better thanher. Its normal, in a sense especially if u guys were close. invite her more to your house and try to dothings that u used to do together to show her that u still love her though u love your wife as well........good luck
2006-06-06 22:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by YoursTruly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every relationship need a limit that u should remember.i think that
u had a little over affection with her that created the pblm.
She is only teanageeer,after some years or after some
her marriage she will be Ok.I think this is not that much serious
2006-06-06 22:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sachin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your wife with you to meet your sister and tell her both of your's emotions towards you. i m not talking to tell by mouth , but better to talk to her normalyy and if u can shed some tears in front of her , then may be she can tell what you might have done wrong with her and with those tears , all the trouble will roll down your life. all the bst
2006-06-06 22:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are in the back woods and down home and a saying here is this. ' If I divorce my wife can we still be brother and sister?'
2006-06-07 00:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave your sister be and let her grow up. You need to focus on your marriage and wife. the sister will come to her senses with time.
2006-06-06 22:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by zeus_daughter2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your sister wants you. Maybe you should get a divorce and hook up with her.
2006-06-07 08:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go meet her and discuss ur problem face to face
phones and sms dont work at this time
dont go to her with ur wife
2006-06-06 22:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by sumo bhaiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE FEELS YOUR WIFE TOOK HER PLACE, AND THAT YOUR WIFE TOOK YOU AWAY COMPLETELY, A NEW TOWN, NEW JOB. SHE'S BEING JEALOUS AND IMMATURE, OBVIOUSLY SHOWING HER AGE.TRY TO STAY IN TOUCH AND HELP HER WITH THOSE FEELINGS IF POSSIBLE.
2006-06-06 22:27:41 · answer #11 · answered by J P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋