I m 22 year old boy , in business. I love a girl who is not of my caste. I am the alone child of my parents and a year ago i came to know that i m adopted. My parents dont know yet that i know i m adopted. i love a girl who is not of my caste , she also love me very much .we both want to get married .she is the type of girl i always dreamed of and i know she will keep my parents and me happy but my parents were not ready to let me marry her. i told them about her 2 years ago , they replied marry her and leave us. dad said he will give notice in court that i m not his son.I cant live without my parents and not without my love. My business , which i started 2 years ago also needs time , but my parents want me to marry this season. no proposal has been made by them yet. WHAT DO I DO.
2006-06-06 21:28:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell them how it is going to be, you have to make up your own mind on who you want to marry.. its not there choice
2006-06-06 21:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only recently have I come to know of the caste situation in some cultures and that which I did learn was certainly not much, but... It seems to me that your family should want your happiness first. If you are starting your own business and would marry this girl, would the two of you then not be starting YOUR family together on equal ground? This woman needs to make you alone happy for the rest of your life. Sure, you could stay married and miserable to someone else but deep down I don't believe a parent wants that for his child. You need to have an honest, heartfelt, long talk with your father. Explain that you understand why he may hold his views but ,just as important, you have the RIGHT to be happy. Especially in a committment so great as marriage. Try your best to have an open exchange and make sure he knows you feel strongly because of the values and guidance he has given you. He raised a smart man who knows his heart and will make the right choice. I do hope he sees your side but be true to yourself. It is you that has to live your life. GOOD LUCK. I would love to know if you have happy news to share with the world soon!
2006-06-06 21:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - sounds like Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham! lol!!!! Sorry.. If you're the only child and adopted, they've obviously brought you up with love. Your dad's just threatening you because he knows you won't dare - but if you have the guts to love, then have the guts to stand up for her. Caste means nothing at all and will not interfere in any way, shape or form in your life. Don't let it bother you. As for your parents, since you're their only one, just tell them that you're marrying her, whether they want to be there or not is their problem. And I guarantee you they'll be a part of it. Also, don't fall for emotional blackmail that they're old, they brought you up - blah blah blah. It's only blackmail.... Be brave, and make yourself happy. Good luck
2006-06-06 21:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there comes a point where you have to live your own life; not a life for others, even if that means disobeying your parents. it's very sad that your parents will disown you for marrying the person you love, but you need to make your own choices now. you are 22. your parents are being close-minded. will you really let their biased views prevent you from being w/ the woman you love? i think you should follow your heart and marry the girl you love. maybe one day your parents will accept it, but if they don't, then you don't need their negativity in your life. i know you love your parents, but they should also love you enough to let you make your own choices. good luck :)
2006-06-06 21:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by vhershie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is love and if you marry someone that you are not IN love with, then you will regret it the rest of your life! One day your parents will come around, and if not when you have children. It is up to you to whom you want to marry not your parents! This is not the old days when your parents were young! Try to convince them again. Goodluck! :)
2006-06-06 21:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch The Indian Movie Khabi Kushi Khabi Gham, i think thats how you spell it, its almost exactly related to your story... adopted boy wants to marry girl, parents dont allow it, but he loves her, and marries her anyway. The parents refuse to accept her into their house. And they move away to the UK, then they have a son, and the brother tries to re-unite them, and the fathers pride gets in the way but he gives in. Watch it with your parents. Let me know how it turns out
2006-06-06 21:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a man. you've grown up! if you want to get married then you do so. how will they force you not to? they say they won't speak to you anymore,but they love you. and thus,all these are only blackmail!
remember that the fact theat they adopted you,means that they really wanted a child. you think they will just stop being your parents? they love you.
2006-06-06 22:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by tttpsunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a pretty tough situation. ask them if they want u to be happy in life...and tell them that ur happiness is with ur parents as well as ur love.
if they still force u to marry someone else ask them wat is the reason..is the girl not nice to them?
if the matter doesnt get better then ask them y do they want to go to court n file a case on u....y do they want to go to such extremes.
do they want u to marry a richer girl? then ask them if they really care for ur happiness or for the money?
and ask them y did they ever adopt u?...i think that might work...it'll hurt u n ur parents but its ur life u have to live for ur self not how others want u to live let it be even ur parents!
2006-06-06 21:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Amukta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your girl. You can't be with your parents for the rest of your life. But assure your parents that you will still be there for them and that you love them too. Goodluck!
2006-06-06 21:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by Elene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her anyway if that's truly what you want, your parents will come around to the idea sooner or later. And if they don't then thats there problem.
2006-06-06 21:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by jaspring9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋