1 of my new bt very gud frend proposd me 3yrs ago wen i was disturbd cuz i liked some1 who didnt liked me...at tht time i wasnt interested & said no bt v remained staying frends...he nvr forced me 2 say yes at any point of time...he helpd me come out of the problm & was always there for me...v became bestfrends & i hav hd such wonderful times with him...he made me feel so special & v enjoyed alot with each other...he is just a terrific human being...v hav nvr had a fight over any issue & v respect each others thinking evn wen v dnt feel the same way...i dont evn remember wen i started loving him...bt v nvr talked of a future 2gethr & decided tht v wil wen the right time comes...now my parents want me 2 get married bt wen he talked 2 his parents they say either choose me or them...he is the only son & a financial support & obviously cant leave his family & evn i dnt want him 2...but i cant evn think of my life without him...wat shud v do? is there a way we can b 2gther 4evr?
2006-06-06 20:40:42 · 12 answers · asked by Pari 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he also loves me like crazy & thts the reason i love him so much...he is also so disturbed & feels that he is responsible for all the pain he has given me...i would like your views on the entire situation...
2006-06-06 20:43:09 · update #1
his parents aren't supporting him, he is...he is the one who's earning...but thanks for your comments on my typing...
2006-06-06 20:47:41 · update #2
no, u are not wrong.
i dont know why his parents don like u
1. but try to change whatever they dont like about u if possible.
2. make them happy, like help them do something, buy them present and etc
3. v is surely a good guy, he is willing to wait for u for 3 years. and as u say his personality is good. therefore i think u will find ur happiness future with him. i like this type of person too. (not love him, dont misunderstood, lol). So, don give up him.
4. try whatever thing to make his parents like u. example bring them to delicious restaurant to eat, but make sure they don know u r the one that wanna treat them so use his son as the person that want to bring them out. when reached there only u say u r the one who want to treat them.
5. apologised to them whatever they don like about u, promise u will TRY to change it. Use the word TRY because maybe it is really difficult to change it
that's all. if u really love him, in my opinion u should marry him even without his parents permission. invite them to ur wedding if u do so even they will no come. after marriage always near them.
to support u, i wan to tell u my dad story. both my grandparents are teacher. so they are not very rich. their son, that is my father like a girl(my mother), but her father(my mom's father) dont like him. however, they married. her father(mom) don even greet my grandparents(dad). durong the wedding, most of them are not willing to to accept my dad and mom tea(my tradition). at night, my grandparents(dad) cried. BUTTT my father after the marriage always make my mom parents happy, bring them to eat, to vacation, give them money, take care og my mom small sister, and so on...........NOW, my mom's dad really like my dad more than all of his son in law or daughter in law. mom's father even loved me and my brothers more than my cousin.
Hope that help
2006-06-06 21:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 3⤋
well, i think u belong either from Pakistan or India hmm the situation is quite complicated. However, its the time to take decision .. there are some ways
1) get court marriage. His parents will accept u after some time cos they wud never want to loose their solo son.
2) wait until he is financially strong so dat he could talk to ur parents.
3) sacrifise and forget ur past. Get marriied to the man whom ur parents have chosen n be honest in ur relation.
2006-06-06 20:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get emotional when deciding something.I agree that he has always been there for you.As a friend,he had to be.Just forget about all that........I f he really loves you,he can convince his parents anyways.Mind it....he is the only son.....he is just trying to play smart with you it seems.And if his problem is genuine,just stop right now.You dont deserve to be hurt like this.
2006-06-06 22:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by fatalfaisal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your typing skills are HORRIBLE!!
Having said that I can now advise you to either try to convince his parents or just move on. If he's not independent from his parents then he's not ready for marriage yet. A guy who's parents still financially support him is still a baby!! If you get married and his parents still support him then they will never go away!
2006-06-06 20:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are wrong if you wanna stay with the man you love forever because there are more men out there for u, not just 1, and probably in the future, you would meet someone you love even more :)
2006-06-06 20:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all....try being reasonable; meet his parents, send them a letter maybe telling them how much you love their son, invite to dinner at a good restaurant...figure out why it is that they're so unsupportive and work it from there (things will work out somehow ^^)
2006-06-06 20:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay to someone u love and wish to be with u for the rest of ur life.
2006-06-06 20:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by carl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. its every girls wish. but it's only 40% possible. so maybe you should put your level of beliefs a little bit lower.
2006-06-06 20:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by kyo10vr_mn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong, but you dumb if you think that all love lasts forever.
2006-06-06 21:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful what you wish for...
2006-06-06 20:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by kellbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋