i dnt knw what to do.cus i dnt really like him but we r close.and he sounds like h's going to crack anytime.
2006-06-06 20:15:24 · 23 answers · asked by lady c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK then wait til he ACTUALLY leaves his wife. Then it is still not too late to MARRY him.
2006-06-06 20:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
if you have any doubts at all - don't do it!
You're 19, and have your whole life ahead of you. There are plenty of good guys out there with uncomplicated lives. Just because this man wants you, doesn't mean that he's the only person in the world who will ever want you.
If you really like this 27yo guy, *and* he has definitely left his wife, then perhaps... but it sounds like its all adding up to a situation you should stay well away from. Sounds like he wants a mistress and an emotional crutch/support all at the same time.
Whatever you do, please make sure it's what you want to do.. and it's what feels right for you. Don't get blackmailed by what anyone else is trying to influence you to do against your better judgement.
Take care and good luck!
2006-06-07 03:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what to do about a man eight years older (which is a big deal at your age) that you that you don't even really like wanting to leave his wife for you!?
(seriously, stop and remove yourself from the situation and think what you would say to someone in that position)
Well, the little ring around his finger should answer your question. But if the sanctity of marriage doesn't mean anything to you, the fact that you don't actually want to be with him should help you decide not to be with him.
2006-06-07 03:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by pandasage1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know what to do, but don't want to do it for some reason. Look at the red flags:
1) He's married!
2) He's unfaithful!
3) You don't really like him!
4) He sounds like he's going to crack (mental problems)!
Good grief, can't you do better than a married, unfaithful nutcase who you don't really like? RUN!!! You should have enough self-esteem to realize you deserve better than a guy like this. Also, don't think for a moment that just because he's willing to cheat on you, that doesn't mean he will be faithful to you. When he got tired of you, he'd be looking for the next 19-year-old who he thought might give him a piece. You stand to lose a lot more than you could gain from this. Get away now, & find a guy who would deserve you in his life. Stay away from married men & nutjobs, & don't settle for someone when you may find someone you really do like.
2006-06-07 03:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is lying to you. He is not going to leave his wife for you. He just wants to have his cake and eat it. Give him the heave ho. You will meet someone else who is free to love you, you deserve better than him. Anyway it sounds to me like you don't know what you really want yourself anyway and at 19 you are still young, you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't let him use you any longer. Be strong, he will get over it. Best of luck.
2006-06-07 06:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater
This guy isnt faithful to anyone but himself
Dont go with him find someone capable of giving you the love and devotion you deserve and who you can love fully in return
and start a family with from love.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-07 05:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married man is off limits. If he leaves his marrage for you then hes a real piece of ****.. No bawls if you know what i mean. He shouldnt be looking /playing the field. Drop his ***, even as a friend.
Sourround yourself with people that have their **** together. You dont need a liar/cheater/no bawls having fool in you're life anyway.
2006-06-07 03:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by kellbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD RUN in the opposite direction. He is just trying to get you in bed..
I would tell him in in a most stern manner that if he doesn`t stop pursuing you , You will inform his wife. I guarantee that will be the end of it.
IF he was REALLY gonna leave her. He would have.
This is one of the OLDEST scams men put on women..
Find someone who isn`t attached already.. Someone who will love and respect YOU.. He is just using you...
Get a man of your own and don`t mess with another monkey`s, monkey...
2006-06-07 03:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be estreemely careful with this guy. If he can leave his wife for you, what grantee that he will not do same to you in future if he sees another women who may be more endowed than you? Caution is the watch word.
2006-06-07 03:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by linusiwunna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for it. They will tell you any thing. Don't come between a man and wife. put your self in her shoes.your young yet.I been there done that. I don't feel good about being with a married man. I was about your age now I 48.
2006-06-07 03:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Becky F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets try an experiament. You can kiss him but dont have sex with him. Very important. DONT have sex with him unless he really does leave his wife first. And lets see if he really leaves his wife for you. If he doesn't leave her within a month. He was just saying he likes you and he's leaving his wife just to get in your pants.
2006-06-07 03:22:28 · answer #11 · answered by b-buddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋