I mean I do love and care about him alot and we do have kids but I guess I'm not feeling it anymore.Does that make sense? Help me figure out how to make my life seem well not so boring.
2006-06-06 19:07:59 · 16 answers · asked by sweetgirl4u_1869 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what if i said im also 21 and we arent married?? still just in the young and stupid stage...
2006-06-06 19:17:09 · update #1
You are experiencing what is called the 7 year itch, it is just happening early.
In the Bedroom, Spice up the love life with toys, change of hair color, position.
Out of the Bedroom. go out with him with out the kids, invite friends over to visit, play cards, read books, cruise the Internet. take night classes. Their is a world out there go find it but, remember the bad things.
If you mess it up with whit your husband, ain't no man gonna take sloppy seconds with a ready made family. at least not a man you can trust your kids with.
stay good to your man and then this ruff time passes you will be even closer.
Harsh but true and you know it in your heart.
Aussie chick we did answer her question she just added that part about not being married after we said what we did.
Married or not young or old it still makes no difference the answer is still the same. and having kids makes it harder. do you think it is OK to walk out every time you get sick of a relationship, it is not . you have the kids to think about this is as much for them as it is for you.
slow times happen in all relationships and it will in the next as well so stick with this one and make it work
2006-06-06 19:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks to me like some people didnt read the question correctly. does he still love you like he did when you first started dating and before you had the children? if he cant answer honestly it might be an idea to move on. Otherwise if he does, all is not lost. Get out on a date night without the kids, do something you both want to try, or even just get kids out of house for a night and light up some candles, incense, make it romantic and either make up your own fun or get some kinky fun costumes, You will be surprised at how much fun those adult sex shops can be to wander around with your partner. Just remember that no relationship can just be based on sex alone and with parenthood comes responsibilites that we can't ignore. its all just a part of growing up i guess.. good luck!!
2006-06-06 19:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by aussie_chic66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he help with the kids? Or have you turned into a baby machine? If he does help with the kids, excellent! But they are clearly quite small and, as such, would take up a lot of (both of) your time. Can you leave them with anyone and spent some alone time together (ideally a holiday, but even a movie date would do!). Write a list of things that you wish were different and see what you could potentially do to change them. Yes it all sounds a bit "Dr Phil" but from someone who has been there (to an extent), it works.....
2006-06-06 19:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It time to start thinking of ways to liven up your marriage. You are over the honeymoon stage now and things have probably gotten fairly boring. I would start thinking of new exciting things to do as a couple, with the kids, and definantely find things to all by yourself. Buy some sexy new lingerie. Go to your public library and check out books on reving up your marriage.
2006-06-06 19:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by bellacervantes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to change ur routine life.Spice it up a lil bit..do something different from what u been doing thses three years.Get someone to look after your kids and take few days off with ur husband..u know its really refreshing to read to stil love him and want to give it a try.
Just try different things ..one might just click to bring the zing in your life again
2006-06-06 19:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by gentle_cute_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. More importantly, find something that excites you, a new job,hobby,sport.etc Your partner isn't responsible for entertaining you 24/7. If it is something specific that is lacking , the best thing to do is get it out there and discuss it.
Good luck
2006-06-06 19:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by DM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hot hung guy thats also in the same situation as you are. The two of you can spice up that boredom whenever you have the time to get naked and ride that big hard one till your screaming... or you could just chat.
2006-06-06 19:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you change the way you look at things , the things you look at change. make a few changes to yourself to make yourself feel sexy. get out more often by yourself it helps alot. also change your lovemaking patterns and places dont just be in bed at night so to speak. switch it up. get a sitter one eve,come home from work early,light candles get naked ,throw blankets on the lr floor and get at it. dont even let him speak just hit it and say thanks and let it at that .or give it to him in the laundry room afer the kids go to bed or lock the bathroom door while the kids are awake for a bit of spark and a sense of being sneaky or role play.
2006-06-06 19:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I M LIKE YOU!!!
I just grin and bare it, its sucks, yes it does, but you can do what I DO AND FANTAZIZE!
turn the lights out and imagine your with someone else...tell your man not talk as that will completely ruin it.
I am sserious.
To leave over boredom is sad, you got vows or at least commitment...or you can wait until your kids are grown...heheheh
2006-06-06 19:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn a new skill....do some gardening or do some cocking get a new relation with a new Friend
2006-06-06 19:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by aziz a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋