I feel so weak, how do i forget him?

Question

I just broke up with my bf of 16 months. How do i forget him?? Its so hard, my heart is breaking.... But i need to be strong and leave him, he is abusive....i just wish he could be the person i thought he was....how do i forget about him??? will i ever find a guy that will make me as happy, if not happier?? im so alone and sad right now :(

Answer 1

if you feel like your weak don't give him the time of day no matter how hard it is you'll end up going back just don't go back or contact him NOMATTER WHAT you will regret it. fight it trust me as time goes by it will get easy the good will fade out and you'll rememeber him for the slimebag he is then one day years from now when your happily married you'll be at peace with him again and you'll have a few happy memories come back but not enough to make you forget the slimebag part when that happens you can see him all you want but trust me by then you'll never want to see his face except in your mind once in a blue moon when something reminds you of one of those few good memories you'll have besides you'll be to busy with you husband a guy that will love you back! Life will turn around for the better if you only keep your integrity and do the best thing for you not just whats easier for now Godbless you!

Answer 2

Well, I don't know how old are you but definitively you'll find some one else and probably this is not going to be the only time you think you are not able to pass through it. The best to do is keep going by been busy, doing different activities and socializing with your friends. Keep your mind busy and you'll see how things get better but don't forget that missing someone is just part of life. Feeling better is a process that will come step by step and you can't rush... Believe me, it is not the end of the world and you just have to trust your self and choose the best for you because in the end you are the only person that has the power on you!
Abusive?... I don't think he is someone you'd like to be 10 years from now...

MJ.

Answer 3

1. If he is abusive he SOO doesnt deserve you. 2. If he was abusive how happy could you be? 3. YES. You'll find someone who will love you for you and not hurt you as a form of control or anythinglike that. You sound AMAZING and I totally understand the sad and alone part. I'm 13 and I can't get a boyfriend, the guys I like only like me as a friend, so I feel sad and alone too. lol. Just spend a day shopping or watching movies w/ your friends or something. Or you could wallow (my favorite) and eat a lot of foods that you wouldn't normally that you LOVE like icecream, popcorn, pizza, breadsticks, chips, nachos, shakes, ect...lol. If you wanna chat IM me at [e-mail]. Hope I helped!

Answer 4

The Dr. can ALWAYS help...1st off he was abusive, NOBODY should be abused!! As far as the feelings...just thank yourself it was only 16 months and the roots haven't really dug in yet. Also you will without a doubht find someone that will make you HAPPIER...remember that word :)..happier. All I can say is this...let all your feelings go...cry for hours if you have too, just let it out. The Dark days are over and Sunshine awaits you....

The Dr is in.

Answer 5

U need time to heal your wounded heart. It hurts so bad casue u really did love him and u always will. But its not fun being all alone in love and it isnt right either. Time is on your side. Keep occupied. Like make goals for yourself---reachable ones and go for them. The more u accomplish the better u will feel about yourself. As far as the heart, dont date again until u feel completely ready. This time u will be even more protective of your heart and thats good. I hope the next time will be prince charming but dont give in if he isnt...keep going cause u will there sweety.

Go thorugh it. Listen to those sand songs, cry it out, and have your support system. The only way to get through it, is to go through it ok hun.

Answer 6

First you have to realize that you aren't going to forget him. Just learn from him.
He is abusive so I commend you for taking that first big step and leaving him.
It will take time and it will eventually get easier, but in the beginning it will be hard. Just take it one hour at a time. Let yourself be sad, cry, be upset, feel whatever emotions come to you, but don't go backwards.
That's the important part.
I'm sure you have someone you can talk to about this when you need to also.
And just remember, it won't happen overnight. You will find someone, but that might not happen right away either, so don't rush into anything.
Good luck.

Answer 7

From personal experience, I know exactley how you feel. I also was in abusive relationships all my life and when I thought I'd never find a good man I did and though our time together was short and he is gone now he taught me a valuable lesson. He taught me I was good enough to be happy and loved, he always showed me that and at times he'd get upset with me and go outside to cool off he never once raised his voice at me or my children and my youngest has Autism he acceoted us all with open arms and in time you too will find the one whom is worthy of you. It will hurt but it will hurt worse staying and seeing what may happen better to walk away with your head held high and your heart filled with pride.

Answer 8

these things heel themselves with time. Psychology has taught me it can take up to a year to forget someone... experience has shown me this as well... it took me a year to get over an ex who cheated and it happened again but this time i was stronger. Just be patient and dont take steps back. do not call him, do not message him, IGNORE him and try as hard as u can to move ahead and be strong, find the real you that deserves so much better

Answer 9

Start by taking care of yourself. Find out who you are without him, you need to be good too yourself. Some people say abuse is hard too get away from, but you did it your out. Love yourself enough too stay out of an abusive relationship there is someone out there who loves you more. Who ? GOD, and YOU. When your stronger and sure of your love for yourself, only then can you be good for someone else. Question If your child whom you carried in your womb were getting abused by his or her loved one: what would you want for your child? Safety right, isn't that the same feeling you have for yourself????

Answer 10

Get off your butt and do something! I know it sounds harse but that's what it is! You have to have self-esteem, confidence, and the ability to make it alone before anyone of any worth will notice you. If you keep up this kind of attitude (it is so hard, I miss him so much, blah, blah, blah) the same kind of people will be attracted to you. Learn to be happy with yourself before looking for someone else!