ARE SOME GUYS TOO Scared to express their true feelings through words??????????????????????????????????

Question

This guy tells me he is afraid im gonna hurt him because Im so sexy and beautiful and he is use to dating uglier women, so he said some deep stuff to me the other night while we were drunk and we were having sex, now when I ask him if he meant what he said at the time he says he can show me better then he can tell me

Answer 1

Yes, many guys have a problem expressing their emotions. It is mainly due to the fact that they become too vulnerable and it scares them to death. When you are that vulnerable, you can get hurt very easily. He seemed to express that. Men also are not in touch with their feelings as much as women are. As such, they have trouble determining what they feel, why they feel it and how to express it. Women almost always are in touch with their feelings and tend to get emotionally attached to guys easier than men. Men, in general, while they are younger are just after sex and will tell a woman what they want to hear just to get into their pants. Your b/f has a concern that many guys have. The song "when you're in love with a beautiful woman" by Dr. Hook says it all. It is hard, you have to watch your friends, you look for lies, etc. There is a fear, real or imagined, that you will lose the girl to just about anyone because they are so beautiful and the guy feels he will lose her. Your b/f seems very insecure and has some self-esteem issues he needs to deal with. I guess all you can do to help him is to reiterate your love and devotion to him and build his self-esteem up. Good luck and I hope this helps a bit.

Answer 2

he just wants to keep having sex with you. if he can't tell you sober and be straight up about it, then he was in the heat of the moment and it didn't mean much. it's one thing to say something when you are drunk and then repeat it again sober, but if he can't even do that, then he played you.
he's not scared to. he can tell you how he feels if he wants to. he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings or have you stop having sex with him. plus when a guy is having sex with a girl, he isn't thinking about what he is saying. he is feeling one of the best feelings in his life so of course you are the greatest and he cares for you in that moment.
do yourself a favor and stop asking him to repeat what he said cuz if he really felt that way, he would have told you again while he was sober...instead of trying to show you.

Answer 3

1) actions do speak louder than words
2) when people are drunk they exaggerate what they mean and believe what they say.
3) all you have to do is sit back and see if he shows you whatever it is he said he'd show you. if he does then he meant what he said if he doesn't he didn't. simple as that.
4) most guys have more difficulty expressing their feelings than women.

Answer 4

sometimes most things are better done than said or wrote down. most guys cannot find the words to tell a girl but better yet show them. and besides most females will remember the thing that is done than what is said.

Answer 5

Mmmm...yes. When I just started courting a girl during my high school days, I usually write letter instead of talking to the girl. I stutter whenever I'm having a conversation with her.

Answer 6

Yes me

Answer 7

he just wants the sugar honey...dont fall for it the second time...if he really loved you then he'll be able to express his feelings in a heart beat!

Answer 8

That's us men for you, More with showing you than telling you.

Answer 9

i'm sure they aren't scared but they don't know how to word things to where you women will understand

Answer 10

actions speak louder that words