ok when I wear like shorts or tank tops or like anything my step dad stares at my legs,chest,butt,anything he can get his eyes on and I hate it!!!I cant tell my mom i just dont feel right tellin her, what should i do and is that called a perv?
2006-06-06 17:11:41 · 36 answers · asked by No1-1000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, thats pretty bad, tell your mom IMMEDIATLEY.
2006-06-06 17:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by manda leigh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that he's a perv, cause it's pretty normal for a dad to like seeing his daughter just cause he's happy she's there and not cause he's a perv or anything. But if it makes you uncomfortable then it's not really OK no matter what his intentions are, just keep in mind that he might stop looking at you so much if he knew it bothers you, and it may or may not be cause to hate him forever. And definitely do still tell your mom, cause there's really sick stuff guys can do to their daughters that's sexual in nature without ever physically touching them. And if he every tries to touch you in a sexual way then _definitely_ tell someone, no matter what. In that case it doesn't have to be your mom - it could be a teacher, doctor, school counselor, or any adult you trust - but you would have to tell someone.
2006-06-06 17:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when I was younger, I revealed too much I could tell my male family members noticed and were uncomfortable, but they did't stare, they AVERTED THEIR EYES. Which is what any proper adult should do when confronted with adolescent cleavage, especially that for which they are responsible. Tell your mom about this. He's making you uncomfortable. If he were doing it in the workplace, he could get fired for that! Perv maybe not, but definately rude and inappropriate. It's a fine line. When he starts making suggestive comments or trying for a grab, then he's a Perv, but then it's gone too far and he'll need to go to jail.
2006-06-06 17:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by kaplah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say something to your mom...don't say" he's a perv mom"!!! lol...just tell her that "It makes you feel uncomfortable and weird for him to look at you like that and if she could talk to him and ask him to stop"! Then if he is truely a "perv" then he will know that it was wrong and knows you are not a push over! He will know that you know, your mom knows and he will not try to go further... if you let him continue staring at you like that he might do something more impropriate....AND you could also say something to him but with a witness so the story doesn't get all twisted!
2006-06-06 17:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. If you don't, I will. Or I will come over and beat the guy's azz. Call the cops if you need to. There is no room in your life for a pedophile stepfather. I have no patience for his kind. The sad fact is that if you are not of legal age now, the moment you are you will be having nothing but trouble with this azzhole. Maybe even before. Parents, step parents included, have a responsibility to maintain a safe household with absolutely no sexual impropriety and no sexual secrets. My stepdaughter is 12. My biodaughters are 7, 12, and 19. The notion of looking at any of them in a sexual way makes me want to vomit, whether they are my biodaughters or not. You have a choice. Get away from him, or get him away from you. You need to make that choice right now. Not in five minutes. This is serious and you are setting yourself up for a world of trouble if you don't act.
2006-06-06 17:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Me again 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your step father is staring at you in a sexual way, then you should go tell someone. And get your step father help.
I wouldn't really call him a pervert, but a very sick man who needs to get help for being attracted to a family member.
2006-06-06 17:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mellorine~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, the people who are suggesting calling the police are nuts. he hasn't done anything to you except act vaguely creepy. that isn't illegal. the best course of action is to get to a school psychologist/counselor or someone like that (a pastor, maybe? a well-adjusted sane adult that can act as someone to help you out... and to help you figure out how to tell your mother). see that person, tell them in detail what's going on, and (eventually) plan a way to call a meeting with your mother. this doesn't have to happen right away, but you NEED to have an adult to talk to about this and help you sort out what to do.
when you do get to telling your mom, you ought to have an adult ally with you unless you are absolutely sure that your mom isn't going to freak out in some horrible way when you tell her. you have a right to protect yourself, and you ought to.
you can try to tell your stepdad off, but honestly, if he is a perv (and he sounds like one) he's going to be jazzed by finding out you're "noticing" him. then things will only get creepier. the best reality check for this guy is going to be a clear WTF? from his wife, or another adult. he needs to know that you're not afraid to be truthful about what he's up to.
remember this: your strength is in truth. and you're right that telling your mom could very possibly make things "worse" for a while, and she might make some poor choices right then (because women can be nutty about their men--believing in them even when they shouldn't), but sticking to the truth about how you feel and what's going on around you is your rock.
2006-06-06 17:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by jezebelring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's looking at you you need to tell someone. a grown man that looks at girls have a missing link.
tell your dad,grandma or someone in the family that he makes you feel odd. start wearing more clothes when he's around then he can't see anything
find someone in the family to tell. you might be getting a odd vibe from him for a reason.
don't be scared to tell your mom.
2006-06-06 17:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Wilson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~~It would ultimately be best to talk to your mom about this, but if you feel you can not go to her, if you have a grandmother, or an aunt or an older sister, or another adult that you feel you can confide in talk to them and see if they will sit down with you and your mom. your mother really needs to know this, and you need to tell until someone listens.by not telling it could escelate into deeper rooted problems that would be even harder to discuss.~~
2006-06-06 17:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom. If she won't listen tell your grandmother. If she won't listen then tell a teacher or counselor, but let someone know before he does something more than just looking!
2006-06-06 17:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's a perv. If your mom doesn't listen, then tell your school/guidance counselor.
2006-06-06 17:14:49 · answer #11 · answered by Psychology 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋