I hate other people?

Question

I swear to god I hate other people. I have a hard time keeping a job because I always quit after someone has really offended, and I have confronted them. Sticking up for myself seems to make each situation worse and uncomfortable at work for me so then I just get so depressed about it because people gang up and talk about me behind my back so I quit and hope the next job will be better. What can I do to make my next job last?

Answer 1

Well, you definatly DON'T have problems. But your underestimating people. All you need is a little patience, thats all. Maybe if you kept a diary. I know it sounds childish, but its actually very affective.

Answer 2

1.Being assertive involves stating your point clearly and positively. Developing an assertive approach is an important step in your evolution towards full self-expression. Ask yourself:
*Can I complain about an unreasonable workload?
*Can I ask questions and make statements without fear of sounding stupid or incompetent?
*Can I stand up for my rights when a friend or a coworker is rude or unreasonable?
When developing an assertive approach, first think of how you would like to be treated. Most people respect someone who is honest and direct, but you should be respectful of others rights and feelings as well as your own. By showing respect for your own feelings and those of others, you can achieve your desired goals.

When assertiveness is practiced at work, everyone wins

2.Conflict occurs in situations in which there is opposition. Opposition occurs when a solution cannot be found in a disagreement. Conflict resolution involves identifying areas of agreement and areas of compromise so that a solution to the disagreement or conflict occurs.

Many causes of conflict arise due to miscommunication. In these situations, your assertiveness skills are of special need. For example, active listening will help you to hear the real message. Sometimes you hear the wrong message due to one or more of the following factors:
Cultural differences
Differences of opinion
Unclear roles or expectations
Emotional responses to an issue or person
Unequal status
Misunderstanding of the language
Becoming aware of these barriers to effective listening can allow you to work towards focussing on the message and the intention, rather than on distracters.
There are five methods to handle conflict:
Running away
Being obliging to the other party
Defeating the other party
Winning a little/ losing a little
Co-operating
Resolving conflict is an art of communication, as are listening and trying to come to a happy solution for everyone. Talk about what is bothering you, listen to the other party’s explanation, and come to a solution that satisfies both you and the other person. This usually works. Co-operation reduces anger, stress, and frustration

3.The amount of work to be accomplished in today’s work environments has increased about as fast as the technological advances have permitted. Since the work to be done is often complex, requiring the expertise of several individuals, teams are formed to meet deadlines, project requirements, and budgets.

Employers greatly value individuals who can work effectively in teams because they can
contribute efficiently to the organization’s goals,
complete complex projects rapidly, and
respect other team members’ thoughts and opinions.
Listen to what people have to say, and help them in any way you can. Communicate ideas at staff meetings even if you have not fully thought the ideas through. You may be surprised that with the ideas and creativity of your co-workers, your idea can be brought to fruition. Consequently, you may be asked to lead a team project; don’t hesitate to take charge when appropriate.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

You seem to have an antisocial behavioral problem. We will always have problems when dealing with others. You seem to take great offense and then you react accordingly. Going from one job to another is not going to solve your problem because we are all surrounded by stupid, obnoxious people. You therefore need to mellow a bit and this might require the help of a controlled substance, counseling, a hobby or a mix of all three. Other wise you might snap one of these days and so something regretable.

Answer 4

1) Find a religion. I recommend Christianity. You need to realize that there is a higher power than you and I in this universe (God).

2) Find a hobby. Something that gives you joy will spill into other areas of your life and it will reflect in your work and relationships.

3) Get counselling. Try to understand why you are so angry so that you can resolve the real underlying issue and stop punishing yourself and those around you.

Answer 5

People who need people are the luckiest people in the world. Most humans need others to feel fulfilled. You may make a good loner. It's possible but rare. By the way, are you a happy person? If not, would you like to be?

Answer 6

Well it sounds like you have a problem.Why are you so angry?Some times it pays to count to ten and then try to ignor the offence.I know that isn`t always possible but when you have to take up for yourself try not to do it when your extremly mad.I know thats easier said then done,I wish you luck on your next job,take a deep breath and let it out slowly.

Answer 7

I am a waitress and deal with this all the time. I stay true to myself and dont worry what other ppl think. Life is to short to care what other ppl say or do. Just stay true to yourself, stay positive and give them hell ( if you need to). If you dont stick up for yourself you'll be a doormat. Who wants that.

Answer 8

You need to focus on a practice that helps you understand and accept yourself (yoga or aikido are best) that way you can more easily accept others. This problem is inside of you and that is the only place to fix it. You can recover but you have to be willing to come to know yourself and accept yourself.

Answer 9

At the risk of offending you, I'd say you are immature. You need to learn more about how YOU operate and how you manage to get into troubles all the time. See if you can talk with someone - professional - about your concern.

Answer 10

get a job that doesn't involve a whole lot of people. Or find a job you can work with at home.