I moved to Texas 5 months ago, to be with my baby's father. He's in jail and his brother and sister steady assuming that Im cheating. They have other guys to call my phone to see if I talked to them. And even though I dont, in their eyes I do. I really love my baby's father and we suppose to get marry. I stay away from his family its a problem, I be around them, still drama. I haven't told my man nothing about it because I dont want no drama but at the same time he needs to know whats going on. I try to resloved it with his family but its no use. One day everything is alright. The next day its not. Ive been more than nice about the situation. What do you think I should do? I really need help.
2006-06-06 16:48:59 · 36 answers · asked by JENNIFER A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1st, whats he in jail for. Will he be a repeat offender? Will he be a good father? Yes, it would be good for you to distance yourself from that kind of family, but you really need to take an honest look at your boyfriend, what landed him in jail and what is going to change when he is released.
2006-06-06 16:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by King E 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gurl I'ma Be Real...Dont Even Worry Bout That ****...Actually, Take Advantage Of the Situation...If Your Man Really Loves U...He Wont Even Go For It....If He Does Then U Know He Aint What U Want Foreal...And Dont Get All Upset Thats What His Family Is Trying To Get U To Do...Just Laugh It Off And Tell Ur BF To Have Faith In You And Just Trust U.....GOOD LUCK!!
2006-06-06 16:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriend in jail for a major offense? How long is he in jail for? If the answer to the first question is yes and the answer to the second is "a long time", I would suggest that you get on with your life and drop him like a hot potato. He may be the father of your child, but what kind of life are you planning to live... and force your child to live?
If he is in jail for something minor, like failing to pay a court fine or being behind in child support, I would suggest talking to him and telling him that you believe his family is trying to make trouble between the two of you, and let it go at that. He probably has enough stress going on right now and there's probably not much he can do to relieve the situation, as it sounds like his family is kind of dysfunctional. This is just my personal opinion, but I think you need to focus on your child and the kind of life you want to provide for it.
2006-06-06 16:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by respectfully yours 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would talk to your boyfriend about moving FAR away from his family when he gets out of jail. You guys need to be a family, without the drama his family is trying to stir up.
2006-06-06 16:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let yourself keep getting sucked into all that b/s, you and your baby will just go downhill, and it ain't no easy climb up.
Move away away away start new. Give your baby a better life and father that he deserves. What is this guy in for, btw?
2006-06-06 16:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jarna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your man know whats going on. If he cant handle it, let him go....I know it will be hard because he is the father of your child but if he wont trust you then you need to move on with your life. As far as his family goes...leave them alone altogether, If they have a problem with it then they can go complain to your man, and he can explain why they havent seen his child.
2006-06-06 16:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not an expert on this,,,,but....
if you love your boyfriend and he belives in you and you guys have a child together give a try
your boyfriend is locked your, boyfriend wont need a stress,like girlfriend went away,he needs a support ...but...
Try and stay away from your boyfiends family ,if you can afford the rent,
Its easy to talk
wish you luck
2006-06-06 16:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by mario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on honey. You need to focus on your child and what is best for him or her. Tell your boyfriend what is going on and tell him you want to take some time apart from him and see how things go once he gets out of jail.
you have a child now and you need to make sure it doenst grow up in a drama induced inviornment. I grew up like that and believe me, it was always hell around my house because my mom's inlaws hated her. you have to do what is right. move on.
2006-06-06 16:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by 128333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could:
1. Go in a screaming rage at his family about their stupidity. (And probably say something like 'HE IS THE FATHER OF MY CHILD WHY WOULD I CHEAT' or something.
2. Tell you boyfriend about these problems, and ask him to talk to his siblings.
3. Dump him and his family and go to Vegas.
2006-06-06 16:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mellorine~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!! Why the heck would you want to marry a criminal anyway? Sounds like co-dependency rather than real love. What kind of father could he possibly be for your child?
2006-06-06 17:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by uselessadvice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋