I just cant decide...I dont wanna because then my son's father has every right to him...and I do want to becuase I am not the only one that she be supporting this child...I didnt make him alone
2006-06-06 16:34:46 · 12 answers · asked by green_eyes_323_02 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You need to do what's best for you and your son. My father, even after he fought for half custody, wanted nothing to do with me after like 6 months. If you can support your son by yourself, and believe that the father would be a bad influence, then dont seek support. If you cant, then go ahead an seek the support. If he is not interested in helping financially, then I seriously doubt that he is going to want visitation. If he does want visitation, it would be best for you to let him, on your terms and your schedule. Good Luck!!
2006-06-06 16:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by HCW 4 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I decided early on that this is my responsibility, and mine alone. It's not really fair to you that I'm a single dad (as opposed to a single mom), and generally get paid more in the workforce. But my daughter and I made the decision three years ago, that having a dead-beat Mom is much better than having a dead-beat Mom that's in prison (her boyfriend had to get a loan to pay off $200 of child support). By joint decision of the two of us, we let her off child support, instead of terminating her parental rights, like she asked us to do. My (14 year-old) daughter knows who her Mom is, nothing will change that now.
But, then again, her Mom was actually a pretty good mom when she decided to be, and our daughter's never seen her drunk. And she never will, if her mom has anything to say about it. Your situation may be different... use your own judgement.
2006-06-06 22:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts about being tied to your son's father for 18 years; and he doesn't insist on paying; and YOU can make it work on your own; then go it alone!! You wont regret it, believe me. If he has any control issues, you will regret setting the precedent and making him pay.
However if he desires a relationship with his child and wants to be involved, then you have absolutely no right to refuse him (barring abusive or addictive behaviour)...and in this case you should go through the courts and get it worked out on paper.
It's a really tough decision but if you listen to your heart you'll know the answer! I wish you well on your journey of motherhood!!
Blessings
2006-06-06 19:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
true you didn't get this child alone.but remember that if you get child support then he will have the right to see his son.think of what importance to you .and how you can support this child without the extra money.make budget and see if your jobs can support you and your son.the easy thing will be coming to agree between two parent once you separate from each other.but it not between you and him any more it also the child involve.consider that child feeling as well.because that is his father.because once that child get older he will blame you for everything.i don't know everything going on in you and his life.but please put the child first and not your feeling .sound like he hurt you badly but broken hearth can heal but child go through with draw.and depression Thur everything .some children hold in.i don't know how old your son.but please think before making your decision not to let him see the child. from friend
2006-06-06 16:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is number one, a way to get the person who helped create the baby to take of him/her. It is not punishment. Does the child see the parent? Is visitation steady? When you need something for the baby and you ask him does he help you? If the person does not want anything to do with the baby then ask him to give up their rights or to give up FULL custody.......
2006-06-06 16:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have the court limit visitation and put restrictions on the visitations granted. You didn't make this child on your own and someday he'll want to know why his father didn't have more to do with him. It'll be easier for you if you don't make that your fault. Good luck.
2006-06-06 16:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by pjt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly you should receive child support don't hesitate! You do not know what is ahead the next 18 years...
Any monies toward the support of your child will be spent, "and then some", you can bet on that.
Go for it....
2006-06-06 16:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by John R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE CHILD SUPPORT, but don't be one of those moms who use it for her, buy your son toys, clothes and things he needs. But you should let him see his son, unless he is just a bad person, but get the courts to help if u need them too.
2006-06-06 16:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya our instituion gives rights to fathers n second preference to their mothers who care so much for the child
abut u urs son if he is too small he needs both of u coz the thing is not abut rights there its his growth period he needs both of u i know it feels need of a father of no use if he is not at all intrested in ur childs activities but its need i guess atleast for their name sake i know its hard for u to decide but r u ready abut the questions he wud ask n have to ans n its up to u too if u wannn continue ur relation its gud or else dont be in a realtion where there is no place for urself n ur opinions
2006-06-06 16:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he helped make him, he has a right to be involved in his life (unless he is an abuser). Therefore, take the support!
P.S. Did your birth control fail?
2006-06-06 16:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by sweetiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋