OK, I'm gonna be an 8th grader in August and my parents say I can't go out with guys because I'm too young to handle a relationship. The thing is that in the past I've been asked out before and I don't really know how to break the news to them. I don't want them to be mad at me and I still want them to think good of me, but not hate me because I'm banned from dating. What do I do? And what do I do to stay true to my parents who trust me so much-like how can I stay occupied with other stuff? It's so hard because everybody else does it...it's major peer pressure.
2006-06-06 15:48:59 · 52 answers · asked by sweetdollツ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
easy just say no
2006-06-06 15:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by loquito 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I mean personally, I don't think its up to your parents to decide when you should start dating, only you can decide that. If it were up to them you probably wouldn't start until you were 18. Lord knows when they would want you doing other things...
The "dating" that 8th graders do is an important part of your social life. But if you want to obey your parents, thats cool. Just tell the guys that you aren't interested. They don't have to know the true reasons behind your decision. Sticking to that excuse will stop other kids from looking at you in a weird way because quite frankly: who listens to their parents all the time?
2006-06-06 15:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by bboytwogun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy the truth. Tell him he's cool and you really like him and maybe if you continue to stay good friends when your old enough to date you guys can, but for now your parents have a no dating rule. Remind him that just because your not dating doesn't mean you can't go out and do fun stuff together alone or with friends. If he really likes you he'll understand and you guy's can hang out until mom and dad lift the dating rule. :)
2006-06-06 15:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by mailie0880 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and say you respect your parents and dont want to ruin the trust they have in you. It might seem like a big deal and in the long run guys tend to be more interested in the unatainable anyhow. Anyone who is mad about you not being able to date and wanting to honor your relationship with your parents is a jerk anyway. Maybe talking to your parents about group activities that are coed would help you not to feel left out or hosting a coed party where they know you are safe. Just remember that as lame as it sounds they love you and want the best for you and the best way to earn their trust in your judgement is to comunicate with them and trust them.
2006-06-06 15:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lanie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you realize that your parents are just looking out for you. If you need to break the news to this guy gently then just tell him the truth and put it on your parents....
Im not sure what your interests are but Im sure you can figure out something that can occupy you and take your mind off of your hormones...do you have any other friends who dont date yet? If so hang out with them!
2006-06-06 15:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by geet840 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest with the guys. Tell them that you are not allowed to go out with guys yet. Say it with a smile and continue to talk to them after you let them know... that way they'll know you just didn't shoot them down cause you didn't like them.
In the future, when you are allowed to date, keep on being open and honest. Don't make excuses for ditching a guy when he asks you out, like "oh, I'm busy tonight" or "I have to go out with my parents". Just tell them as sweetly as you, "No thank you". If they ask why, tell them some of the reasons as kindly as possible. Like, "because I'm interested in [this 'type' of guy]" or "I'm not interested in dating you as a boyfriend".
Blatant honesty and rejection can definitely hurt, but I think it is far better than being mislead or fed a line of crap. Honesty all the way. Just make sure you do it in a humane way
2006-06-06 15:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by imrational 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually good you respect your parent enough to honor their wishes. If they trust you you will have more privileges, a good relationship with them, and will be able to date sooner. They are wiser than you think, really. Don't sweat it 'cause you'll date soon enough. So in the meantime, you don't want to shoot down the boys that could be potential dates down the road, so smile coyly and say, thanks for the interest but I'd rather just be friends for now. They won't pressure you, you'll save face, and won't hurt any feelings in the process. Good luck.
2006-06-06 15:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by happy butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your courage and your conviction to your parents. I don't think there is an easy way, though. You can simply take the, I haven't found the right guy approach but then you'll seem snobish.
Most 8th graders are too immature to understand from where you are coming.
2006-06-06 15:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by something 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you say it nicely. The second time you say it firmly. After that, if they ask again, you do speak to them at all. Anyone who would press you is not someone you should be around anyway.
Welcome to the foothills of adulthood. Enjoy the fascinating paths before you, because just around that bend up ahead, the trail gets steeper and more complex.
2006-06-06 15:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell the young man no.and stand on what you believe.because most young girls are being very weak and give in to young man.if he care anything about you he will understand.you are to young and have you whole life ahead.young men's are just trying to prove to there friend that they can get what they want.if he respect you he can wait. you don't want be in high school with baby and cant enjoy you teens.wait until you ready.if he get mad then you better off without him.listen to your parent.HIV have no curse,so please listen to your parent .from a dear friend
2006-06-06 15:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let his him know that you are not permitted to date right now, but you still can remain friends. Explain to them that a friendship will mean a lot more to you right now than a relationship. Also, if they get upset with you then you should know that they were never really interested in a relationship anyway....call yourself lucky!
2006-06-06 15:53:52 · answer #11 · answered by faikeijames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋