i got married about a year ago but i seem to think this woman i married, i dont love her like i thought i did(confused living in albany ny).
2006-06-06 15:38:56 · 16 answers · asked by LOVE SEX WID WOMAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My friends i think secretly regrets it too.
2006-06-06 15:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by maya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People marry because they think it's the right thing to do. We all want love and when we are young we don't really understand what love and commitment is so we make mistakes. Basically we are doing what society tells us, going with the status quo. One really needs to know the answers to the big questions, such as what is love... The best person to marry is your best friend, someone who loves you for who you are and encourages you to be the best you can be, puts no limits and boundaries upon you.,, oh hell, I could go on and on... One last thing someone who doesnt have some preconceived notion of what a good husband or wife should be and then try to change them to fit the mold.
Take your time and decide what you really want out of a relationship and wait for it. It will come. In the meantime, try to remember what you loved about her and quit looking at all the shortcomings. Give up the power struggle and try to enjoy each other!
2006-06-06 22:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by bobo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, do not jump to divorce. Every marraige goes through a time when you think "what if". I went through the same thing at year 3. I started going out with my single friends and thinking, what if I never got married, and what if I got divorced. I thought I would be happier. The truth is Marraige is a huge change in your life and it takes awhile to get used to. You are probably realizing that the woman you married isn't perfect. Well, guess what...NO ONE IS!!!!
2006-06-06 22:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Always me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, about 3/4 of them, but they will not admit it...and the feeling comes and goes, some days it is heaven, other days hell. So what else is new. Does anyone make a committment anymore? Or is it "I do...until something better comes along." OR is it, "I do, unless the going gets rough, then I want out." You need to work on what you have, make it good again. Did you think you would always be in lust???? Get real.
2006-06-06 22:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. In fact, I stood at the altar and thought.."say no, say no."
I would advise a separation.
Don't spend years trying to fall in love. Get some counseling to find out why you feel this way, and if it is just something your going through, or if you made a mistake.
It is better to do something about it early and before children...that makes it harder to walk away.
You don't want to spend your entire life in resent and regret...and the longer you wait the more it will hurt her. Do something now before you waste another day of yours and hers being unhappy.
trust me...I wish I had sooner...and I am a female.
2006-06-06 22:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by peskygnats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through this...however, I think your best option is to talk about it, and get couseling...maybe it has nothing to do with your marriage, maybe it is something from your past, causing problems in your marriage that you are not recongizing. Not to make it sound bad...I just mean that most of the time, what I have learned is that, it is not the marriage, it is the expectations that you assumed were going to happen in your marriage, either from the way your parents acted when you were younger, or something that happened when you were younger. You should really look into it.
2006-06-13 20:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by lambdapicchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, this marriage s__t doesn't' come easy...... it's a job. So unfortunately Sir, you are ALREADY AT That break in the rode where you now have a decision to make. Work on it or not? If yes, then give it your full attention. 100%.!! Period....
If not, well then get on with it, be done with it, the sooner the better, and try to be civil.
Hopes there are no kids yet.
Good luck
2006-06-06 22:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you didn't date her long enough. lol That sucks brother. A wise man once told me that before you get married you are supposed to keep your eyes wide open. After marriage you have to shut them half way. Unfortunately, most of us close our eyes in the beginning and then have them rudely opened after we get married. If you do not have children, get out now. Do not risk having a child. It will surely make things worse and your relationship will be in that much more risk. If you do have kids, trying closing your eyes half way.
2006-06-06 22:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by 3 Card 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not married but there are plenty of married people that have felt like saying "i do" was a terrible mistake...they're divorced. the best thing i can tell you is to tell her how you feel, sit and talk and see if there is anything that can be done to help save your marriage, even counseling. BUt the best counseling is communication!
2006-06-06 22:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Shuggah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal..love changes and it is a true roller coaster. You don't love her like you thought you did, just differently. If you married her only for love, you are going to be unhappy because to make it last and survive it, there has to be more depth to why you said I do. Good luck.
2006-06-06 22:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by legal&sane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. I really love my husband, but sometimes I feel like that love isnt returned and think id be more loved and appreciated by someone else. When it comes to his family, mainly my mother-in-law...If I had known she was going to put me through everything she has, I may have thought twice B4 saying "I DO".
2006-06-06 22:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋