Do you worry about screwing up your kids?

Question

I am doing my best, but didn't have good examples in my parents. Do you worry that you're doing some 'bad parenting' without knowing it?

Answer 1

If you are worried about it then it sounds like you are very caring and loving regardless of your own parents. We dont always turn out just like our parents....I think sometimes we learn from thier mistakes and do the opposite of what they did. You are probably a great parent!

Answer 2

Yes, we all think about how we're screwing up our kids-now I know that if I hadn't wondered, I didn't care enough to be a good parent! Since you didn't have good examples for parents, seek advice from people you trust or take a parenting class if you are unsure of a decision or life event. Good luck!
To dmercer12679-you have had a lot of things happen that are beyond your control-stop feeling guilty! Repeating K is better than repeating a grade later on. Talk to his teacher and see how she feels about his progress. Is there a summer program through school or a library that he could participate in? I know you have your hands full but try to work on needed reading skills this summer at home. He will need some 1:1 time with you anyway with the new baby arriving.

Answer 3

Every parent worry about that thats just human nature. But if you know your doing your all for that child physically and especially mentally your doing your job, remember everyone is learning, you as well as your child so you have to do it together, don't worry about messing up cause you will soon develop a routine and after a while it'll seem like a piece of cake. (until the teenage years) that is like starting all over again but worse.

Answer 4

I find myself worrying about that sometimes. I didn't have good examples in my parents either, but I find that because of their poor parenting skills I push myself to be every thing they weren't. My parents were alcoholics and I dont drink, smoke, etc. and I make sure that I do things with my kids, take them to zoos, fairs, the library, museums, etc, and I always tell them how proud I am of them and how much I love them. I mainly find myself wondering if I am screwing up as a parent when I am super stressed out cause I have been up all night with our 11 week old and something puts me over the edge and I end up yelling at my 6 year old because he is throwing a fit over not getting a toy or some thing like that. Then I realize I have just screamed at the top of my lungs just like my parents would and just like I said I never would and I feel like crap for doing it.
I also feel like I am screwing up as a parent because my 11 week old was a high risk pregnancy and he was 5 1/2 weeks early, so my husband and I were at the hospital with him 45 minutes away and our 6 year old stayed with relatives who weren't able to drive him to school, so he missed over 2 weeks of school, then 1 1/2 weeks after he went back to school he was out for almost 2 more weeks with Shingles, and then this last week and 1/2 he has been out of school with bronchitis and the baby has RSV so the doctor told me even if my 6 year old got well last week to wait until the middle of this week to send him to school so the baby is finished with his antibiotics and well, incase my 6 year old brought some thing else home from school while the baby was still sick cause it could turn into some thing even worse. Anyways, he has missed so much school this year, I just keep thinking that he is going to be so behind in 1st grade next year (he is in kindergarten this year) so I have bought him all these phonics programs and I just keep thinking the school is going to tell me he cant pass kindergarten because he has missed so much school. I keep thinking that I have already screwed up his education before he's even in first grade. I realized school ends in 2 weeks and started crying because he can't read all the way because he missed so much and now schools going to be done and he wont be able to learn how to fully read in 2 weeks. I don't know if he is supposed to be able to read and write fully to start first grade or what. UGH, that makes me feel like a crappy mom right there.

Answer 5

Yes sometimes I worry, when I get frustrated with them. Every parent feels this way. None of us where born to be perfect parents. Just do your best and everything will turn out fine. Keep the child's best interest at heart and tell them you love them everyday.

Answer 6

Yep, if I cave in and let him have his way too often, I feel like I'm raising a spoiled brat who won't understand the word "NO".

If I make him do what he's supposed to and just be strict, I feel like I'm suppressing something and he'll be one of those foolish men who ask me out all the time, but then act like they need a manual to get through a first date, hold a job or just exist in life.

When I try to find balance, it's like I'm sending mixed messages.

Parenting is hard -- u do the best u can and I pray about it all the time.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Everyday. My seven year old and I butt heads all day, every day. It breaks my heart. I try to be a good mom, but atleast four times per day I feel like a failure. Just love them unconditionally, pray for the best, and hang on for the ride.

Answer 9

yes i worry all the time, but i know that i am doing the best that i know how to do and that is about all i can do

Answer 10

I worried so much, I played it save and got my tubes tied! No kids..no worries...no headaches or heartbreakes..life is sweet