2006-06-06 14:56:39 · 20 answers · asked by missy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
WHAT?????? There is something someone is not telling me about them? Did they commit a crime or something?????
2006-06-11 16:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
My son was 11 yrs old when I finally told him where all of his christmas gifts really came from. He was devastated. This came at one xmas when I was really strapped for cash and had basically bought all that he wanted and him figuring that it all came from Santa every year and that it was for free decided that he would just squeeze one more thing out of Santa.
Well he got a surprise! I gently sat him down and explained the Santa story to him. I had never seen him cry so much in my life. But he understood, he later explained that it was not so much the disappointment that Santa was a lie, but the fact that I waited for so long before telling him. So as per his reasoning around 9 yrs old is good.
2006-06-06 23:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by somebrowning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-06 21:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the very first time they ask you!
the moment they find out that it is not real if you have been lying to them will be the moment they start to wonder if you lie to them about other things that they value.
my parents never let me believe in santa or the tooth fairy but i still got Christmas presents and i still got money for losing teeth. i do not feel that i missed out on anything other than disappointment!!
there are many other ways to make childhood fun than telling them make believe is real.
2006-06-06 22:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by dharma_claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer to your question is to let them know the minute that they can comprehend it. That way you do not build their hopes up and then say "oh, yeah, well, they aren't real after all." When that happens, the child can become very disappointed and he or she may learn to not trust you. So tell them the truth from the very beginning.
2006-06-06 23:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, my parents never told me, they just sort of let me figure it out for myself. It wasnt a big shock for me or anything this way. I think that its almost better this way, because then your child doesnt have to be upset about it when you finally tell them the truth.
2006-06-06 22:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by skajunky_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most the time children tell you if they believe,if they don't it's ok, if they do,why try to change things for them.
a man went to sleep with his head under the pillow, when he woke up the tooth fairy had taken all his teeth,ha!ha!
2006-06-06 23:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by Ivan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About at the age of 13 or when "they" are starting to get doubts. As long as they beleive it let them be a kid and keep your mouth shut.
2006-06-06 22:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by MonkeyBrains 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the child figure it out and ask you. You don't need to broach the subject. Afterall, kids grow up way, way, way too fast now as it is. We don't need to accelerate it.
2006-06-06 23:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by Amy P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the child. He/she will let you know by asking questions, etc. Don't be in too big a hurry. Let kids be kids.
2006-06-06 22:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them believe as long as they can. They will learn the truth all by themselves all too soon. Then the magic dies.
2006-06-06 22:15:00 · answer #11 · answered by jane d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋