can't saw no to them. I really want 4 people instead I have 12 bridesmaids and flowergirls I want to tell some of them no but they are all pitching in and helping me pay for the wedding. What do I do.
2006-06-06 14:42:50 · 10 answers · asked by lovesweet_cookies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is going to be very expensive to have such a big wedding. You need to figure out the cost and make sure you get the money in plenty of time. You don't want to get stuck with huge expenses.
2006-06-06 14:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by amoss311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 Bridesmaids? That seems a little excessive. Find a way to make them a part of the wedding, but not 'in' the wedding. If they are helping to pay for it, make sure you thank them during your speech, 'for all their help' and make a toast for them.
2006-06-07 16:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you change your wedding for other people, you will regret it! It's our 10th ann. this yr, I'm still bitter.
Let them have different roles, ask one to read a poem or sing a song instead of be a bridesmaid, another to help with organizing guests, stuff like that. If they protest, tell them it's getting too big and out of hand, and stressing you out! They should understand, no woman wants to be stressed over her wedding. Good luck, and stick to your guns!
2006-06-06 21:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loosen up. If they are helping you pay for your wedding then I say that you need to let them be in the wedding. Maybe talk to them and see who possibly wouldnt mind not being in the wedding. Just whatever you do, dont get upset, its your big day, its suppose to be good.
2006-06-06 23:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by ~Lindsey~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha, i have the same problem. my wedding has ballooned to 200+ from only 25. at this point, if you have not invested money in deposits and such, just elope to vegas. cheese is good, and you will still have enough money to put a healthy down-payment on a house with all the money you WON'T spend on a wedding.
2006-06-06 23:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, not theirs. Make sure your wedding is how you want it to be (if you want 4 bridesmaids, then only have 4).
2006-06-06 23:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is supposed to be a special and happy day. you need to sit down and talk to all of them as a group. you need to explain you want to keep the size and the costs down and ask someone if they would be willing to do something else.
i am getting married in july and my brother will not be standing with us...instead i made him an usher and he is totally fine with it since he is going to be helping out still.
if things get too stressful...threaten to go and elope...that works for me when my mother gets out of control
congrats and good luck with whatever happens.
2006-06-07 02:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by beckyg_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would cut back to what you want. It's your day, afterall! If they are true friends, they will understand.
2006-06-06 22:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as they are pitching in and helping pay for it - i say enjoy your day!!! the more the merrier.
2006-06-06 21:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by kaykib320 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wedding should be the way you want it to be not your family , friends, cousins,co-workers, etc... just the way you want it.
2006-06-06 21:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by dari98dae99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋