2006-06-06 14:36:50 · 14 answers · asked by Monica C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no way! absolutely not, you just have to get out there in the dating game, which can be hard if you're tied up with the kid(s) and working... there's no discrimination, finding someone long termer, if hard for anyone... the best mindset is to go out there and play the field... the fact you have a kid is not scary to men, the fact that you're looking for a long termer from day -1 and have a kid would be the putt off... go out and have some fun, and win a guys heart!
2006-06-06 14:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
not impossible, it really depends on why you are a single mom, are you a lying skanky ho that can't keep her legs together? or was your husband an "abuser" or was there never a husband? personally, I don't have a lot of faith in single moms, some got a bad deal and the rest try to make it seem that way. to you, long term may mean a year (compared to the rest you have had). your ex was a loser, well that means you met , screwed and bore a losers child. doesn't say much about your selectivity's.
do you take care of yourself or "relax" all day eating Twinkies? It is very possible to have a long term relationship being a single mom, there has only been 1 single mom I might have married but at this point, knowing her history, I wouldn't touch her with a 10 foot pole. keep your chin up, someone will come along , it may not be prince charming but you gotta lower your expectations, you are no princess. just someone looking for someone you can look at in the morning and not detest them.
2006-06-06 14:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is possible! The key is in understanding exactly what you want from a prospective mate, and making it clear. Try to keep your dating away from your children until you are sure that he is a long term prospect, as kids do become easily attached. Just be open and blunt with the men you are considering dating and make it clear that loving you means loving your children as well. Some will run of course, but they were not for you anyway. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-06 14:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by vbgore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Find a mature guy that likes children. Be honest from day one so when things progress he won't be mad to learn you have kids. You can always invite him over for dinner or you can get a babysitter and go out. Go to the park and bring along the kids, you both will have some time to talk and get to know each other and the kids will be able to play
2006-06-06 14:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ana R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy who has entered into a relationship with a single mother. I have been seeing her for 3months now and I really have strong feelings of love for her. I do love her and I am thinking she could be "the one." I think her daughter is really beautiful. And She is only 1 yr old.
Their are others like me out their. (maybe not as great as me, haha, j/k) You just have to give it time and search around.
I found my GF thru Eharmony.com
2006-06-06 14:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by fguz77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not impossible, but it is risky for your child. You said you "want to have", so I am assuming you do not currently have someone. Health issues, mental health issues, child abuse, drug abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, finances, and on and on, contribute to the staggering divorce rates and incarcerations.
If you do not currently have a significant other, how do you think you will shop for one without spending hours/weeks/months away from your child ?
I am sorry if you are lonely, and i think it is good for you to spend time on yourself, but the national statistics indicate you will have a problem if you introduce someone new into your home with your children.
Good luck to you and your family.
2006-06-06 14:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a single mom and I have had no luckin finding a guy that would stand by me!! I tell everybody this "I am hot enough for a guy to wanna lay with me in bed but not hot enough for a guy to wanna stand by my side in life!!" be careful alot of guys out for one thing only!!
2006-06-06 14:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find Someone That Cares For You And Your Children.
2006-06-06 14:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - just keep looking. I know a whole bunch of single mothers who have found men willing to take in their child or children. It kind of surprises me, but men seem to have changed a lot in this regard so that's a good thing. there's one of those darlin's out there for you, too.
2006-06-06 14:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is soneone out there for everyone. im a single mother and my guy loves my daughter and treats her like his. they are out their just be careful in the beginning
2006-06-06 14:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋