I have never thought of my self as.......?

Question

being "fat" or over weight but my mom. Keeps asking me things like........Are u even going to be able to fit into your prom dress next year.......and can you still fit into your bathing suit from last year?..........and what is that fat under your chin..........you used to be in great shape, what happened? I never even thought of my self as "fat" or what not until my mom started saying things like that. I weigh 150 lbs and i am 5ft 6in......i thought that i looked great.... but now not so much thanks to my sweet mother.....i cant get these things that she said out of my mind i am constantly thinking about them....i am eating better now and exercising......but in between softball practice, work, chores, college and high school classes and studying and having a bf......great eating habits and good exercise do not always fitting in to my schedule( not to mention i work at KFC)
I dont have a real question to ask i just was hopeing that someone had some advice or help for a 17 year old gal

Answer 1

start asking her the same questions she has been asking you. then she will she how it feel...and ask them out of the blue. like when she is standing in front of you eating something she shouldn't ask her nonchalantly if she has gained a few pounds. if that don't work tell her to cut the crap and you like yourself just the way you are.

Answer 2

I am really sorry to hear the comments your mother has made to you. I know that I definitely would feel hurt, and if you feel the same way, try talking to your mom and tell her how you feel. Tell her you would appreciate her appreciating the good things about you and try to comment on those things. Maybe your grandmother did the same thing to your mom at your age, so she grew up thinking it was ok to talk to you like that. It sounds like you accepted yourself the way you were and were happy with that. I encourage that more, because if you can do that, there is no need to worry about fitting into any prom dress or bathing suit. I hope you can continue loving your beautiful self inside and out.

Answer 3

Your mom makes herself feel better by putting you down. I went through that my entire life and she would not stop bugging me about my weight. I was either too fat or too thin. No in-between. And it made me very insecure for too many years after that and I always worried about my weight. You are not overweight by any means for your height so as difficult as it may be, you have to just ignore her and not believe what she says to be true. YOU ARE NOT OVERWEIGHT AT ALL. Stay strong, ignore her and just keep reminding yourself that one day you will be able to move out of there and not have to deal with her crap anymore. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 4

I went through a similiar situiation only I was 19 My mom told me I was overweight so I went on a no fat diet and lost like 20 pounds in two months and do you know she had the nerve to tell me I looked to thin. You can't please your mom perhaps her insecurity about weight is the reason she is being so cruel. Let your mom know that you are happy with your weight and her words are extremely hurtful.Good luck yo you

Answer 5

Don't worry about the things your mom says.Yes, it might get to youand if it does that means you have to talk to her. Don't let her put you down.If she doesn't want any one else to do it wat makes her think she's different. U kno? If you want to lose weight i can give you so tips. If you don't wanna lose weight then stay the way you are and be happy with that. If you like the way you look then keep that the size. Be proud the way you look. You is you and the way is great! I kno! So keep that head up and don't let anyone put you down, not even your family.

Answer 6

I guess your mom just wanted to make you start eating healthy and start some work out and she did not know that it can hurt ...
My husband used ( still sometimes does ) to do this things... it hurts for sure... but as long and you are active and eating healthy... and look good ( I am sure you look great ) do not worry ... that is your mom's way to ask you to be more healthy...
take it easy :)
and do not eat at KFC.... ;)

Answer 7

Your mom doesn't realize how insensitive she is. Moms who act like yours are often living their lives vicariously through their children : you. In other words, your mom needs to get her own life.
I would be thrilled to have a daughter with your ambition and brightness. You certainly are not overweight.
Don't eat any KFC because of trans fats/cholesterol, and try to ignore your mom. It might help if you kept a photo of yourself taped to your bedroom mirror so that you will be able to see yourself realistically instead of through your mom's delusions.
Good luck.

Answer 8

this is just short of verbal abuse and honestly sweety you are within your weight range but if you really want to know where you stand weight wise talk to a school nurse to go to a navy recruting station tell them you have considered joining but your worried about your weight they will put you on a scale in a heart beat also while your their listen to what they have to offer cause it sounds like you need to get away from mom

Answer 9

Try not to listen to her. I have a friend who is BEAUTIFUL, and she is always involved in modeling, yet her mother is constantly putting her on diets and telling her she is fat. Some mom's are just like that, try not to pay to much attention to it.

Answer 10

my dumbass dad says that all the time...parents dont understand that every time they say that it hurts our feelings and cuts our self essteem...wat a good parent to ask for advice...we dont so we come here^^