Why girls call boys pervert if there is a sexual comment. or what ... Girls don't have their sadist side too?

Question

Please do not COPY and PASTE your answer from any sources.... give your answer as how you feel it.

Answer 1

only the freaky girls! i like when guys say that, a pervert is someone who looks in the window when ur showering. being horny is a good thing and its not perverted

Answer 2

there are more male perverts than female.men just dont seem to have a prob with sayin wats on their minds sex wise.but women tend to find that if a man who is not their partner and make Cretan remarks are being disrespectful. just be careful with what ya say

Answer 3

Both sexes can be equally mean or sadistic, of course (or at least that's my opinion), but men do seem to dominate when it comes to sexual harassment and assault. Most cases of sexual harassment are men who sexually harass women, although sometimes women sexually harass men, and other times men sexually harass other men.

The legal definition of sexual harassment is as follows (see edit note below about the use of cut and paste here): "Sexual harassment is any unwelcome sexual advance, request for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature when submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual's work performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment."

Sexual harassment is not simply "flirtatiousness, hormones or sexual desire. Most harassers share a common goal - intimidation."

But of course, outside of work men are even less on their best behavior and more likely to sexually harass women because they are less likely to be prosecuted for sexual harassment if it's not work related. My personal experience is that the occurence of sexual innuendoes and sexual jokes made by men on the job have decreased tremendously in the last decade, but stupid sexual references made outside of work by men have not.

And then there's the case of sexual assault, which may take things even further. Sexual assault is defined as follows: "Sexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to join in unwanted sexual contact or attention. Examples of this are voyeurism (when someone watches private sexual acts), exhibitionism (when someone exposes him/herself in public), incest (sexual contact between family members), and sexual harassment. It can happen in different situations, by a stranger in an isolated place, on a date, or in the home by someone you know." Both men and women, adults and children, can be victims of sexual assault. The perpetrators of these crimes are almost always male and usually identify themselves as heterosexual, even if the assault was against another male. In other words, sexual assault is a type of sadism that men seem to have a monopoly on. So no, girls don't have their sadistic side, too, at least not when it comes to sexual assault.

Not that the occasional dirty joke makes you a sexual offender. Obviously that's not usually the case. However, if people often find sexual comments disgusting or offensive that you personally think are harmless or amusing, it may be that you're crossing a line. It's always best to err on the side of conservatism when it comes to sexually explicit comments or jokes. After all, what you consider playful and amusing might come across as sexual harassment to someone else. It should go without saying that if the "girl" who calls you a pervert is a coworker or employee, you're breaking the law.


EDIT: Although I have answered using my own opinion, and in fact in more detail than the previous answerers, I did copy and paste select sections of text, but all of them are in quotations, and sources are given below. This is called documentation, and it's something that people do regularly to back up their own arguments with solid evidence without plagiarizing. After all, in certain settings, supposedly harmless sexual comments can and do constitute sexual harassment, which is a CRIME. The opinion about the girls vs. boys issue I have answered in my own words, but to explain the difference between a merely annoying comment and an annoying comment that breaks the law requires an understanding of the law itself. And what better way to point out the meaning of the law than to quote it fully? It would be arrogant and potentially negligent of me to presume to speak for the law when Congress has already defined sexual harassment for us; hence the "cut and paste" sections (all of which are in quotes) to which you apparently (and erroneously, in my opinion) object.

Is that enough of my own answer "as I feel it" for you, or do you need some more?