my girlfriend went on a buissness trip but she kissed another guy. she says that he was bothering her and he bit her. i dont know how but said that the bite turned into a kiss. she kissed him back.when she came back friday.she acted like noting happened. when we were out in public she saw a co-worker and she told me that we should walk the oppisite direction. my best friend from her job had to tell me what happened and he said that she had just admitted it in the office. i told one of my female friends to talk to her and to ask her why is she avoiding me.my friend said that she did do it.she tried to tell me friday but she couldnt find the words. she said that she really loves me and she cant stand us not being together. she had been avoiding me because she was afraid of what i would say.im very hurt but i love her.she was the best that i had ever had.what to do?
2006-06-06 14:03:49 · 17 answers · asked by rick b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who cares. It's a kiss. It's not like he gave her a glob in the yapper.
And anyway... you're just dating. You don't own her. Why are people so obsessed with owning the rights to another person's sex? That's all it is.
If you really love eacher... and trust eachother... you should be able to screw around with whoever you want, and it shouldn't affect or your love or trust.
2006-06-06 14:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That's a tough situation.
If I were you, I wouldn't forgive her too easily. I'd tell her how badly I was hurt by her "antics" and remind her that healing from something as shocking as this may take a few days. Assuming that you would rather have heard about the kiss from her rather than someone else, tell her that you'd appreciate an honest relationship in which you two will tell each other the truth all the time, every time. Trust is key in a relationship; you should be able to trust her and she should be able to trust you. If she really loves you, she'll respect your wishes and give you time to heal.
(I wouldn't give her the cold shoulder, though. Be kind, but be sincere. If you don't feel like joking around with her because you're still hurt, then don't do so. Allow yourself time to heal. She owes you that much.)
If this happens again, dump her; you'd deserve better. Good luck!
2006-06-06 21:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by akatd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you still lover her , give her a second chance . even before you want to give her a second chance, you can try sitting down with her and express your feelings of how you felt and let her know that you really love her and prefer honesty from her when in a relationship and that you willing to forgive her if she is honest with you. if she really loves you , she will sure to tell you honestly what happened but remember to be in a gentle tone,when expressing the feelings out. well, everyone deserves a second chance. if she did do it and now she is afraid to hear what you would say shows something to you, she really care for your feelings and maybe deep down inside her she long for your forgive ness. so perhaps a heart - to - heart talk to your girl friend will be a best alternative.
in another view, if she does not be truthful to you even what you have express and told her then maybe she is really hiding truth from you and maybe you can consider to suggest a break up and have a move on in your life because trust and love is something that should be in a relationship. its already wrong for her to do it on a business trip.its already being unfaithful to the other partner.
2006-06-06 21:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dude, you need to kick her to the curb, not only did she kiss a dude, she lied to you, she has crossed the imaginary line, her fear is gone now, she is waiting to see if she gets away with it, she will be screwing him regularly as soon as she sees she got away with it. the best you ever had, dude don't tell her that, she will for sure put a hurting on you, no matter what she does, you will always take her back. that is lame. no guy just out of the blue kisses a gurl, she led him to believe that's what she wanted, ask yourself , would you just kiss someone out of the blue without being given the come on? of course not, guys don't do that. they wait until they get the signals, she gave him the signals, and he was gonna give it to her like he knew she wanted. I will bet you a buck she screwed him too. remember Bill Clinton, we didn't have sex , yeah right, women can look you right in the eye and lie to you and you will believe it, you want to believe it, you don't want to know your woman screwed another dude on a business trip. and maybe not the first time. oh well, start looking for a new g/f.
2006-06-06 21:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allow her to explain herself (with no interruptions, let her just talk); maybe she is remorseful and doesn't know how to express herself. Apparently she is ashamed of what she's done because she's "dodging & weaving" to avoid the confrontation. Let her know how you feel about her (without being too sappy) and watch her reaction. If she appears sorry of what's happened; maybe the relationship can be salvaged. If not, consider it a blessing and move on!
2006-06-06 21:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is something that you want in a relationship the two of would have to sit down and find out where the problem is in your relationship, what made her cheat in the first place and see if you can make it work,and see if you can forgive and trust her.
2006-06-06 21:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is to explain to her how you feel and what that means to you and explain to her once again what you expect from your relationship and move on and trust her again. it will be hard but if she is sorry truly sorry and you forgive her then part of forgiveness is moving past that. if she is a good person even good people make mistakes and that was exactly what it was. just chalk it up to that and leave the thought of it alone. good luck.
2006-06-06 21:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question you may want to think about is if she loves you so much, why is it that she admitted to it at the office first and not you? she was avoiding you because of shame. It is up to your heart to forgive and learn to retrust her again...if she is worth it then your heart will let you know,,,if you don't think you can trust her again the relationship probally won't work out..good luck.
2006-06-06 21:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU need to unwind and think about the information... then you need to sit down and get it all out in the open...... talk to her and get the whole story...... keep in mind she could be lying to you, but you know her better than I are anyone on here does, in fact we dont know her at all...... but after having the talk, YOU need to step back and think again about it all....... is it worth it, is she worth another chance..... can YOU let it go if the information she gives you is heartbreaking.. can you trust her again and NOT throw it up in her face ??? lots to think about here....... God bless
2006-06-06 21:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat don't believe her!! move on!! it will take a while to get over her but in the long run it will be worth it!!
2006-06-06 21:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋