i was also being forced to sign.. there father and his family was saying that i would never get to see the kids again if i didnt sign it.
2006-06-06 13:48:55 · 25 answers · asked by krystinah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
under the influence of drugs and is it ... lol :(
2006-06-06 13:50:12 · update #1
i was moving out of sate to get off drugs and i didnt know much about where i was going and left the kids with there father to keep them safe they forced me sayign that if i dint sign i would never ever be able to see them again.. but i have talked to lawers and there saying i have rights because we have not formalling gone to court yet and i agree if i was under the influence of anything i didnt desearve them hence why i left to remove myself from all situations that could harm me even myself until i got better and that was over three years ago and i am so much better now.. what should i do about this all?
2006-06-06 13:56:34 · update #2
that could harm them... even me.
2006-06-06 14:00:31 · update #3
I'm going through almost the same thing.
if you signed its on you unless you have a way to prove you were forced....but also admitting to the drug thing could hurt you also. you can always go to court for visitation or even custody but will have to prove your not or haven't been using any drugs...and that your fit for the child to be around...
I've been fighting back and forth with my X over my 4yr old son. for the past 3yrs also.
I have learned alot about the legal processes and lawyers have taught me lots of dirty tricks...i could give you a few ideas about what to do !!!
you don't have to let someone take all your rights ! you do have rights and most courts are pro-mother..at least in my area...and i got joint custody.
2006-06-06 13:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by The Hit Man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The agreement is old news and it's binding. NOW what???!!!
The family and kids need you to be well.........to heck with "the agreement".
What have you done in the last 3 years to turn your life around?? THAT is what matters the most.......to any judge and most family members.
If you are clean/sober and have a job that you are very focused on, then you have helped MANY people. You have already started to mend some fences.
Don't look for everyone elses approval, though. You may have hurt your family SOOOOO much that they will never forgive you fully. Just try to keep yourself heading in the right direction and things will get better over time.
Your kids will be proud of you.
2006-06-06 14:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by TeaSwami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget lawyers and fighting to get out of the agreement you signed. There is a saying... For you future, some doors are closed and locked, some are closed but waiting for you to knock, others are open and waiting for you to walk in.
What is inside may be good or bad for you. You have chosen to enter bad doors before and the results are where you are now.
You will always be able to enter those doors again. You are a drug addict. Addiction will not go away. Most addicts are not able to quit. What about you? Are you able to leave drugs behind and never use them again?
Your goal is to become the person that your children need you to be. Get straight. Get upright. Take care of yourself. Reach the point where you are drug free and independent. Get a job and keep it. Make a home for yourself that your children can be happy to visit you. If you are strong enough you can have your children and family back again. If you chose addiction, you can easily have that until you die. Some addicts can only quit when the next door they open will be their death. Then they can see that they must turn away or die. You must be responsible for your life. It is your choices that have led you to this situation. Can you make new choices? Can you love something besides the drugs? Really, the choice is yours and you must make it every day. Chose to live, chose to die. Chose love, Chose fear. Love yourself enough to live. Fear your life enough to die.
What are you going to chose? If you chose to live, then get help. See the link.
2006-06-06 14:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by China Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly this is Legal. Many people have been forced into a "Plea Bargain" or other type of Agreement when Depressed/Under Drug Influence. Court systems are not always fair.
2006-06-06 13:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to prove that you were under the influence of drugs so that the contract will be nullified. Do it now, file it in court while it's still early, otherwise, the period will prescribe if you'll not take any action now.
2006-06-06 13:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it is legal. until you are able to prove in a court of law that it should be nullified, it will continue to be legal. even if you do prove the "agreement" was made when you were not capable of making it, you won't get the kids until you satisfy the court that you are not a drug-addict.
good luck.
2006-06-06 13:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by © 2007. Sammy Z. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it didnt go to court or they didnt have a lawya presant, or for that matter have a lawya draw the papers up.. you are still in with a chance.. get a lawya, talk to them... and make sure you can prove that you are off the drugs.. do parenting corses, drug tests ect to show that you are wanting apart of your childs life...
good luck hey,, sound like your in a bit of a tie...
2006-06-06 14:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, no cause you weren't 100% there. But you won't win that case in court cause you were using Drugs, and for the Judge to hear that you will never see your kids again, so your pretty much ******.
2006-06-06 13:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by halochick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were under the influence of drugs, you should not have anything to do with the kids.
2006-06-06 13:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always hire a lawyer and contest any agreement. Courts are the final arbiters of the law, not contracts.
2006-06-06 13:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by John Luke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋