what do u do when u want a child real bad, u feel u are ready to be a mother, but u just 18?

Question

ok people i had to rephrase the question, it's not that i don't feel loved cuz i really do. i have loving friends and family

also my first niece was born when i was 7 and i've been raising all ten of my nieces and nephews since then. so like i said i think im ready, i just want some opinions from people outside my family

Answer 1

Hey,

Its okay to feel that way nothings wrong with that at all. Its just your mother instincts kicking in . I'm sure you will be a great mom someday but in my opinion you should stick it out and wait. I have a son who is 3 years old . I had him when i was 18(got pregnant at 17). It wasn't planned but I love him like it was. But through out your young life there is so much to experience. Not saying you cant do it while having a child, but just speaking from someone who has been through it well is going through it its best to wait so you can enjou your young adult life without the major responsibilities. Theres so much in the world to experience. A child is a blessing from above! Also its best to be financially established and to have a husband so you can be a family. i Can tell you its not easy to be a single mom. But its NOT impossible. Also you want your child to have both parents around and if your partner may not feel the same way it probably wont g o as you planned it. The last thing you want is baby-daddy/momma drama!Think about you child not your present needs.You have so much ahead of you and so much time. Don't rush your time it will come and it will be wonderful. Good luck and look to the sky!

Answer 2

WOW, you trully are amazing. I've also helped alot ini raising my brothers and sisters(7 of them) since I was about 9and a half. I'm also 18 but no longer want kids at such a young age. There is a whole world out there and I think you should explore it first. Go have adventures and different experiences before settling down, I mean you want to tell yor child about all the exciting things you did before you became a mother, then you can have many more exciting times once you are a mother. My friend who is also 18 has a two week old, and she's struggling already. Think carefully about what you want, don't rush because there's alot of time for having babies. But it sounds like you want a baby because you have alot of love to give, which is exactly how a mother should be. Good Luck, hope I helped.

Answer 3

The nice answer is...if you are emotionally and financially ready and married (it's tougher than you think to do it on your own! or even with family!) then any age is ok. But at 18 years old, it's doubtful that you are prepared for a child. And if your partner is an 18 year old BOY then you are way in over your head. I would suggest you wait a while. My brother is 18 and he has a 6 month old daughter who had a kidney condition at birth and will be getting surgery soon. He also no longer has a good relationship with the mother of his daughter. Kids are real. REAL HARD. Please think it over. Go to college. See the world. Live a little before you strap yourself down.

Answer 4

So, you are married, and have a many-year committed relationship with the father? Being a single mom is hard on you and the child, you both have reduces opportunities. Don't choose that for your child, it's selfish.

So, you and your husband have steady jobs (at 18?) and can afford for one of you to care full time for a baby, or you can afford day care. You live on your own without help from either of your mom's and dad's, and you aren't going to just push your baby off on it's grandma whenever you need or want.

Having a child before you have a strong marriage and good, promising careers, means that you and your child will be more likely to be poor, having much less educational chances, even lower access to health care. You want to CHOOSE this life for your child?

If you are looking for a purpose in life, try going to college, becoming more educated, having a real job for a few years, while finding a stable man who wants a house and a family (instead of a "bad boy" who only wants to party, or get in trouble). That is a ticket to a better life, and a wonderful gift to give your future babies.

Answer 5

YOUR AGE IS 18 AND WHAT IS THE AGE OF YOUR PARTNER? IT IS NOT CLEAR WHETHER YOU ARE MARRIED AT ALL.yOU LIKE KIDS AND YOU KNOW HOW TO BRING THEM UP. GOOD KEEP IT UP.TRY TO POSTPONE CONCEVING TILL YOU FEEL THAT YOU ARE FINANCIALLY SECURED AND YOU CAN MAINTAIN YOU AS WELL YOUR CHILD EVEN IF YOU ARE ALONE I MEAN EVEN AS DIVOURCE OR A WIDOW STAGE COMES YOU HAVE TO FACE IT.. CONCEVING ANG GIVING BIRTH TO A CHILD IS NOT ONLY THE RESPONSIBILITY OF A MOTHER UNDERSTAND?.BEFORE THE CHILD IS BORN THEN MEDICAL EXPENCES YOUR CHEKUPS AND IF IT IS NORNAL DELIVARY IT IS O.K OTHERWISE WHAT WOULD BE YOUR HOSPITAL EXPENCES.ALL YOU NEED MINIMUM Rs50,000 FOR A DELIVARY. IF YOU ARE A LADY WITH PLENTY OF BREST MILK IT IS O.K OTHERWISE BABY FOOD EVERY 2 WEEKS TIME YOU HAVE TO BUY..SEE ALL MONEY IS THE CRITERIA. ARE YOU WORKING ALONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND'S EARNING TO SUPPORT THE FAMILY..yOUR AGE 18 IS NOT THE ONLY CRITERIA FOR CHILD BEARING, YOU SHOULD BE WELL PREPARED FOR THE REMAINING EXPENCES.IF YOU GO TO OFFICE OR FOR WORK WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF YOUR BELEVOD BABY? THINK.THE MARRIAGE IT SELF IS A NECESSARY EVIL BESIDES THIS THE CHILDREN ARE THE OTHER BURDEN. GIVING BIRTH IS EASY BUT REMAINING THING? PLEASE THINK AND PLAN. I AM NOT THREATENING YOU WITH ALL THESE IT IS ONLY A GUIDELINES I AM SHOWING. A CHILD OR TWO IS A MUST FOR THE COUPLES AND IT SHOULD BE WELL PREPARED TO MEET THE EMERGIENCIES. SO IF YOU ARE WELL OF WITH PLENTY OF WEALTH THIS 18 IS NOT AT ALL A PROBLEM. SIMPLY GO HEAD. OTHERWISE PLEASE WAIT.FOR THE TIME TO CLICK AND TAKE IT OWN PATH. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

Wait!!! That is the best advice I can give. I had my daughter a month before I turned 19, and I really wanted a baby but wish I would have waited. Make sure that there is a good man to take care of you and your baby. Make sure you are financially secure. Finish school! Do everything that you want as far as going out, because (at least for me) If I want to go out to be a kid, it is hard because I am a single mother (of two) and I don't have anyone to babysit. Make sure all your ducks are in a row before you make such a decision. I wish you the best. Good luck!

Answer 7

It's best you wait. having a baby is not about you, it's about the baby and it's not just for 3 years but at least 18 years. do u have the financial stability to bring up a child? are you emotionally mature enough to raise a child without resorting to screaming and cussing and hitting? . are you able not to use tv, cell phone , internet as a means to baby sit your child? are you able to forgo the pleasure of going out with your friends to party or movies or club for many many years to come? It's a sacrifice....why dont you enjoy a few years of life and try to establish yourself in the working world first....gain more experience interacting with people.....

Answer 8

Think about what your saying...you may believe you are truly ready, but are you ready to give you life away to a living being...every second of everyday is no longer yours but the childs...and also consider this, Are you in a steady relationship?If not how will the child feel growing up with only one parent?

Answer 9

your hormones have kicked in... DONT GIVE INTO THEM.. make home owner ship a goal.. nobody should have kids til they own a home (kids need a yard and a permanent home, not a rental property also known as a money pit - becuase you pay rent FOREVER and never get a reward..)
home owner ship is number one.. number two goal would be a husband... and money in the bank after that

think of this also - the number 1 threat to continued human existance on the planet is human over population,- we are raping the planet and our population is a disgusting 6.5 + BILLION people.. we really dont need more, and your kid (when you have one) is gonna have it rough.. so do you really want to contribute to the problem?

Answer 10

My beliefs are husband and then baby. I don't think any other way is right. I like you wanted children young but did not have any until I met and married my husband.

If you are in a relationship then is he on the same wave length.
Maybe you should talk about moving forward with your lives.