How Do You Open A Womans Eyes!???? :(?

Question

Im 20 ive fallen in love with a woman a few yrs. older, i want to build a life long relationship w/ her. how ever she keeps leavin me for her ex b/f, but then realizes im the one that will put her first in my life, and has told me im everything hes not, but also says shes dumb for not being with me. i love this woman and to fight for her is worht anything to me. ive never nor would i ever be dishonest or cheat on her, unlike her ex who has a number of times, she knows she'll never be able to completely trust him where me she says she does. So what can i do to open this girls eyes and see that im what she needs, im here for her, to be there always no matter what, support her in anything she does, not him? I want her, not only her but her problems, her imperfections that i love so much about her, i want the inner and outter, both good and bad, because thats what makes her,her and i love her for it. Ive told her all this, If Neone has advice id love it,i cant lose this beautiful thing.thx

Answer 1

baby, you need to open YOUR eyes. sadly, she'll likely only realize how much you love her when you're not there anymore, when you've moved on for good. sweet-heart, she's using you for a back-up. you are feeding and satisfying her hurt ego. this is not good for you. I'm sure she doesn't intend to use you because when you've been cheated on you're an emotional mess, but she is.
move on, sugar. this relationship is destructive to you.

Answer 2

Dude! I am doing this for your own good. If you could be on this side of the screen reading this load of crap you would be thinking the same thing. Bro, you are being a WUSS. She will always run back to the bad boy until you become a real man. Once you are a real man, you will attract a lot more women and then she will realize you aren't there for her to kick around. You really sound pathetic in your question, so I suspect you sound the same way to her. She probably loves how sweet you are. She probably says you are the nicest guy she has ever met. That is a true sign you are a wuss. Instead, you want her mad at you. You want her worried that YOU are leaving. Don't let her play you like a chump. Tighten your stuff up and act like you can take her or leave her. This is the only way to have a real relationship with her without you being used.

Check this out. When she breaks up with you and then goes back to him, she is doing the same thing as cheating on you. Do you seriously want to be with someone that cheats on you?

Have you ever said that to her and meant it? I bet you have. Don't be a hypocrite. Take your own advise.

Answer 3

I have to tell you this is a tough situation. I fell in love with a younger man as well. I am 12 years older then him. He is 21 and I just turned 33. I was married for 10 years and have kids and he took to my children and I thought he was everything. He told me how much he loved me and I loved him. 2 months ago he says to me I love you and it's so hard to say good-bye but I have to. I like you did everything for him. I cooked did his laundry took care of him when he was sick. Brought food to him at work. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it didn't matter what I did it wasn't enough. Some people have there own demons and hers seems to be her ex that she refuses to get rid of. I know how much it hurts you to walk away from her because you love her. Have you told her that hears the deal. I love you but I can't do this anymore. It's either him or me. Stand up for yourself. Tell her I'm not going to call you anymore. You call me when you decide you know what it is you want but I'm not going to wait forever. Give it a week and see how it works. Also since you are the younger guy maybe you can give me some advice on how to get my guy back. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Wow. You should be writing books to men on how to be fantastic, because that's what you are.
That having been said; You can't really do much more than you already have to try and bring her to her senses. If she refuses to accept the reality that he's scum and you're the best thing in the world, then she will continue to wear the rose-colored glasses until she chooses to take them off. The only thing you can do is be there for her. She'll come around soon. Best of luck my friend.

P.S. Please contact me. I just want to talk to you some more. Promise I won't hit on you. o.oV scouts honor.

Answer 5

The reason why she is going back to her ex may be because she is still hooked on him. First of all you need to sit her down. Let her know that you are serious. Let her know you want every aspect of her in your life. After doing this, if she still continues running back to her ex, its not going to work out. If you want a steady relationship with her, she cant be running back and forth. She needs to settle down with someone who really cares about her, like you. She's a fool for not staying with a guy like you.

Answer 6

This one likes abuse. Leave it alone.
You maybe true to her, but she will always want the bad boy. No matter what, and their is no way you can open her eyes for her. This isn't a movie where you sweep her off her feet into your loving arms. This is life, where she will take abuse and ask for more. At best you'll be her side action. Get over her quick and move on!

Answer 7

I suggest you move on. I'm 32 and a 23 year old is in love with me but I decided not to move forward with the relationship. I have expectations (marriage/kids) that even if he says his willing to do I can't let him do it. You are young, enjoy your youth. Become a man. Date someone your age.

Answer 8

This woman has no problems what so ever. Guess what? It's you who have the problem. Open your eyes u are settling for less. u are emotionally abused by this woman. Get u some therapy ASAP.

Answer 9

Ask her "Why do you want to go with this other guy thats always cheating on you?" Um, this is a harder question than i thought it would be....Try asking her for her hand in marriage. Or, you could tell her that you'd do anything her for. All that stuff....Good luck!! :-)

Answer 10

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