They spell my name wrong and actually it isn't even just a common mispelling, it is the wrong name! I don't understand. I get their names right on every card, gift, and thank you note I give them (and there have been many)! I don't have some strange name either. I don't know a nice way to say it after 7 YEARS. Do you think they are doing it on purpose? Even my husbands sister does it. I have asked my husband, and he says it isn't a big deal. But heck, I have been a part of their family for 7 years, and they don't even know my NAME! It sort of hurts my feelings after all of this time. What should I do?
2006-06-06 12:59:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Of course your spouse doesn't think it's a big deal. It's not happening to him. ;-) Short of asking your parents to misspell (or mispronounce) his name, I would mention it to your in-laws. They may not realize they have made a mistake because no one has ever mentioned it. You can conclude it is deliberate if it continues after direct communication. However, it's always best to try direct and honest communication first.
All the best.
2006-06-06 13:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-26 21:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they call you by the wrong name? Is it worth insulting them just to have them spell your name right? Could it be that 7 years ago your husband spelled it wrong and they thought that was the proper spelling? Unless you believe they are doing it spitefullyI would just leave it alone to keep the peace.
2006-06-06 13:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore it just to keep peace- it is obviously bothering you. They ARE doing it on purpose but not necessarily to hurt your feelings. They think its the right thing to do. Maybe someone gave them bad advice - or since you haven't said anything it MUST be right. Just tell your mother- in- law confidentially and nicely that "everyone" keeps spelling your name wrong and you're not sure what to do since you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings (and mean it!), She will help you get it straightened out. Your husband could be a little more helpful since it is HIS family that you are trying not to offend.
2006-06-06 13:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some printed note cards that have your name printed in big letters on the front of them, then send everyone of your husband's family a card. You could write on the inside "Just a note to say hi! "or "Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you! " and be sure to sign your name and maybe even underline it. They'll get the hint.
2006-06-06 13:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years and your inlaws spell your name wrong. As bad as that is, at least it's not 27 years and your own grandmother spelling it wrong! (Yep, that's my situation)
Seriously, you should say something, especially if you haven't in the past. To them, not just your husband. Talk to the inlaw you are closest with. Maybe they will help you out.
Good luck.
2006-06-06 16:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by Loti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are respectful enough to take the time to correctly spell their names, they should share the respect mutually. If that doesn't get your point across, tell them flat out that you find it very disgraceful that after seven years that haven't found the energy or time to correctly spell your name. Just tell them. Hope this helps!
2006-06-06 13:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years! Sounds like they are either very illiterate or they're doing it on purpose. Do they spell other words correct or do they make alot of common spelling mistakes?
2006-06-06 14:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by Carole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lived for 7 years with it and now u want to tell them........Maybe they do it on purpose as to annoy you, but u say " it hurts my feelings after all of this time ", but in tat case then they have succeeded in their gameplan. Maybe u dont have anything against them so u r picking on this to get mad.... just joking. U have looked the other way for 7 years, i suggest u keep doing tat or one other way is to bring it up at a family get-together when everyone is present and accuse your husband of using the name being used by ur in-laws, sayin tat it doesnt matter wat ur in-laws call u but it matters wat he calls u....
2006-06-07 20:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by pembanboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to them ..wow 7 years and you still can't spell my name right ?? maybe they'll get the hint !!! p.s my in-laws sometimes call me by my husbands EX-WIFE"S name, and we've been married 13 years !! good luck !!
2006-06-06 13:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by DRD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋