Is this a trap?

Question

My girlfriend and I were laying in bed lantnight and she brought up that she really wanted to ave a threesome. This is not really like her. She said I should pick a girl. Is this a trap why would she say this I dont want to get burned

Answer 1

Definitely a trap....especially if she has never expressed an interest in this type of behavior before. Your best bet is to tell her that you are the type of man that is into one on one sex...with just the woman you love. Then tell her that if she really wants to try this, you will try to give it a shot for her, but she has to be the one to take the lead and handle everything...including finding the girl....because you just can't handle the thought of picking out a woman to have sex with...that isn't her!
This way, if it was a trap, you will come out of it looking like a champ!
...and in the off case that she was being honest.... It could be that she is just now feeling like she can trust you with her deepest, darkest fantasies.......You never know, you may very well be in for some wild times!

Good luck!
:-)

Answer 2

Let your girlfriend know that she can't manipulate you. Tell her she is being superficial. Here is the choice you should make. Either choose the threesome and have some fun and when that is through show your girlfriend that you are losing interest in her. Start to see someone else. Or, you should let her know that a threesome would not be even remotely interesting to you. Have integrity show her you are absolutely serious.

If she is playing you as a game of manipulation and control she should not mind you playing back.

Answer 3

Definite trap. She may be looking for you to say she is the only one you want, or she may be looking for a way out (as in the following argument for breaking up with you: YOU wanted the 3-some, YOU chose the girl, YOU don't want a serious relationship, YOU don't really care about me YOU just wanted a good time = by blaming YOU in that way she can get out of the relationship and not feel like the break-up was her fault at all). Proceed with caution.

Answer 4

If she wants you to pick a girl, then you are being tested. This my friend you should be aware of the tricks of the women's trade. We have traps to catch you guys in. The proof of love test: Learn that any question concerning your relationship is the test of your love. The look at someone else test: Learn if you are asked to give your opinion of another woman's look or the question does she look better than me test. The proof to get burned test: Learn to listen to those questions that will catch you off guard, those my friend are the real burners of the test of your true love. Should I go on or have you heard enough. Take it from a woman who is probably old enough to be your mother, I know every trick of the woman's trade.

Answer 5

I think you'd regret it even if it weren't a trap. Do you really want to see your woman with another woman or another man? Most men think they want to see their woman kiss another woman but when it comes down to it they really don't want to. I think it could only damage your relationship. Then if you do it, would you be constantly worrying if she was hanging around the other girl. Would you think they'd be fooling around behind your back? Be careful with your actions. it may not be what it's all cracked up to be.

Answer 6

Maybe someone was telling her to do it. You seriously have to sit down with her and talk to her about it. I think it could be some sort of trap, or it could be a curiosity. Wither way sit down and talk to her.
Hope everything works out!
Luv alwayz,
futbolluver09

Answer 7

Her="so have you thought about it...have you picked a girl yet babe?"
You=(scratchin your neck while acting as if replying to it is tough)"uuuuhh not really babe...I'm not sure if I'm really down with that...it's not that I'm scared or anything.......but you know(swallow your spit at this point).....I really never considered doin another girl....and I kinda feel like I'm cheatin on you honey...and I never want to do that!"
Her="oooh baby you're so sweet,i love you...take me now my love-right here right now!"
Now,since you're a dude...probably a hot,horny bastard as well ...you'll want to throw this out there-"I was thinking honey...if that's something you really want to do...I really don't want you to feel dissapointed...and if it would make you feel better-I'm willing to give it a try as long as you're happy...cause in return I would be happy...but you really have to be patient with me cause I'll probably be a bit shy at first since it's new to me & all!"

But you already know all this crapola don't you!!?Ya freakin dog!

Answer 8

yep, trap...she is setting you up..believe nothing, do nothing, express no interest either yea or nea....this is a loose loose situation no matter what you say. Just say you are leaving it up to her...no, that ain't right either.. NOPE< you cannot win on this one. Good luck

Answer 9

yes it is a trap watch out

Answer 10

1: why does 'burning' really matter? and it probably is a trap.