How do I better encourage others NOT discourage them?

Question

My gift God gave me is encouragment to others, but I am human and there are people in my family, church, work internal and external that really try my patience, (and I would be willing to bet and admit I have tried thiers as well).

What can I do to be compassionate and not become concieted for all that God has done for me.

The people I deal with are special people with many needs, people who are dominant and at times arrogant, people who willflully, gossip and find fault with people, spreading seeds of discouragement and neagtivity, people who are demanding, these are the people God has been bringing into my life.

I need the wisdom, maturity and the patience to love thse people even though I may not like them.

What are ways you get past the difficulites of people?

Answer 1

Say some more prayers, take a deep breath, and always ask yourself if what you are about to say to others is 1. Necessary, 2.Edifying 3.Will it glorify God 4.Does it show love. Hope this helps! Also, smiling always helps!

Answer 2

Please forgive me, but I'm very short on time:

http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm
Empathy--Key To Kindness and Compassion
Jehovah's Witnesses Official Web Site

http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1999/7/15a/article_01.htm
Wholesome Communication - A Key to a Good Marriage Jehovah's Witnesses Official Web Site

http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/3/1/article_01.htm
How Can You Make Peace With Others? : Wars With Words--Why Are They Hurtful? ; The Benefits of Making Peace - Jehovah's Witnesses Official Web Site

http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2003/8/15/article_01.htm
How Would You Like to Be Remembered? : What Kind of Name Are You Making for Yourself? ; How Some Are Remembered -- Jehovah's Witnesses Official Web Site

http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/7/1/article_01.htm
HOW CAN YOU FIND INNER PEACE? : The Search for Inner Peace ; "Happy Are Those Conscious of Their Spiritual Need"

http://www.watchtower.org/bible/index.htm
Read the Bible on-line:
New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures - Jehovah's Witnesses Official Web Site

https://watch002.securesites.net/contact/submit.htm
To Request More Information or a Free Home Bible Study

Answer 3

You being human has nothing to do with your gift. Many people always blame things on the fact that they are humans. The Bible says Be perfect like your Father in Heaven. If you live in the Spirit and pray will be able to encourage people. If you follow after God you have no chioce but to encourage people. It's possible if you live according to the Spirit and not your flesh. WWJD.

Answer 4

Show then that you steal believed in then, not in what they are doing, but in then. there is nothing better, to believed in the confidences others have for our self not matter if we know we are incapable of responding, against the pleasure that we feel to know best than anyone else, specially went it become to know about our own self.-----although lol... don't swearer this, use it just as a make believed.----this practice is the only practice you can use to see if the same individuals are trying only to use you. and its also of the best ethics, ones can have, with out compromising you self as well that you can ever be offensive, nor insensitive to others. but, just a Lucky. lady.----- good luck----

Answer 5

Focus on admitting your faults, abase yourself and humble yourself not just before God but before others. Focus on your faults and seek to see how you have failed in the same ways you notice others do. Try to see others as your brothers and sisters and remember all the times you failed God and others so you realize His mercy, and be merciful to others as well.

As 1 Corinthians 6:21 says, knowledge puffs up but love edifies. Focus on caring about other people, empathizing with them.

Answer 6

Ignatius encouraged us to attribute the best motives to people. Recognize that those other people are flawed and in need of grace, just like yourself. If they are too poisonous, then just remove yourself from their presence whenever possible.
Sometimes to love people means to call them on their crap...
Also, find a friend you can vent to in confidentiality.

Answer 7

Come on over to the dark side, then you won't give a toss about these "special" people. They clearly can't be bothered about you and I'll bet they think you're a "special" person too. I know I do.

Answer 8

Stay close to God in prayer and know that He knows you and your needs and as long as you are doing His will, you can know that your prayers will be heard and answered. The only other thing I know to tell you actually comes from Mother Theresa, to learn to see Jesus in everybody. Develop your eyes of faith and know despite the rough exteriors of others, Jesus is in them. Also, often in times of trial, consider St. Jude.....He is the patron Saint of the Impossible and He will intercede for you with Our Heavenly Father and ask for your needs also.

Answer 9

As my dad always says: "Don't be so heavenly minded that you are no earthly good." We have patients for a reason, we have happiness, sadness, anger, hope, all for a reason. We are supposed to feel...It's what makes us human...if we did not experience these feelings we would not be human...you must understand and know impatients to learn patients...just give yourself and those around you a break....it's okay to feel these things...think of them as learning pains.

Answer 10

I find in my work as a Pastor that I have lots of chances to discourage my congregation... after all they are all human, including me. So I watch them see what turns them on, what makes them smile and what they have trouble doing.... I praise them in what they are doing a slip in a little tidbit of and I see you are working hard on "X" and You just keep at it.

Sometimes you need to talk to others as if you were talking into a mirror.....
Blessed to Bless;

Pastor Rich