I send out invites for my wedding next week. If I don't hear back from people-- should I call them and if I do when should I?
2006-06-06 12:23:35 · 12 answers · asked by dewingedfairy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you have the free time you can, otherwise have your maid of honor or your mom and a couple aunts do the calling. That is usually the best way to get it done. That way you aren't stuck on the phone half an hour with each call. If someone calls that doesn't know them you can get it done a lot quicker. I attached an article that is handy for this.
2006-06-06 12:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by blueeyedlovebug 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. About 10 to 14 days after the invitations go out, call all invitees and make a complete and accurate list of everyone who is attending. There should only be a 'yes list' and a 'no list'. Do not allow inconsiderate people to bully you into creating a 'maybe list'.
When you call those who did NOT do the RSVP, it is because their invitation was obviously lost in the mail. (None of your friends would be so thoughtless as to simply not bother responding to your kind invitation, now would they?) When you call those who DID do the RSVP, it is "to confirm" the names of every person who plans to attend.
Besides giving you an accurate head count, these calls allow you to re-assert your control of the guest list. Be prepared to say things like "Your new boyfriend sounds wonderful, and I look forward to meeting him ... but this occasion is really only for people we know" and "I'm so sorry, but we're not having children."
If someone tries to clobber you with "If I can't bring my (whatever), then I can't come either" your response is "I hope you'll change your mind. If you do, just let me know by July 17th."
And since you've not yet sent out the invites (I hope haven't had them printed yet!), here is a suggestion that may prevent some of the scenarios described above: Invite everyone by name. Phrases like "and guest" and "and family" are asking for trouble.
Each invitee gets his/her very own personalized invitation in a separate envelope. The only exception here is married couples, who may be sent a single invitation. (Gay couples and live-togethers can be counted as 'married' if you wish.)
RSVP cards should not ask people how many will be attending, but have the name of each invitee and a way to designate whether or not that person will attend. All but the most pushy and inconsiderate will understand this to mean that if they wish to have guests, then they need to throw a party of their own and not usurp the privilege of the hostess to choose her own guests.
2006-06-06 19:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!! It's the most uncomfortable part of the wedding planning, I think, but it's absolutely necessary to call people who haven't RSVPd. I would wait until 1 or 2 weeks after your RSVP date before calling people - but don't worry, they'll all understand.
2006-06-06 20:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by trust me, I know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, i would call to try and get a proper estimate as to who is coming or not. some people who plan to come but dont know if they can for sure dont rsvp and so you wont know to expect them or not. no problems with calling them. if they dont like your calling for some strange reason, then they should have rsvp'd. especially if your inviting alot of people. you would want a realistic number as to who is showing up. my friend is going to a wedding this weekend that has 450 guests. thats alot and i'd wanna know who was showing up.
2006-06-06 20:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call them or have someone else call them. I waited 7 days after my RSVP date to call.
2006-06-06 19:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by jennl6262 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because some people like me who can't for the life of me do what i', suppose to , just forget to rsvp or just never have enough time to.
2006-06-06 21:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by dari98dae99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, or someone you designate will need to call the ones who don't RSPV. You are going to need a final headcount. My advice is to let someone else do it, you'll be stressing about every little thing by then, and may not have time to devote to it.
2006-06-06 19:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! I emailed my non-rsvp'ers...but that was because they were from NY and PA and I live in Ohio....I just told them I wanted to remind them to send it in cuz I know things get put aside and it's easy to forget. I got responses from just about everyone after that!
2006-06-06 20:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! how else can you get a final headcount for your caterer/ reception location etc. you can delegate a bridesmaid or your mom for this task to alleviate some of your own stress.
good luck!
2006-06-06 19:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by bellytail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes or you will be surprised on the big day, and you don't want to order extra of everything for people that "might" show
2006-06-07 01:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by bef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋