why can't I stop thinking about my ex narcissistic partner who ended relationship on Jan ist and has new girl

Question

I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM WITH HER.He threw me away with no remorse.I TRULY LOVED HIM AND HE SAID HE LOVED ME, YET HE QUICKLY AND EFFICIENTLY MADE ME LEAVE.He turned cold and nasty towards me . I could not believe he was the same person anymore-he actually scared me! I saw anger come out of him that I had only seen in small glimpses during our relationship.How could someone change that much? He would not discuss our relationship like a "normal" couple would. I told him if he thought it was over that we should try and work things out and get some help.he said"everything you have said all makes sense,but we are still breaking up.This was what he was like, all black and white no inbetween about anything. It was horribly frustrating for me. And he was extremely immature about things. Also, very self centered and materialistic.He would also flirt with women in front of me and very often at his work where he met lots of single women. He ia now seeing his second women .I'm stillgreiving

Answer 1

A man passes a pet store..stops in shock...at a beautiful lizard in the wiindow.It is red and orange and indigo and many other colours.
He has never seen anything like it...so he walks in and buys it and goes home.
Next morning he awakens and his lizard is green. Angry, he takes the lizard back to the pet shop. After five minutes of yelling and screaming at the manager...he calms down. The manager tells him he can't help him. The man asks why not? The manager tells him 'Because you bought a chameleon.'
In our society most of us wear colours but in different places. We wear different masks at mom's house...adifferent mask at work...

a different mask when we want that person at our side.

Problem is once we get that person or that relationship...as soon as someone 'buys' our colours as proof of our uniqueness as a human being...and we get taken 'home' we drop our colours...and return to being ourselves.
Wearing camouflage makes it awful hard to see the camouflage of others. So when we return to being just green...things like envy and jealousy (isn't there a colour associated with these feelings?)
show themselves all the more clearly. And these feelings are very powerful...aren't they.
What to do? From my own experience getting to know self is the only real and enduring solution. How to live without camouflage...how to accept yourself... warts and all...

You are not a lizard...you are a young woman. Being green is not who you are...just where you are for the moment. Sucks eggs doesn't it? Don't worry too much, you are not alone. Many, many of us go through this same lesson and most of us never learn it.
Two types of people here on earth...those who pay for the mistakes...and those who learn from them.
Please, take this as an invitation from the universe...to step beyond the realm of camouflage...to learn to see yourself as you are...not as you would like to be seen...to take part of the incredible bounty this universe makes available to those who throw off the chains of peer pressure and surface beauty...to see and feel the gold that shines from within your soul.
I hear you as you grieve for what was. You won't meet another like' him'. There is no one out there like him. But I can assure you that there is a person more important than he is. That there is someone who craves your attention...your caring and your compassion. That is yourself. You need you. To be your own best friend...to care for and take care of...you.
Finding the right person is really a matter of becoming the right person. Then and only then will you learn to ignore the brilliance of camouflage for what it is...and see the person who lies underneath...for you will no longer have need for the many colours of the chameleon.
Peace and blessings be upon you and yours.

PS. Write the universe asoften as you need to...tell it what you are telling us...all about him...how you feel...how it hurts...the pain you feel...the jealousy you experience...put it in an envelope...and mark the envelope...to the universe or god or Goddess...and put it into the mail slot at the post office...and let it go. Do this as often as you need to...IF...you have no one to talk to.
OR
Pick up the phone...dial the letters G-O-D...hold the tab so there is no dial tone... and speak to him (or her) directly...exactly as you feel...and let it go. I pass this on to you...as it was passed on to me...when I saw her with others...after she had been with me...and the hurt was the worst...and I knew I would never find another like her. They were right. I didn't. I found me instead. And I would not have it any other way.

Answer 2

I think you can't stop thinking about him
cause you truly loved him...and he didn't feel the same way about you. Not only that, he sounds really immature and unstable. I know it's hard not to feel bad over things like this, but it would be best for you to try and focus on the good things in your life and try and understand that someone who can treat you like this doesn't deserve you or your time...and move on!

Answer 3

u r a werid man/lady to think about them together