2006-06-06 11:28:41 · 20 answers · asked by nechannew 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Depends on where you are. in public? Leave. Don't force the rest of the planet to deal with it. In private? If he is not hurting anyone or anything, walk away. Don't give it any attention. As he gets older tell him you don't like to be around people who act like that so when he is done you'll come back.
It teaches him first that he won't benefit from the bad behavior, second that he has to respect you, and third, it shows him how to walk away from people who are not making good choices later on.
Get it under control at this tender age and you'll breeze through the older years.
2006-06-06 11:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, discipline problems are simple. You have to be patient and consistent and I guarantee they will go away. For starters, you don't ignore it, you take it head on. The second you can classify it as a temper tantrum, pop him one time and put him in Time Out. If he hits the door, wall, or anything you go back in there and pop him again, this time put him in the closet or really small room with the door open. If he does it again, pop him and close the door. If he does it again pop him and turn the lights off in that room. If he does it again now you start ignoring him. He will fall asleep in less than an hour - so will you cause he wore you out. Once he stops, start bringing things back, turning on the light, opening the door, putting him back in his favorite room, until he gets to do what he wants. BE CONSISTENT!!!
2006-06-06 18:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carrot and stick.
Deprive him of the attention he's asking for (negative reinforcement) for the temper tantrums.
Give him attention for good behavior (positive reinforcement).
If he throws himself on the ground, walk out of the room. He'll follow you. Keep walking until he calms down.
If he bangs his head on the floor or holds his breath, ignore him... better yet, walk quickly so he can't do either of these.
When you are able to recognize a tantrum coming on, ask him if he needs to sit down for a while. A basic human need is privacy. Give him the space and time to sit and be with himself, not as punishment, but to give him time to relax. Of course, he may not be mature enough for this for a while, but some kids learn quick.
2006-06-06 18:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Veritatum17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are at home, then put him in time out. Make him determine the time himself. I always told my sons, "sit on your bed until you are ready to have a good attitude." Only rarely did I have to send them back to try again. Usually, they were ready to be well behaved when then got up.
If you are in public, pick them up and carry them. When one of my boys threw a fit in a store or the mall, I put him on my shoulders and ignored him. When he saw he was not getting what he wanted, he calmed down. It is embarrassing for the first couple of minutes but it is worth it. My boys learned that when they were fussing and Dad picked them up, the argument was over and it was no use fussing.
NEVER LET HIM WIN WHEN HE IS THROWING A FIT. If he always loses, he learns not to have a tantrum. If you give in and let him have whatever he wants, even once, you have undone months of work.
2006-06-06 19:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by crgrier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son throws a tantrum when he doesn't get his own way...he's 21 months. I just say to him No...if the tantrum starts, I step over him and tell him that he can come and talk to me when he is finished, and walk away. Its usually about 2 min. Just ignore thenm, and they will stop
2006-06-06 18:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow him to get you into a power struggle. You need to stay in control...and discipline him afterwards, but remember his limited understanding of his impulses. Talk to him, role play how he could handle the situation differently or use puppets to show him what he did and what he could have done differently next time. Make sure you tell him you dislike his behavior not him. Sometimes at his age, he just feels frustrated. We all know that feeling.
2006-06-06 18:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they have a tantrum first make sure they are somewhere where they won't get hurt then ignore them a big reaction will only make them do it more.
2006-06-06 19:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's throwing a fit as hard as it is, ignore him. He's throwing a tantrum because he wants attention. If he is given attention each time he throws one he learns that is a way to get mom to notice me.
2006-06-06 18:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by jshepard17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 months, 14 years, 41 years, 114 years- boys' tantrums never stop (sigh).
2006-06-06 18:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Foster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time they have a tantrum, spray water on him.
2006-06-06 18:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋