How do you get out of a cult that you thought was a church?

Question

Still believe that Jesus is real. Very close to many people still there. The pastor has a sexual sickness that he refuses to address. i witnessed it myself... Nondenominational. been there 6 and half years

Answer 1

You leave...and quickly. Do not hesitate. Don't feel pressured into giving any explanations or talking to anyone there about your decision...they will only be harrassing you or possibly attempt to cover up for this person they're calling "pastor". If necessary, seek legal counsel. Talk to someone outside of the situation so at least someone else is aware of what is going on.

Answer 2

You are singing my husband's tune. I am his second wife. He was in a Church for over twenty years. At age 28, a wife was found for him amongst the group and he married three months latter because you couldn't even hold hands. They had three children and lived in a very upscale area on the West Coast. They bought a home. She had to put their kids in Their School~ no other options. The women could not work. They could only volunteer. They did not associate with other church families from another church. It was not allowed. They tithed their 10% and the Pastor and his wife had it all. They bought new cars, a nice house and had a maid and cook. They couldn't have kids. Well, this Pastor would attend meetings in bathing suit places like Vegas, Hawaii, Malibu, etc. He would then come back and rail the church members about sexual fornication, adultery, watching women, etc. So, the ladies all wore dresses and spoke in tongues. No make up because this pastor said it was the work of the devil by tempting these men with the ladies of the world. Finally, he died. He has the most ricilous and arrogant obit. I have ever seen. Well, my husband could no longer live that way. He was in debt over private school, tithing and three kids and everything that goes with it. He came to Las Vegas with his family. His mother is here. Well, alot of those women began to have mental breakdowns. The one my husband got went on booze and pill benders and go out at night when he was working (as so stated as fact in the divorce papers). She had numerous affairs and had to be hospitalized. Finally, he had had it. He wanted out. But she didn't. But adultery was it. So, she went on her merry way and he met me. And so he was shunned by the church and quite a few of those suffocated women broke down. It was too much! I wish you the best but my husband walked away. And that was it. He kept track of the ones that left, too. His two pious sisters are still there. People are leaving left and right! It is a monarchy and not church! Last year my Grandmother passed. One of the sisters asked me if my Grandmother was saved. I popped off and saved from what?

Answer 3

Hello, there. Of course Jesus is real. Don't feel tied down to a church where sin obviously abounds. There are many other churches out there that uphold a high standard of ethics, namely, Biblical holiness. I feel that you are somehow attached to this congregation via family, romance, or otherwise. All churches have a board and the pastors are employees of that board. They are held up to a high standard and if they fail to live up to it, then you must inform the board or other governing body of your Church group or denomination. If his sin is obvious and no one seems to care, then you are attending a cult, not a church. Why are you still there? Do you need a recommendation? Here are some: Assemblies of God churches, Four Square churches, Harvest churches. Look them up in the internet according to where you live and make the moveand stop suffering. Don't delay.
Sincerely,
Mr. M.

Answer 4

Uh, just don't go back. Tell the people that try to get you back that you have different beliefs that you will pursue now and you have no intention or want to ever be a part of that congregation again. I know, it is probably not what you are looking for, but I think you should really call the police on the pastor and get the heck away from everyone.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, one of the lessons I had to learn about church or other "religious" types of organizations is that you are first dealing with Humans, then you are dealing with Men or Women, and/or boys and/or girls. Try hard not to place the person or people who are supposed to be guiding you on a pedestal. God is a jealous God so be careful where you put your faith. Try to discuss with pastor as tactfully as possible. If that doesn't work, take some time away from the fold (if at all possible). The last resort is to write a letter to who ever is over the pastor (there's always someone) letting them know your concerns about what's going on--> you can be anonymous...and then take yourself and as much of your family away as possible. Seek refuge from the evils of Satan...and his hosts.

Answer 6

I would suggest that you simply leave that congregation, and never return. I found myself in a similar situation within a church once (not sexual, something else). When I finally gave up on the people there, I just didn't go back. But they harassed me for nearly a year before they got it through their tiny little brains that I wasn't intimidated by their ridiculous prayer rallies to "force" me back into their congregation.

Just don't return, and stick to your decision. They'll eventually leave you alone.

Answer 7

It's simple - Quit going and if they call, just explain why you quit and inform them you are making a clean break and don't want to haggle with them about it.

Make sure you tell them not to call you or visit as you are putting your life back with Jesus and not with a church that is led by an apostate.

Sounds harsh - maybe it is. But The Bible says not to keep company with such people.

Answer 8

If the sexual sickness as u pout it is illegal turn him in. If the church is a cult go to social services they can help u out

Answer 9

Read 1st Cor 5:9-13 in the NIV version Bible for clarity in understanding.

Answer 10

You need to go on the site and ask advice about THIS???"? If you had an ounce of sense, you would simply stay away from those sick people altogether. Some people just have no ability to think for themself.