My son swearing?

Question

My son (4) is being baby-sat by my best friend. But a while after he had been going over to her house for a while he started swearing. I know her and her husband are having problems and often get in arguments and may swear. I believe this is where he is getting it because I don't swear by kids. How do I approach her with this concern?

He said he learned it from Dave (Karrie's husband).

I told him that is not ok and he swears about that so I put him to bed early saying that behavior is not allowed. I'm going to look for a day-care for him to go to.

She's my best friend so I can't tell her off. It's not her, it's her husband Dave.

Answer 1

The first thing you should do is talk to your son. At 4 years old he can probably tell you where he heard it. Ask him if the babysitter said those words, or if maybe he heard it on TV. If he doesn't know, then before jumping to colclusions, explain to the babysitter that he is to be disciplined for saying those words. Then say something like "we really have to be careful of what we say around him at home because he will repeat anything he hears." Then I would tell your 4 year old to tell you if he hears someone say those words. THEN approach the babysitter about it once you are sure. If at that point the babysitter gets defensive and doesn't seem interested in making an honest attempt at trying to change her language, then you'll have your answer as to whether you need to find a new one.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

This is very delicate. Have you asked him where he learned those words? I would start there just to confirm your suspicions. I would also tell him that, although he may hear others use those words, that is not acceptable at your house.

Then, with this background, I would approach the friend. If this is your best friend, I think she will understand. Maybe you can suggest that when she and her husband need to have a "discussion" that they step into the other room to have it, in case somebody loses his or her temper. If this were only an acquaintance, I would simply suggest you go ahead and switch sitters. But a best friend who is truly worthy of being called your best friend (think on that one a little) will hear you out and be sympathetic.

Answer 3

Your best bet is to be honest and tell her that your son has been swearing and ask her if she swears around your son. If you don't want to do that maybe you could just tell her that your concerned cause your son is swearing and you don't know where he is getting it from. She may realise that its her and stop swearing when she has your son. Good luck and i hope this helps!

Answer 4

I wouldnt consider that only a stroll by way of of guys utilizing that phrase might make him use it for 3 days. Is he ever with any one else whilst you arent round that possibly would be swearing? Like a babysitter or relative? I consider you must ensure there is not on account that I simply dont see how that might be any distinctive than going for walks beyond any one announcing whatever- that it must stick in his head like that.

Answer 5

What they do in their home is really none of your business.

However I wonder why you let your child be exposed to that kind of stuff. You know they argue a lot so YOU send your CHILD over there.

That is not good for the child. Why would you inflict that kind of mental abuse onto your kid??

They do know what is going on around them ,and arguing causes stress to fill the air.. NOT A GOOD FOUNDATION FOR YOUR CHILD. I would find some place else for my child.

Meanwhile when your child cusses. STOP, get on his level and look him in the eye and gently tell him that it is not acceptable for him to say those words... It is a bad word and you don`t ever want him to say it again.. Be firm but don`t yell.. He is already getting enough of that at their home.. Good Luck..

Answer 6

You cannot protect it from everything, especially swearing... If swearing is such a concern for you, punish it(I reccomend corporal punishment), until it understands that swearing is not allowed.

Answer 7

tell her that u just don't want ur kid hearing those words just so she doesn't get mad and don't say it in a mad voice tell her u care about her, her husband, and ur kid and tell her too sort out her problems with her husband if she has problems with her husband she shouldn't be baby sitting ur kid in the first place.

Answer 8

tell your son that swearing is wrong and also tell the babysitter that you would apperciate it if they did not swear around your son if this does not work find a new sitter

Answer 9

The heck you cant tell her off. You need to get your son out of there NOW.

Answer 10

your son is 4 tell him he is not allowed to say such things, that only grownups talk that way... whenever he swears remind him that it isnt nice and that he is not allowed to speak like that...