If you realized you have wasted last 3 years of your life what'd you do?

Question

If it was something (work, hobbies, religion...) you invested money/time/effort in, would you want your money back? If it meant you would lose a bunch of friends (or ex-friends), i.e. all your friends would you still go ahead and quit? this happened to me, now I am getting used to the fact that
I am having to make new friends, find something else that fills my time, get rid of all the stuff related to this old activity and that is a constant reminder of this old 'thing' I used to do.

Heh, not a boyfriend problem :) but a kind of problem related to 'spirituality' and setting up a business with "friends" who turned out to be not friends after all these years.

Answer 1

You use the power of one - one prayer at a time, one step a time, one moment at a time and you make progress one effort a time. Lord give this one the ability to see that a decision was made and it was hard, but she must keep the good, throw away the bad, and now keep looking forward to the prize that lies ahead and not back at what could have been - she's already been there and chose to move on. Give her your courage, it carries us through when nothing on earth could ever do. Amen.

Answer 2

It sounds more like religion than a hobby or job, because otherwise you wouldn't feel so compelled to make a clear break and you wouldn't feel so isolated from your former friends. When you leave a religious group, you go from being one of the insiders to being an apostate, which tends to make the people you were with reject you. The same thing doesn't happen if you decide to give up knitting. Since it seems we are talking about religion I'd have to say 1) don't count on getting your money back, 2) look carefully at what you've learned about yourself -- especially your weaknesses and needs -- from this experience, and 3) don't be bitter or reject God or all religion just because this particular experience wasn't all you thought it once was. Sometimes you try something that doesn't work out, but nothing is a dead loss, because everything we do teaches us something and helps us learn more about the person we want to become. Don't be regretful or bitter or angry at yourself. Take what good you can out of what you have been doing and move on to new experiences.

Answer 3

I can totally relate. My ex broke up with me after sharing a life for 7yrs. His friends became mine and vice~versa. It was and is terrible especially if you are trying to breakaway from a lifestyle you are so accustomed to. He lives a block away and a lot of people whom I thought were MY very good friends completely stabbed me in the back (I guess $ will do that to some people). It took me a lot of positive attitude to get through it. In the end, it was totally worth it. I found out who my REAL friends are and got to meet a lot of new people and do a lot of new things I only dreamed of. It really brings you courage and before you know it, you'll be happy that you moved on with your life. One thing I learned, it isn't "wasting" your time, you learn from your mistakes and you make your life better. I would've never done all I've done without living through that struggle. Afterall, isn't life whatever we make it? If you get handed lemons, pour some sugar and make it lemonade.

Answer 4

I think it's great if you have realized that something you've been doing is a waste of time, especially if it's something bad you've been doing, if I invested my money in something of course I'd want my money back but it would depend on what it is....about loosing friends, it depends on the situation, if it was a bad activity or just something your heart wasn't in, then they should understand...anyway, I'd just do what's in my heart and what I feel is right, you are your own person and only you can say what you want to do and what you don't , so stand by what you believe in and do what you think is right.....God bless

Answer 5

You don't waste time, it time miss appropriated not all ventures in life will turn fruit full, so you must take the lesson to hart, not to remain in that arena, and it sound as you have already taken the steps to a new venture
Yes I wish I could have some of the time back in my life but with the same attitude as I had then, its hard to forget friends the ones you liked that is, so get excited about your new venture in life but remember it to may not be a winner but its the chance we take
Best wishes

Answer 6

IMHO, I honestly think that all of us, have, in some form or other wasted a good deal of our lives. I know I have.
However, it will do no good to mope and fret what I have or haven't done. Instead, I am doing my best to make each day of my present and future life the best it can be. I will strive to live a life fron now, God willing, on to live a life that, when I do look back, this time, I will not have regrets or wish that I would have done it differently.

Answer 7

I think that if you feel that leaving or quiting what you did before than doing what your doing now and putting it behind you and starting over seems like the best thing to do. some things just are not good for you and I'm glad you realized it. I don't agree with the guy i don't think its a boyfriend but either way it's not up to us to decide whats good for you you'll know in your heart if its the right thing to do.

Answer 8

Sounds like you quit using drugs or abusing alcohol. Good for you.

If you spent three years doing something that was not good for you, and you have to get new friends because your old friends are still doing it, that is a small price to pay for keeping your health, your brain cells and your dignity. Your new friends will love you for the person you have become. That can't be a bad thing.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Continue on with life.

Change, like sh*t just HAPPENS.

The worse thing we can do in life is to believe that we are somehow supposed to be an exception to the rule.

The main thing that the Buddha taught was to be accepting of change. Karma from this life or previous life causes things to happen. No one is an exception.

The best we can do is to flow like water around the problem.

TRUTH, is the only REAL friend that will never let you down.

Answer 10

You have to do what is right for you. If they were really your friends they would still be. Sometimes we lose money, time, effort in things that we can't get back. So chalk it up to a learning experience.