2006-06-06 10:49:19 · 13 answers · asked by funtooabc 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am the mother of a very confused 12 year old boy. I have had several conversations with him on this very subject. I am a very strong Christian, and I know that most churches, even mine, are against homosexuality, but we are talking about my SON. No matter what happens, I will always love my son. I can separate the person my son is from the things he does. Some parents, like mine, cannot. I refuse to reject my son, no matter what he chooses. I may not want to hear about his first boyfriend, but I will always support him emotionally, spiritually, and financially the best that I can.
Whatever happens with your situation, I wish you tender hugs from all who love you, parents, friends, and any other support people you may have. Plus, if you are not already seeing someone, I hope you would consider seeing a therapist or attend a gay/lesbien support group before you come out to everyone, especially your parents (if they seem to be a bit dodgy about the subject).
2006-06-06 11:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by lexxus_gs_400 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people really do value a dubious piece of messed about with writing more than their own child and will disown their kid if he or she is gay...it says more about the kind of person the parent is really...second rate, but others quickly adjust to reality and things can work out very nicely, and a gay person can have a very good life nowadays despite what looks like a bit of an anti-gay lash-back at the moment, human rights hold the high moral ground over religious bigotry, vanity and selfishness...
2006-06-06 18:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up I had friends that were a little different. In our circle everyone knew they were different. But, as children we couldn't put our finger on it...what was so different?
Now, that we are older these friends have come out. Every one of them we pinned as 'off' is either gay or lesbian. We know they didn't choose this. It was part of who they were. They've had to endure a lot, and still do, for their sexuality.
Having seen the struggle first hand - I would never let mine go through that. I would be supportive and let him work it out himself. I would never deny my son or make him to feel like less of a person or that I love him any less.
2006-06-06 19:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the scariest things to deal with as a Christian...a loved on being gay. But I think it's important to love your child all the while and continue to pray for him. Let him know you don't condone homosexuality but that you still love Him. Try to get him pluhged in to a ministry. If he's non-compliant, just continue to pray for him. The real truth is that it's not your job to convert only he can do that with the help of God. Keep praying!!!
2006-06-06 18:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by danielle_la_flor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chip off the ol' block if he was ;-)
Honestly, let him go through the emotions and support him, it could only be a phase but it may not be. Be supportive with his choice, you dont have to agree but none the less he is 16 and is old enough to make his own decisions.
One thing I would suggest though is have a chat with him, let him know what you expect of him; i.e will you allow bf to stay over, etc etc. just to establish boundries.
And from personal experience my mother failed to acknowledge it, our relationship has not been as good since i told her as she wont allow me to express my love to someone of the same sex - good job im old enough to live on my own!
2006-06-06 17:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by A_Geologist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my son said that he was gay, I would still love him, but I would be very upset because I think that homosexuality is wrong. He already knows my views and God's views. If it ever happened I would just have to turn it over to God and let Him deal with that.
2006-06-06 17:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by proudmatriarch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I would be supportive of him.
I don't have to agree with all the decisions my sons will make, I am quite sure there will be lots that I won't agree with. But also as their mother, I will expect my sons to understand that I will continually guide and advise them through their lives, it's their decision what to do with my guidance.
2006-06-06 18:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by shanesmommy01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to think that if one of my sons were gay, I would still love him with all my heart.
2006-06-06 17:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would read him the bible and the verses in it that concern this issue. If you do not acept it he needs to know, but that doesn't mean you don't love him. He needs to find out from you not on his own!!!
2006-06-06 17:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by scarlett11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not effect me in any way. He is free to love who he wants.
Love & Light
Sharon
One Planet = One People
2006-06-06 18:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by skippingsunday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋