I see it works fine with other kids my kids are annoying sometimes and I don't see why not spank them?
2006-06-06 10:33:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Spanking is an excellent form of discipline it keeps my kids in line and out of trouble. The punishment is effective and takes place after the crime has been committed so the person can feel completely guilt free. It is the most effective.
2006-06-09 15:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa A 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you even care about your children and want them to grow up confident and happy, you wouldn't spank. This is what spanking and hitting a child will do:
It leads to fear and avoidance. It gives children confusing messages and makes them think that using violence to solve problems is okay. It can introduce problems later on as they grow up for example bullying others, agressive behavior, criminal behaviors, stealing and domestic violence. Parents will spank out of their own anger and frustration because it makes them feel better. I believe it also makes the child become sneaky. It doesn't stop the unwanted behavior long term and children will do anything to avoid being hit. They aren't given a chance to learn from their mistakes, learn how to solve problems, use good judgement, control emotions, or feel confident and secure. Important factors needed as adults in life. You basically change who they are when you hit them. It is hard to justify the admonition "Don't hit!" while the parents are spanking the child for hitting. It is just a wimpy, uneducated, destructive way of parenting. Buy some discipline books. No expert recommends that spanking is effective.
2006-06-10 12:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking can be a very effective punishment, however.
Never spank in anger, and never, ever, leave marks (bruises). My mama used to say that a red bottom was better than having a child that doesn't listen and is rude.
Granted, nowadays people seem to think that a few swats on the hind end is abuse, but I don't think so.
2006-06-06 22:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't spank your children because they annoy you. If you spank for punishment, that is your own choice, but being annoying is not enough reason to punish your child. I will never spank my child. I was never spanked, and I know that there are other ways of dealing with kids when they misbehave. I would never want to hurt my kids.
2006-06-06 17:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is a form of punishment, not discipline. It only teaches children to hurt others when they want them to comply, causes resentment, shame, and anger. Would it be okay for someone to hit you if you did something they did not like? How would you feel? If your spouse hit you it would be considered abuse. The same goes for children. Children need to be respected as humans. There are so many better ways to discipline a child. Here are some books that may help.
Parent Effectiveness Training-Thomas Gordan
Children the Challenge-Rudolf Dreikurs
Guiding Young Children-Eleanor Reynolds
Punished by Rewards-Alfie Kohn
Redirecting Children's Behavior-Kathryn Kvols
2006-06-06 20:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES! It works wonders. I am a firm believer in corporal punishment. It was used on me, I turned out fine. I will use it on my child. I know how stubborn I am, and I know without a doubt, that time outs would be useless. I believe corporal punishment should be brought back into schools as well. Just look at how the generations get progressively worse, it is all because parents are afraid to punish their children. It says right in the bible(I know not everyone believes in it)
Proverbs 13:24
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
2006-06-06 18:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ricky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was raised with no spanking. Time outs work better if you inforce them. A min for how old they are. My daughter is almost two and we do time outs. I DONT hit my child. All hitting/spanking does is make your child fear you.
2006-06-06 18:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by nelle 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IT DEPENDS ON HOW OLD YOUR CHILDREN ARE. ITS OK TO GIVE THEM A SPANKING IF THEY NO WHAT THEY ARE DOING IS WRONG BUT AFTER YOU DO THAT, YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM WHATEVER THEY ARE DOING IS BAD AND YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE THEY DONT DO IT AGAIN , BUT IF YOU DONT DISIPLINE YOUR CHILD THEY WILL KEEP DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN
2006-06-06 19:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by Che's Wifey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kids need it but these days it only takes 1 phone call to ruin the family
2006-06-06 17:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mr nice guy 2U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need to be disiplined but as long as u dont hurt them
2006-06-06 17:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋