After this person raped me I was dragged out of the house and beaten. My mouth was covered and I ended up left for dead on the side of the road. I remember waking up and the fist thing i saw was my father and brother there looking at me. I refused to ID my attacker because i was just to terrified and had to be in the same room with him a few times after that. i once told him, " i wont tell..u gave me ur mind ". After that I would end up being violent myself. I have gotten so deeply angry that I have attacked men at times and got beaten again. At other times I have been so scared that it made me sick in body to see men. Once i returned a little boy home who was sleeping over with my little brother. His Dad came to the door with no shirt on and I was overwhelmed with panic. At other times I have felt totally addicted to certain men. What the h*** has been wrong with me all this time ? What can u pray to make this go away?
2006-06-06 10:32:14 · 19 answers · asked by trinity_loves_neo1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
one dr told my family I have PTSD ...is that was this is ?
2006-06-06 10:34:02 · update #1
That is exactly what this is. (post traumatic stress disorder)First off, if you know your attacker then turn the bastard in. He has no right to do that and not pay for it. Second, seek a peer group. There are others who have had similar experiences. Good luck with all of this
2006-06-06 10:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by bc_munkee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read all your questions and now I think I can piece your story together. According to all you state, you were raped by an associate, friend, family member, or church member. This is someone who may have had authority over you. At the age of 12 you are not mentally or emotionally mature to understand a situation like this. First it is not your fault, so you are not guilty. No matter what kind of threats the person said or may still say, you can still press charges because you are keeping someone else from going through the same thing you did. You really don't want him to get away with it do you? Some women become promiscuous or prostitutes as a result of rape. They feel dirty, and of no value to anyone. This is not true. There is help for you. I know you think self mutilation brings short term relief but that is not the answer either. There are rape and crisis centers in every city and I'm sure you can get help and most likely for free. Please seek help now. You will never forget what happened to you but you can learn how to go on with life. Life is worth living. You are very young. Take the chance and get some help now. I will be waiting to hear from you again some day. I believe in you. Now go for it.
2006-06-06 18:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by kriend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post traumattic stress disorder may develop after a person has gone through a traumattic event in which they feared for their life, which you certainly have. The main symptoms are intense flashbacks, anxiety, a sense of being "on the edge of you seat," panic attacks, and avoidance of people, places and situations that remind you of the event. Flashbacks can also be triggered by things that remind you of the event. Some things you are describing could be PTSD symptoms, such as panicing at the sight of a man with his shirt off. Some things may be due to the trauma of the rape.
People react in different ways to rape. You have survived a horrific event and are dealing with it in the best way you can. However, it sounds like you really need some support right now. See if you can find a counsellor who can help you deal with this. The second link below has information about this. Please reach out to someone who can help you get through this.
PS: There is nothing "wrong" with you. You are traumatized.
2006-06-06 17:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by sparky52881 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not that ur family has PTSD, it's that u were sexually violated and u think that all men r the same.But, yes, u can pray 2 God and he can help u with this problem. I can see why u won't tell who ur attacker is, but, u also have 2 think like this, "This bastard is still out there, and will probaly try 2 do the same thing 2 some1 else. And I'm not having that!"
2006-06-06 17:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tyegirl01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps a deep honoring/continuation of your faith AND an attempt to find a GOOD female counsellor is the best combination.
Given even more time without processing, this trauma will likely imprint itself everywhere in your life. The last thing you would want to discover is that you had created a ruined life for a male child or taught a female child to fear or hate all life.
PTSD? Forget the labels and seek the help-- you already KNOW you are hurting-- and we all feel for you...
You can find many resources in your city or by simply calling a crisis hotline. You can call around different institutions, read the paper, check online, talk with your female friends-- all to the point of getting yourself the best therapy you can find and/or afford...
Our thoughts are with you... Blessings to You.
2006-06-06 17:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by fitpro11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best place to learn about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is on-line at medlineplus.gov. I also suffer PTSD due to a very abusive 5 year marriage that I cannot even begin to recall all the details and go into, but I developed epilepsy a year ago and it has started revealing itself as I come out of the seizures - I pray faithfully and realize that God does not always remove what has been but uses it to teach those in my life how to learn and grow in their own spiritual life. So, seek the help you need, keep your life in the hands of God and know that he is using this to teach you to rely on your faith in him, and to teach those around you of God's mercy and grace. You are still alive too and so am I - that's the amazing feat for both of us!
2006-06-06 17:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by dph_40 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first .i hope you r recieving counseling. second have you thought about your attacker doing the same to another innocent person. third.. although you should be cautious..you cannot blame all males for the actions of others... i suggest you run... not walk for some support. stop punishing yourself with your addiction to certain men.. you dont need a relationship at this point in time.
2006-06-06 17:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need revenge and made to feel that you are right to feel this way. Turn in that as-hole that did this to you girl. Why protect the very guy that will either attack you again,or some other innocent girl? You won't find peace till you face this thing and deal with it!!!!!
2006-06-06 17:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by wolftatx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never go away but you need to learn to live with it. The hard thing is by letting him go he can do this to others. I know a man that raped his sisters and went on to rape his daughters and nothing was said AGAIN. They just go on cause they are sick! It was not your fault.
2006-06-06 17:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by Biteme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that such a horrible thing happened to you. If I were you, I would pray, and seek therapy. Our minds are so complicated, and abuse is very complicated. Abuse does terrible things to us. I would also turn the person in who did this to you--they will, more than likely, do it again to someone else.
2006-06-06 17:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by jjangermayer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋