iam trying to look for a girlfriend but iam to shy when i need to talk to them?

Question

I need a girlfriend

Answer 1

The guy should always approach the girl first. The majority of the time, the girl will not make the first move in fear of putting the guy under the impression that she is easy. In most (but not all) cases, the girls that make the first move are usually indecent and will use you.

My advice:
Next time you like a girl, take some time to get to know her... flirting with her at least once each time you are with her...
If she gets onto you for flirting, don't freak out. Simply say, "I am sooo sorry, I was just being nice, sorry you took that wrong, I didn't realize it looked like flirting" That will enable you to keep a friend instead of gaining an enemy, plus, it will save you the embarassment of being caught flirting!

After a couple of weeks, if she responds well to the flirting, make the next move. That will take courage, but, it's better to know you tried and got embarassed then to have completely missed out. You're just going to have to suck it up and do it! The next move could be taking her out on a date. If you have already been going out, kiss her on the cheek, and after a few days, the neck... and after a few days... the mouth!
If any of that makes her mad, say, "I didnt mean to disrespect you in any way at all, I don't know what came over me, I just really feel like I have gotten close to you and I kinda like you. I will never let that happen again, I was way out of line. Can we still be friends?"
I'm sorry to tell you, but it is going to really take some guts! If you get shot down, continue to be nice, as friends. Who knows, she may see it as an open door to make a move on you when she is ready. If not, there are plenty of others out there. Don't let nervousness get in your way of having a shot at what you want. If things do not go your way, there is always a way to cover your a**.

Answer 2

Hon, slow down, take a deep breath and exhale, two or three times.

Then just be yourself and BE honest.. Remember the girl is nervous too.. Walk up and SMILE, look her in the eye, introduce yourself and SMILE, Smile, Smile, Did I say smile? Ask her some everyday questions. Ya know like you would any other human in the world. How are ya? nice weather? It is a beautiful day? How school? wanna go for a walk? where is the office? what is your home room?

It is better to DO it than to Regret it. Don`t take it personal if she acts like an idiot. She is nervous too.. I promise usually when we say NO way, It isn`t personal.. We have problems in life too and sometimes it is NOT the right time to make a new friend.. SO don`t let her attitude become a factor in the next girl you see that catches your eye..

Hang in there.. God Bless. {:-)

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Answer 3

trust me i know... i am shy too but looking for an outgoing guy to get me out of the shyness. I have been single my whole life and sick of it. It is also hard to find a good guy because the world has became so scary with murders and the computer creeps. Just think of the girl as your sister or best friend and nothing more that will make u more relaxed. Most likely the girl will be nice and get to know you just stay calm and cool....Good Luck

Answer 4

don't worry my friend perfectly normal. i have that same problem. fortunately for me my girlfriend is very talkative so all i need to do is respond. ok so what you have to do is just bring something up and go with the convorsation. eventually you will feel more comfortable with that girl and will be able to aks her out. when you ask her out i suggest just saying "wanna go to the movies sometime?" if she says yes then give a date and a time that you wanna go as well as the movie you wanna see. good luck

Answer 5

No, ive typical a pair of great adult adult males that are seniors in extreme college and havent had a woman chum yet so which you're no longer a loser. basically refer to 3 females and in case you discover one you have an interest in, then you definately would desire to ask her out. My boyfriend performs video games each of the time, does no actual activities, and didnt particularly refer to all that many women previously we've been going out. perchance you will desire to start doing pull-united statesand ab artwork outs to get a sprint buff, then females will start to notice you.

Answer 6

Take an assertiveness training class.

And don't go to some singles bar, either. If I were you, i would go to a place where I would meet the type of girl I wanted. You will run into the bad type at a bar. you will run into an intelligent girl volunteering at a library. Most girls you will find at church will be religious. and DON'T rush it. just talk to her, get to know her, and go into is slowly.

Answer 7

Try to get to know the person before you just jump into the relationship. Becuase the more you get to the know the person the more comforable you most likely will feel with being with the person.

Answer 8

Start talking to them. Talk to all of them, not just the ones you think you'd like to be your girlfriend. Confidence comes after you do whatever it is that requires confidence - sort of like getting stronger after lifting weights.

Answer 9

Don't be shy. Girls are like my 'pen'. When the ink is gone, they're no good. What you need is a real lady who will take care of you and feed you. Try myspace.com. -or- have a friend hook u up with their friends.

Answer 10

Somehow change your appearance so that you will fell better about yourself. Try to just be outgoing without being creepy. Sometimes being the class clown will work...start thinking of smart *** comments you can say and stuff.