what to do with someone you love that's using drugs should i leave or should i stay. i tried helping alots of

Question

times but it does not work. help me please

Answer 1

The best thing you can do is take care of yourself. If you need to leave to be in a safe and legal environment then you need to leave. If your friend has to suffer through enough consequences of their using they will eventually see their problem. However, if you coddle them and try to protect them from the pain they are causing for you and themselves they will keep using longer. It has to hurt enough to be willing to motivate the change. Pain is the best motivator unfortunately. The most lovingt thing you can do for them is allow them to hit a bottom and pray they don't hurt themselves on the way down. Let them know you love them and you want to help when they are ready. Then when they are ready. hook them up with a local rehab and 12 step program. I have included the website for NA (narcotics anonymous). They can help you find a rehab in your area and local meetings to check out. Good luck!

Answer 2

This hits home for me b/c I work in the substance abuse field & what you must understand is that the person using drugs, is not the person you have come to know over time. I think that you should do what makes you happy (whether you stay or go). At the same time have some compassion b/c you never know what may happen to you in the future. I'm sure no one really wants to use drugs, there's usually an external trigger (stress, health issues, etc.) that causes it. But we all have different thresholds. Hopefully, your a spiritual person & you seek God 1st. But in the meantime, treat the person w/ respect, remember that you don't have the power to change another person (ask God to help him become the person he's supposed to be), Reach out in love (ask God what to say & do in each encounter). In a nutshell, Depend on God & everything will work out fine. This info. came from "Our daily bread devotional" (3/19/05). I saved it & I give it to the family members of alot of my patients- hopefully this helps!

Answer 3

Even though everyone is telling you the best thing to do is to leave. That is not true you have to make that decision yourself, but you have to put everything into perspectivefor example: is he hurting you in anyway, is he forcing you to do drugs with him, is he hurting other people who you love then you need to leave. Leaving does not always help it sometimes makes it worse causing them to start thinking suicidal thoughts or think of murduring you for leaving. The best thing for you to do is tell him how much you hate it and try to get him help weather it is rehab or even going as far as calling the cops. He may hate you then but when he gets better he will realize how much you care and love him.

Answer 4

My husband started drinking and smoking crack pretty bad, to where he was getting irrate all the time, spending our rent and utility money behind my back, moved in his crack head sister. I even caught them smoking it in front of my 3 year old son. He pawned the 28" color t.v., dvd's and the Playstation2 for the money. He got to where he was harrassing me and my son in the middle of the night, wake me up and tell me F yaw, I hate you, and cant wait for you to die. He put a bruise on my son "just playing". I will not put up with crap, I took it long enough, I tried to help, give him too "many second chances to get right, and all he did was take advantage of me. Five years of it and one night at 3am, during one of his crazy freak outs, I got up, got my kid, a few clothes and got in my car and left. I've never seen him since and never will. Anyone deserves better than that and if this is how is this is how he'll stay because guys don't and won't change. I have to live with my dad right now and I'mm 33 but at least I'm no where near his sorry butt and he can't mess up mine or my son's head anymore! I don't know what I'm gonna do from here but by golly I'm free!

Answer 5

You can't help someone unless they want to help themself - if they don't realize they have a problem then theres no way to help them. Don't put yourself in a bad position - if they are underage and using drugs think about talking to their parents about what they are doing-they may hate you for doing it, but in the long run they will thank you.
You can be there for them as a friend - but don't put yourself in danger, or in a position that your going to start using. Try to get them help, give them support, talk to their family/friends and maybe get an intervention together.

Answer 6

speaking as someone who has gone through this situation, you have to let go. after 3 yrs of trying to help there came a point when I had to say ok, it's your life. I can't live mine like this, so if you choose drugs then I won't be in it. you must stick to the decision and leave for your own sake.

Answer 7

The best thing you can do is leave, before they drag you into their lifestyle farther. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. If you love them give them an ultimatum, you or the drugs, then walk.

Answer 8

Drop that person off at rehab.. Tell him if he wants to be with you. You will be here to pick him up whenever the rehab prgrom is over (like in 30 days or so) If he leaves before that. Leave him for good.

Answer 9

drug use is something that will eat you alive if you let it. you are talking to and dealing with the drugs, not the person you will only get hurt, until that person decides they want to quit on their own there is nothing you can do except protect yourself from it and that person, it sounds harsh but it is a harsh situation and there is no room in it for nice sweet feelings, its not a nice sweet thing. get yourself out of it and let them know that if they decide to get their poop in a group you'll be happy to help them then.

Answer 10

Dump not only for your self but also for the drug user. You are an enabler. You staying will just make it easy er for the user to continue. Leaving will make it more difficult.