Her husban shot her and his child.
2006-06-06 10:16:55 · 14 answers · asked by cayhillme 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Tell him what a wonderful daughter he had, how much she'll be missed and how sorry you are for his loss.
Take a casserole or something to him to freeze so he doesn't have to think about cooking. Give him your name and phone number and tell him not to hesitate if he needs anything, even if it's just to talk about her.
What a horrible thing to have to go through. I have two beautiful daughters, and I think I'd go completely insane if I were to lose either one of them...
2006-06-06 10:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how much you loved her and how special she was. Tell him she will never be forgotten. Don't ask him any questions - just do things for him, like make sure he has a home cooked meal once in a while, and a shoulder to cry on. I hope the husband was captured and incarcerated... assure Dad that there was nothing he could have done to change the course of fate, or God's will, whichever suits the situation better. Above all, let him know that you respect his mourning and don't tell him he'll get over it - he won't. Be his friend. My condolences to everyone involved in this....
2006-06-06 17:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Samlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, nothing can be said to ease his mind--only time, spirituality, supportive friends and a therapist. He has to learn to realize it is not his fault and to not let the bitterness overcome him and who he is. Although this atrocity can never be justified and nothing can bring back his loved one. At least the murderer can go to prison for life or get killed. That is about all. But he will be in pain forever and he can heal somewhat with therapy and medication. Nothing you could say could ease his pain. Listen to him and make sure his needs are being met. Be empathetic and do not push him to take advice b/c he will get defensive and angrier b/c you have not experienced this before in your own family. Time will help him heal and prayer. So pray for him daily and have others do the same.
2006-06-06 17:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a hug and silence speak louder than any words. Offer a helping hand in seeing that laundry is kept done, the kitchen cleaned, food put away,as may will probably be stopping in and out. Offer to write thank you's for those that send cards and encouragement. If you're not that close to him, then a simple hug in silence and an honest look in his eyes of heartfelt sympathy can speak lounder than anything else you can give him.
2006-06-06 17:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by dph_40 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy...
My church's youth minister went through something like that. There's nothing you can say that will make it be better. Just tell him you feel sorry for him, tell him she's in a better place, ask if there's anything you can do for him, and then leave. Sticking around talking about it can do more bad then good.
My prayers will be for this man.
2006-06-06 17:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by bradley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the signs of 'the last days' that the Bible foretold was @ 2Tim3:3 about people "having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness". This is why today people are killing their mates and their children. Go to the website: www.watchtower.org to get info on how to comfort grieving persons, and counsel on how to cope with and move on with their life. I seriously hope that the monster who did this is in jail awaiting punishment.
2006-06-06 17:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by trenee10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! is there anything you can say. If I lost one of my kids there would be nothing that anyone could say or do to make me feel better. You just have to go through the grieving process. I don't know who I could go on if I was faced with that. The most important thing is to just be there for them.
2006-06-06 17:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by tohellwitu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. I know what its like to loose a child. Her husband is going to have to live with it as long as he is alive on this earth. Some day he will get his. Sorry for the loss
2006-06-06 17:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Biteme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him anything. You show him your support - friends walk in when everyone else is walking out. Your actions will be more helpful than words.
2006-06-06 17:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by mlgjst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I have no clue that is absolutely horrible...I dont think that there are any words that could explain such terrible act
2006-06-06 17:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_little_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋