Not necessarily talking about just age here. We are at two different points in our lives, that is where I'm afraid there will be a problem. My friends and I have a social scene that revolves largely around bars and other places that 20 year olds can't go, I have graduated from college and have a full time job while he is still deciding what he wants to do as far as school... Should I let these things affect my decision to continue seeing him?
2006-06-06 10:15:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if your maturity levels are compatable and you like him then no... just keep in mind (as you already are) that complications could arise from your differences... but don't let that ruin the present if you are happy.
2006-06-06 10:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by paL 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you both like eachother a lot then you should continue seeing eachother and take care of problems as they come up. Yes he is too young to bar hop - but he'll be 21 in a year. Not only that, but there have to be places you go besides bars and if you really like him you will accomodate. On the up side - you have a designated driver!
The point is, if you really like him it can work. He may be at a different point in his life but that doesn't mean that tomorrow he couldn't figure out what he wants to do - or that next week he wont have a career idea. Date eachother and see what happens, worse comes to worse it doesn't work out and you move on.
2006-06-06 17:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are definitely things to consider. While the age isn't all that big of a difference the points in your life are pretty far apart. Odds are that you two wouldn't work out right now. Maybe in a few years your paths will cross again and the timing will be better.
2006-06-06 17:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends on you, if you look at him as someone you want to get serious with then I would say yes look at this because you are both at different stages in your life and if you are only looking for a playmate I would say have fun and screw it if it doesn't work. If you are trying to be serious it wont work because I am 24 and I was dating a girl who was 21 and she was all over the place as far as jobs and school was concerned and me I already had my career and school completely done so I was tired of the run around.
2006-06-06 17:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, I have meet some men that were maybe like 3 years younger and I tell you they had their life in order, they knew where they were going and knew what they wanted... And I barely see that with men of my age or older.... I think it's how your'e raised also that makes you more mature for your age...At age 20 i was always told that i was so mature for my age... and now that I'm years older (late 20's) people still say that I am mature for my age... It's all about maturity..
2006-06-06 17:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Why 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. My parents are 10 years apart and they have been married for 12 years. In reality, 3 years is no big deal. If you and him are truly happy, then you should start a relationship.
2006-06-06 17:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by julia c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i've always dated older girls. i personally liked it because younger girls play a lot of games. if he's not 21 yet, then perhaps you should hang out with him on weekend or go to 18 and over clubs until he does turn of legal age. if you see something there, then you should stick with him and not let alcohol decide your relationship. if you feel like he's wondering hoplessly at a j.c., and you don't see him having a future for himself or with you, then cut him loose. chances are that you're going to date a lot of other guys than him, so just have fun with him and time will tell you what to do.
2006-06-06 17:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.. if things are meant to be they will work out and everything will be ok.. but rather than the usual bar scene, you might ahve to find some new places to go to but hey.. whats wrong with that.. doing new things is always fun and you leanr new things about yourself
2006-06-06 17:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he make you feel does he put a smile on your face those are the things that matter age is what you make of it, Live,Love,Laugh
2006-06-06 17:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no! acctually not bad at all. my friends grandparents have a 20 year difference so no 3 years aint bad at all!
2006-06-06 17:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by kristen01212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋