He's 19 I'm 16.......Whats wrong with it?

Question

I know i love this boy with all my heart. and I know he loves me too. But nobody wants me to be with him. We started talking when i was 15 and he was 18 turning 19. They made me break up with him but i kept talking to him. we have not had sex yet(im a virgin), and i really dont plan on it yet. He is also willing to wait. Is it wron on my behalf to be with this boy or are mwy people wrong for not letting me be with him

He turns 20 in julyand my peoples are my guardians. and family members

Answer 1

Well I agree with the people because in societies eyes he is an adult and you are a child, even though he is only 3 years older than you, you being 16 makes you a child. Another reason I agree with the people is because many people believe that children such as yourself can be brainwashed into beleiving that they are in love by an older man. As odd as it sounds it is the truth. Men can be manipulating when it comes to younger girls. Good piece of advice, wait till you turn 18 because I promise you will start seeing things different then.

Answer 2

nothing is wrong with it. In fact its a good thing. 16 is a good age to have children. You are only fertile for a glimps of your life. Many americans often figure that out to late in their life. If you want a big family the only way is to start at age 15-17 Also, having children at an older age e.g. in your 30s is hard on the body and lowers your life span. The only person telling you not to have sex at age 16 is MSNBC's Chris Hansen http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3949042/ The current terrorist against sex. Its your life, and your body, your right. At age 16 you are an adult woman. You body is still changing but it will keep changing your whole life. That is no reason not to have sex. As far as the law goes, if you are in the USA it depends on the state you are in. For the most part, the states with under 18 concent have changed to 18+ due to financial pressure of the federal government. So you can either follow that law and grow old and lonely or you can live out your own path and have sex with the man you love. From a realistic perspective, just have sex with who ever you want, if anyone gets in your way, destory them.

Answer 3

When I was 13 I met ex and he was 16. Also three years apart. No one wants you to be him because they are afraid because he is older he just wants to have sex with you-which is not always the case. It's going to be hard proving to your parents that ya should be together, but if you really love him and he really loves you. Girl do what you gotta do. Your parents are just looking out for your best interest but sometimes they can be a little to over protective. You are 16, better then being 13 with a 16 year old boyfriend! Good luck.

Answer 4

i dont think its wrong, but then again, thats an outsiders perspective. is there a particular reason why they dont want you to be with him? is it age related? maturity level? family situation? depending on what the reasons are and who's telling you to breakup with him then you can make a wise decision. if he's a great guy and ppl are just jealous or they think he's too old for you or something, then those are not good reasons AT ALL because you know him better than anyone else and you know YOURSELF better than anyone else. so my advice, is listen to your heart and if he truly does care about you the way youve always wanted someone to care about you, then go for it girl and stick with it cuz you may never come across true love again. age is just a number. i fell in love when i was only 15, and im still in love and im 20.

Answer 5

He is an adult, you are a minor. Though you see nothing wrong you can place him and his parents into a bad position. If your parents choose the can obtain a restraining order on him or worse yet they can sue or have him arrested. I would be very careful if I were you.

I say this because I have a 16 year old daughter as well, and I can assure you that this would not be allowed. Why, because I love her and I do not want harm to come to her.

Answer 6

As long as he is not having sex with a minor I don't see a big problem. The smaller problem is one of you guys living in different worlds. What happens when he is 21 and wants to start going to clubs and having fun drinking and stuff like that? He's gonna wait for you another 3 years. I doubt it. Good luck.

Answer 7

The people who made you break up with him... were they friends??? If so they must be jelous. Your only three years apart! That's no biggie!! What's really gross/wrong is that chick who's 46 and is w/ a 15 year old. That's wrong! I'd start dating that guy again. He sounds sweet... he's willing to wait for you.... not many guys would do that. Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

Statutory rape is what most people are afraid of. Even if you say 'yes' the law still says 'no' and it becomes his fault. So everyone is just being cautious. 3 years isn't a huge deal, but in high school, it's a significant difference. Keep talking, just don't date as much. Try dating people your own age. Once you become an adult, people will stop worrying so much. Best of luck to you both.

Answer 9

It something that your folks see that you donot see.. No your not wrong for being with this guy he is only 19 and your 16 so that no to much of age diffrence. As long as he is willing to wait for sex( which I serious doubt that a 19 old male would do. But if you trust him than go for it..

Answer 10

not wrong, but he is at a different time in his life where his interests and goals will not match up with yours....you both will be much different people a couple years from now...i know you don't want to hear this, but I would bet all the money i have that the two of you will not be together 2 years from now (if not 1)