My bf & I spent the weekend together along with his daughter & mine. Well, he said he wanted me to treat his daughter like I would mine. Well she acted up & I got onto her. Well my bf didn't take too well. We talked about it Monday & he didn't blame me but....I can't help that fact he is still upset about it. Well, he mentioned that we might need to slow down. I sorta agree. We were moving too fast. Anyway, since then he has not call me names that he used to such as baby, gorgeous, sexy....& I expected not to talk as much through the day. We also are still going to the lake with his family & kids. Now this incident happened Sunday. He asked later that day for me to stay one more night & we were intimate. Today I asked him if we were still romantically involved even though we were slowing down & he said yes very excited. Now I am new to dating again since my divorce. Am I reading too much into this & worry for nothing. Do you think we are ok as a couple? Please help! I am freaking out.
2006-06-06 09:31:42 · 15 answers · asked by chellebeth75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rule 1. Dont freak out.
Rule 2. As a new divorcee you must be riddled with apprehensions. Some of them are genuine too but at least try to shed some fears which you think are unnecessary like 'oh what if i lose this relationship'. Relationships are lost and found and you know that.
There is no Rule 3.
Take charge of your life and fix your priorities. It helps if you note these things down. Written words no matter how absurd to look at in the the beginning always have a profound effect on our psyche. Note down what you want from this particular relationship and then discuss the serious part with your partner. Is he just playing around? Make sure you are not used because that is the worst feeling at the end of the day.
And yes, good luck:)
2006-06-06 14:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by qualittee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it at a neutral location during a time when you are both feeling good-preferably no kids around. Explain that you treated his daughter the way you would treat yours and the reason you got onto her was because you want her to grow up being the best she can be, but you feel like maybe you crossed a line and you'd like his thoughts on it. Let him know how much he and his daughter mean to you. Just level with him, but in a kind way, and when he is in a good mood. Don't accuse or blame, just ask how he thinks you could have handled it better. See what he says. Ask how he would have handled the situation with your daughter.
2006-06-06 09:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough! First off, as a mom I wouldn't want someone else parenting my daughter specially if she acted up, I would prefer for the dad to handle the situation. I think you guys still need more time to share as a family before moving on so fast. You should get to know his daughter more if you are really interested in him and the same with your child. Good Luck and just take it one day at a time!
2006-06-06 09:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by dbeautiful1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay. Dont freak. This happens alot with guys. When he said treat his daughter like your own he ment to be comfortable and nurturing around her, not to disipline her. Your taking some of his power, and it makes him nervous. Make up for it by doing what he wants when it comes to his kids. You my have scared his daughter off a little bit too, and you will need to fix that. You are ok as a couple and need to relax a little bit, show your fun side a little bit more. Good luck, and God Bless.
2006-06-06 09:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's going pretty good.He still wants to see you and and you said he seemed excited about it.I'm kinda in your shoes except that we are living together now and we've been together a year.But he has a 6 year old son that needs constant attention.I worry that if I get on to him too much my boyfriend might get offended but he tells me all the time to get onto him if he needs it.Treat him like he is mine, so I do.Hope everything works out for you!! Good luck!!!!
2006-06-06 09:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by j_911_rhoads 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't treat his daughter like she was your own. Only parents have the right to "get into" their kids. Just imagine how you'd feel if the situation was reversed. As parents we are protective of our children and it's natural that your boyfriend reacted by pulling away from you - even though he might not know the reason why he did it. Talk to him about this issue and be extra nice to his daughter when you see her.
2006-06-06 09:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lotte T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 07:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are NOT ok as a couple.... yet. You are moving way too fast, and regardless of what he says, he does not want to accept you as a mother for his kid...face it, we all say things we regret. He regrets saying this. You regret his saying it. Take it easy, make it easy. You are both pushing way to hard to make this work. You are on the rebound, slow down A LOT. You will be transferring feelings you once had for an ex to him, and that is NOT fair...to either of you!
2006-06-06 09:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pissed him off when you got onto his daughter. He didn't mean for you to take it upon yourself to get onto her when he asked you to treat his kid like you would your own. He slowed down that relationship in many aspects except when it comes to sex.
2006-06-06 09:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool, it will likely turn out ok, after it blows over. Lesson learned, never F with anyone elses kids!
2006-06-06 09:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Michael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋