Where in gods name are kids learningthis stuff?????!!!!?

Question

My daughter casually told us the other day on our way back from a family outing the her friend Felicity, was kissing Brody, " you know mom, kissing with the tongue"! These kids are in SENIOR KINDERGARTEN! I thought Holy Shite, what in the name, is going on here. Then there is another kid in the class that seems to think its ok for her to slap, kick,punch, pinch, cuss, spit, and pull on every kid in the class. WHERE ARE THE TEACHERS FOR GOD SAKES?! Should I send my daughter to Catholic school next year where she will learn some rules while at school? Why in gods name do parents allow their children to see that kind of stuff, the kid learned it from somewhere. My husband and I show affection in front of our girls. But we show hugging,smiles, laughter, kisses, not frenching for them to see, that in my opinion should stay in the bedroom, or away from the kids till they know whats good affection and whats just flat out raunchy lust. They are 5 year old kids.

I always read to my children and the tv is never on now that its hot out. I never allow my daughter to watch anything that is sexual or violent, she obviously gets enough of that at school. Should I say something to the teacher, to maybe mention it to these two childrens parents?

Senior kindergarten in Canada is the grade before grade one

Answer 1

You know what is funny? It is always the teacher's fault. Ever think about pointing that finger at the Parent? Every friend I have that went to Catholic school got away with a lot more, and did much worse things than I did. Not a great idea. Good parenting will keep your kid on the right path. Set good strong morals with them and they will stick.

Answer 2

Television is a fairly large part of everything. However:
What in the world is SENIOR kindergarten? Kindergarten only takes one year unless you're not helping your child learn at home and therefore making them stupid.
Catholic school isn't going to change the world, just make your child extremely naive and easy to take advantage of once they get out of school and into the real world. Teach your child right from wrong and let the fate of the other children's morals be their parents and the teacher's responsibility. Also, did your daughter see Felicity kiss Brody? Felicity could just think that kissing is cool and so she's telling everyone that she does it. Little kids brag about things they think are cool. Maybe she picked these ideas up from an older sibling. As far as the hitter goes, the teacher can be there to tell the child isn't not ok and stop the child, but if it's not reinforced at home every night and on the weekend then everyday it's like starting over from scratch.

Some people are just bad parents.

Answer 3

Can't blame everything on TV. Kids copy what adults do, I'm sure they've seen people making out at least once or twic while out it public. Just because you didn't notice it doesn't mean they didn't. That type of stuff is also just human nature. I remember one nap time when I was in Kindergarden where this other girl and I just layed there kissing for 10 minutes while the teacher was gone. No idea why though.

Answer 4

Televison, Movies, their friends and sorry to say, but ignorant parents who don't see this is possible. It still shocks me when parents think their kids won't see or do certain things, LOL.
Catholic school is no different, I went to both so I know. In many cases it could be worse. Catholic school kept us so locked up all the time that we wanted to break out a 3pm and be free and get in trouble.
You need to sit and talk with your child about why this is bad and don't just blame the media or other kids either. Take responsibility and teach your kids right from wrong now.

Answer 5

The kids learn this "behaviour" from television. Almost every show at night, there is some one swapping spit with the opposite sex.

As for the disruptive child, the Parents havent disciplined the child enough and expect the School to be the ones to do it, or, the child may have ADD or other Social aspects that are as yet undocumented.

No, I wouldnt put my kid in Catholic School, (we did that, and it was a disaster), they are too 'regimented', and my kid cried every day when he came home... When we put him in Public School System, he was an A student then!!

If your kid didnt grow up in a Catholic home, then it will be a total shock to them when they go there and dont know the routines and are expected to do a lot of strange things that you may not care for!

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 6

Yeah that's just little scary right there. But who knows what the other kids in their class are exposed to; they may not have parents like you and apparently the teachers are definitely lacking. If things like this continue then I would definitely talk to your daughter's principal and see what he/she has to say about this. I think once he realizes what's going on there's going to be some major changes to the way her school is run since the younger kids are exposed to things like that the more infectious it gets in their heads later on. This can lead to drug/alcohol use and suspensions from school once they are in high school and may very well lead to some of those children having felony records as adults. The chances don't look good so you may want to consider relocating your daughter for a while next year whether it be to a Catholic school (teachers/kids should be much better) or simply moving to another town that's not too close to the town you live in now since periods of violence like that are likely to infect the entire area of towns once they get to a certain age, right around middle school I believe. So you will want to consider relocating your daughter for further education eventually since it could get a lot worse than this.

Answer 7

well I know it hurts to hear this but children usually pick up on those things (most of the time bad habits) from adults. Children are incredibly impressionable, they idolize anyone older than them, and they will always follow the "crowd" I know because I'm only 18 and I can remember doing things like giving the finger, cussing, and wanting to smoke because I had seen my parents do it. Plus children are a lot smarter and perceptive these days. They will think that if they see a large number of people doing something then it has to be OK to do and it has to be cool. Put that with their natural talent to be curious, and constant immersion in pop culture, you get your answer.

Answer 8

Most children learn from the example of their parents and what they are allowed to experience from their associates, which includes movies, TV, books, Internet, you name it-those are all association, and can influence them. I had a lady I work with tell me about her daughter, who is 8. She had a friend over for a visit and the other little girl, who is the same age, asked her if she had ever been with any men, then proceeded to tell her daughter that she had already 'been with' 3!!!

Answer 9

This kind of knowledge is being learned much earlier nowadays, mostly due to television and movies. No matter how hard we try to protect our little ones, some of this is going to get through to them. Also, private schools will not make any difference, I promise. We have a lot of friends with their kids in Catholic schools who have the same problems.

Answer 10

I know its disgusting ..Be forewarned...dont allow sleep overs till 10yr! If we had a catholic school here my kid would be in it. The public schools are like sending your kid to nyc timesquare alone with a snack and a kiss. You have no idea what goes on in other people homes ..the children live it and are a result of it