stupid really?

Question

Here is the scoop-
I am "seeing" this guy who lives about 3 hours away. We have dated in the past when I lived in his town, and he broke it off when things started going the way of a serious relationship. We did not speak for almost a year, and then by way of a friend we happened to see eachother at a party and have resumed this "hanging out." He is currently teaching full time and in the end stages of getting his master's degree in special ed and therefore does not have much time for me, which I can't get mad at. However, my feelings for him have gone beyond the casual environment of our relationship and I feel I am too old for this whole "weekend lover" thing. He tells me that he truly looks forward to our time together, and that he misses me, and wants to see me again. I really like him and have heard that he really likes me but since he's not sure of what he wants to do (he may move to NYC in a year) he doesn't want to admit it..suggestions?

Answer 1

he doesn't need a girl yet, wait 'till he gets his master's degree and check back..if he probably doesn't have another girlfriend by then, which most likely he will.

Answer 2

What I hear is he has a life and you don't....which if that is the case it would be a good thing only if he were to ask you to join him...It just seems like he has a plan and your not in it...it be one thing if after getting his masters he was coming your way or you his...but I don't hear that...I can only offer advice that you should discuss where you fit in all this sooner than later...and if he hasn't given it much thought , I'd walk away from this relationship because your not included in any future plans with him.

Answer 3

Breaking it all the way down. The 1st time around you were humped and dumped. Now that he ran into you again, you want to go back for seconds. Like is like satin, love is like silk. You treat your silks a lot better than satin. If he really loved you and could not change his plans for NY, he would be working overtime to get you to go there too. Since he is not, it appears he wants to get back together to relive old times(most likely old bedroom times) I would tell him I would keep in touch, and when he has time to slow from the chase of the sheepskin, then we would hang more and can make plans and go from there.

Answer 4

He doesn't sound like he's putting much thought into your so-called relationship. He's going to school and may be moving to another state. His priorities are on his future and sorry to say it doesn't look like you're a part of it right now. Give it some time and see what happens.

Answer 5

Cut your losses, Let him do the work if its ment to be. What would you tell Mr. Right if you meet him tonight, "Could you wait a minute while this other guy figures out what he wants?" That is not going to work. Cut your losses, be in the right position for Mr. Right, and see if this guy gets his act together. In the ends its about whats best for you.

Answer 6

If he doesn't admit it then his feelings either aren't real or aren't deep. If he doesn't have time for you now, then it will be worse when he gets a job and moves up to NYC. He doesn't deserve you, and you need to break it off before it gets too crazy to end. Find someone who has time for you.

Answer 7

let him know that you are behind him 100% no matter what decision he makes but it is only fair for him to tell you the truth.

Answer 8

if this guy really likes u the situation will sort it self out

Answer 9

You should try to move on it seems he has