Iam widow 2yrs, I want to marry again,but this is fast,he has smothered me for past 3 days,and I try to tell him slow down,but he gets hurt,said it was love at first sight for him,Help! dont want to hurt him,but also want to be sure too..
2006-06-06 09:12:38 · 25 answers · asked by kgrl360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi it's me..... so will you marry me or not?
2006-06-18 14:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by punchpringle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting a husband is not like buying a big screen. You can't just take it back or unload it on Ebay if it doesn't suit your life style. He may feel like he is in love. But i suspect anyone who says they had love at 1st sight. Where is the commitment? There was no testing of it. many like the others personality, their joke, the way they look. And it makes them happy so they think they are in love. Next time you are with him bring up some potentially negative aspects you might have and see how he responds when it sinks in he is getting that as part of the deal. What if you had 5 cats and he don't like cats? Has he thought that far? what if you told him it will be his job to clean the bathroom and load the dish washer because you hate those jobs? Would be bristle? Give him a dose of reality and see how he handles it. And if he is smothering, give him a double dose back and see how he likes it. Insist on checking out his e-mails, bank accounts etc. And see how he deals with that. If anything it will open up talk that since he do not like this or that, you have stuff you don't care for either.
2006-06-06 09:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw, it isn't too soon...after all, you are in a virtual love affair...anything goes. BUT don't go running off to meet him, give him no money, no house, no car, no clothes...that will be the next thing you will hear...about his bad luck. Don't be a fool, regardless of how lonely you are...women are very easy targets when they are lonely. It is as if their entire brain breaks down and goes looney. You are about 1/2 step away from that point. Now shape up, get your act together, and get out more! This guy is a serious controller, bet on it! I cannot believe you are really in this situation...you know better.
2006-06-06 09:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Give that man some better breaks...or a break in general! Always be weary of guys that are that fast. I mean its always a good thing when a guy is willing to get married, but sometimes too willing is bad. It sounds just like he wants a wife at this point and you don't want that. It would be so much better to find somebody that loves you for you and not your xx chromosomes
2006-06-06 09:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very needy! I have been divorced for 3 years and just started dating. I can only imagine how freaked out you must be by all of this. Remember to trust your gut, if it feels wrong, it is wrong. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, tell him the truth and if he can't handle it, this isn't the guy you want to be with anyway. Good luck.
2006-06-18 03:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a wacko ... best to avoid him like the plague!!! Stalker in the making type, watch out. This guy has issues... don't stick around to find out what they are.... run as fast as you can. If he starts stalking you start a log of everything he does and take it to the police. Do a background check on the guy... you might find out he just got out of prison. Listen to the doubt you have and get out!
2006-06-17 08:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's too fast. He's probably desprate in Love. Not saying that you're not a good catch, but right now he's going through a time where he wants someone to love him as much as he would love them.
2006-06-06 09:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't know anything about his temperment, and how he treats women or anything about his background, or lifestyle (did he just murder someone he met previously online?...does he like something you absolutely hate?)....Love comes from two people getting to know someone and being willing to grow together and eventually become as one. It CAN'T happen at first sight. He is lying to you or to himself or both. It may feel like love, but it isn't. you guys don't even know if you like each other...it is what is called lust! or infatuation....nothing that can last a lifetime.
2006-06-06 09:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by pheonixardent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually worked with a lady that her husband proposed to her on their first date and their still married with three kids. Odd but true. As a matter of fact I don't think he was divorced yet I think he was still in the process of divorcing his wife (first wife). So to soon that just depends on you.
2006-06-06 09:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that if he wants to go the distance, he has to slow down so that you are comfortable with it as well.
Yes, as of now it is too fast and probably not real.
2006-06-06 09:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is be very suspicious about his motives. Best advice I can give you, best to stay away from people who claim to fall in love so easily.
Uh, not that it really matters, but did you get the ring appraised? hehe It just might be as fake as he is.
2006-06-17 20:13:45 · answer #11 · answered by jimmyweda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋